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"Stop wallowing in your insecurities"

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[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif][size=small]Ok, right. I'm listening. But here's something I've noticed. [/font][/size]

[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif][size=small]Chads never have insecurities[/font][/size]

[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif][size=small]I've never seen a single insecure Chad in my entire life. I've never seen a Chad develop insecurities. I've never seen a Chad trying to fix his insecurities. [/font][/size]

[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif][size=small]Heck, I've not even seen a single shy Chad in my entire life. When there is a boisterous, high-energy dude around pursuing (and getting) women, it's always a handsome, tall jock. It's never an ugly dwarf with a great personality. A little strange isn't it. Why wouldn't the ugly dwarf simply "stop wallowing" and "develop some confidence"? Why doesn't the ugly dwarf simply imitate Chad? What is he waiting for? [/font][/size]

[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif][size=small]Why is it that the only people who get accused of "wallowing" on the internet are always ugly or short men? [/font][/size]

[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif][size=small]I have a crazy hypothesis: maybe insecurity is caused by an actual problem and not your imagination? 

If you feel insecure about your financial future, maybe that's because you're actually broke, and you should start saving up?

If you feel insecure about being killed by a bear in your wood cabin, maybe that's because there are actually bears roaming around? 

If you feel insecure about your looks, maybe that's because you're actually, objectively, physically repulsive, and you know your chances of success are too low to warrant making the effort? 

Wow... Mind-blowing stuff I've just discovered.
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RE: "Stop wallowing in your insecurities."

The problem is that there's way too many bitchy prima donas who feign insecurity in order to garner sympathy. And unfortunately those of us with legitimate, well grounded insecurities get lumped in with them and dismissed.
 
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RE: "Stop wallowing in your insecurities."

NegroKing said:
The problem is that there's way too many bitchy prima donas who feign insecurity in order to garner sympathy. And unfortunately those of us with legitimate, well grounded insecurities get lumped in with them and dismissed.

Yeah, mentalcels and attention whoring do a lot of damage to actual deformed people.
 
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RE: "Stop wallowing in your insecurities."

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Yeah, mentalcels and attention whoring do a lot of damage to actual deformed people.

Yeah but I think that legit mentalcels are just as screwed as we are. I mean autism and serious psychiatric issues from trauma are also serious causes for insecurity(and inceldom). The problem is those people who don't have mental issues but claim they do.
 
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RE: "Stop wallowing in your insecurities."

That's the thing, nobody ever stops to ask why we have these insecurities in the first place.

We didn't wake up one morning and say "Wow, I'm hideous!" or "No girl will ever date me!" We were taught to be insecure through our interactions with people. We were constantly bullied, rejected, and made to feel unwanted and inferior since we were very young; that doesn't just go away.
 
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RE: "Stop wallowing in your insecurities."

Minjaze said:
That's the thing, nobody ever stops to ask why we have these insecurities in the first place.
We didn't wake up one morning and say "Wow, I'm hideous!" or "No girl will ever date me!" We were taught to be insecure through our interactions with people. We were constantly bullied, rejected, and made to feel unwanted and inferior since we were very young; that doesn't just go away.

Normies and bluepill therapists will deny that the roots of your insecurities are looks-based bullying / rejections.

Once I've even had a therapist who tried to explain the insecurities I felt about my body were due to how my parents raised me, lol. I'm pretty sure it had more to do with the humiliations I suffered in middle school.
 
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Insecurity is a sign of self awareness. If you are insecure then your brain understands there is something fundamentally wrong with you.
 
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incelman said:
Insecurity is a sign of self awareness. If you are insecure then your brain understands there is something fundamentally wrong with you.

This. Being insecure is a survival mechanism inherited from Evolution.

In the distant past, making a bold sexual or social move while too ugly/weak/sick to be able to challenge the alpha ape could have gotten you ripped apart.

That's where insecurity comes from. That's why everybody, still to this day, is self-conscious about his body.
 
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Fontaine said:
This. Being insecure is a survival mechanism inherited from Evolution.

In the distant past, making a bold sexual or social move while too ugly/weak/sick to be able to challenge the alpha ape could have gotten you ripped apart.

That's where insecurity comes from. That's why everybody, still to this day, is self-conscious about his body.

If you have doubts about the way you look then you can be sure that they are there for a good reason.
 
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It is impossible to be confident and ugly without status or money.
 
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Blackpill101 said:
It is impossible to be confident and ugly without status or money.

It is, if you're delusional or have extremely high baseline serotonin/dopamin. But your success rate will be abysmal.
 
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It's only possible for me to forget about my insecurities for very short amounts of time, usually a week to 10 days tops. And it's very sporadic, I go months feeling like shit.

One trick to help if you feel ugly is to just forget about your face. I mean you aren't your face, or your foot, or your eyes, you get the idea. 

I treat everyone exactly the same regardless of their looks, so I try to remember that there are people that do the same.

Like I said this only works for a short time and I don't see how I'll ever feel "normal" permanently.
 
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