TeeHee [Soyditt] I think my daughter might be incel

[ilieknothing]

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I think my daughter is an incel.

I never thought I'd be in a situation like this, especially not as a parent. But here I am, worried that my daughter, let's call her Sarah, might be what many people refer to as an "incel." Just venting here, I guess.

Sarah is 19 and has always been a bit of a loner, but she's intelligent, passionate about her hobbies (legos), and when she opens up, she's incredibly insightful. Over the past three years, however, I've noticed a significant change in her attitude and behavior. She's become bitter, angry, and often expresses a deep resentment towards her peers, especially when it comes to their relationships and social lives. She is jealous of a lot of what they get to do and accomplish. Meanwhile, she is too depressed to enroll in college. We are just letting her have this time to sort things out, and not pressure her.

At first, I thought it was just standard teenage angst or perhaps depression, so we tried therapy. But it wasn't until I accidentally stumbled upon her discord that I realized the extent of the issue. Sarah is deeply involved in some very troubling online communities. These groups echo a lot of mysogynst rhetoric, blaming others for their lack of romantic relationships and harboring a lot of anger towards people who are "more successful" in love and life. She's in an "incel ladies" group. It was disgusting to me.

I've tried to talk to her about it, but she's very defensive. She believes these people are her only friends who truly understand her. It breaks my heart to see her so consumed by negativity and hate, withdrawing further from the real world and our family.

I know that simply banning her from these thingsor confronting her will only push her further away. I'm scared of alienating her but more terrified of what this path might lead her down. She's already expressed resentment towards interventions, viewing them as attempts to control or change her.

Just trying to suport her. We are getting her involved in a church group but she isn't very keen on it.


EDIT:

There have been so, so many comments. This is overwhelming. To the vast majority of you trying to be helpful, I thank you. I posted this to vent, so all the advice is a lot but I do appreciate it. You are right that my daughter is an adult now, and doesn't need my partner's permission to get tested for autism. She is just so dependent on us, so I honestly never thought about her being an adult I guess. She is. I will do everything in my power to get her help, without chastising her. And we'll take the church thing off the table for now. I just wanted her to be around some kids that have goals and accomplishements without being clicky and judgemental.

 

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[InVideoGame]

>Foid
>Incel

 

[Darth Aries]

 

[Diddy]

I can fix that for her

 

[Incel.Belgrade]

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[Skelly]

>daughter showing clear signs of autism
>inkwells did this

 

[AutistSupremacist]

>daughter showing clear signs of autism
>inkwells did this

Always our damn fault jfl

 

[Kimchicel]

>Foid
>Incel

 

[Neucher The Kanga]

These groups echo a lot of mysogynst rhetoric, blaming others for their lack of romantic relationships and harboring a lot of anger towards people who are "more successful" in love and life.

This has to be a larp come on

 

[Skelly]

This has to be a larp come on

i dont know how anyone takes r/self seriously jfl

 

[TOP_5_KANGA]

>Foid
>Incel

 

[Neucher The Kanga]

These groups echo a lot of mysogynst rhetoric, blaming others for their lack of romantic relationships

Honestly this makes me think it's real. No man talks like this

 

[LonelyATM]

girl must a whale to be single as female this day and age.

 

[Myst]

 

[BlueCore]

Larp

 

[VersoffenerAssi]

girl must a whale to be single as female this day and age.

Even a landwhale has dozens, if not hundreds of simps who are at least normies with looks above 5.
It's always Chad who refuses to fuck them.

 

[Caesercel]

Femceldom is possible. They are all volcels though

 

[Cope or die]

Even a landwhale has dozens, if not hundreds of simps who are at least normies with looks above 5.
It's always Chad who refuses to fuck them.

Femceldom is possible. They are all volcels though

If they're volcel/femcel its invalid.

 

[Caesercel]

If they're volcel/femcel its invalid.

Maybe but there are still perma parternerless foids out there

 

[over_department]

>Foid
>Incel

 

[Grey Man]

>Foid
>Incel

 

[Shaktiman]

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Sleeping Dogs?

 

[VintageCarCoper]

I can fix her problem