I try to not make it be about validation. There was another post on here talking about how the only way to feel good is through lots of validation. I was looking for it to respond no, it's not what you think. Yes, praise and getting credit feels good. It's a nice feeling. But there is a dark side to that. Look at rock stars/famous people, they get a high, they get in with certain crowds, they get fucked up on drugs, they have no off switch. Go and read the stories of this happening to people who don't have the sense or maturity to stop. It's not all that cracked up to be.
And then on a lighter but more annoying note, imagine having to deal with mmm, a 70-90% of people who either through needy anxiety or not being able to stop and pay attention for 2 fucking seconds or someone looking to have their fucking ass kissed cause they never really grew the fuck up and/or aren't being used to told no and/or go fuck yourself, and they try to suck you into their own personal orbit of stupid fucking bullshit and when you resist and tell them no, they can turn on you like a rabid dog over the pettiest of shit. All in the name of "validation". Yeah. It's not all you think it is.
I was not always the most matured kid, I was/am a lonely bastard for a long time, but I long knew and could see the issues with it all being about "validation". Granted I spent alot of time alone thinking I knew better, but yeah, don't make that the focus if you ask me.