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Sleepmaxxing and sigmas: How incel terminology infiltrated pop culture

The niche language of incels has permeated social media, schools and even beauty standards. So, how did it become normalised?

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Ten years ago, using language from the incel community in regular conversation would land you with a couple of weird looks and an awkward silence. And for good reason: the hyper-online, seemingly nonsensical phrases of the involuntarily celibate community were specifically constructed for gatekeeping. An “if you know, you know” lexicon meant to distinguish the true incels (“truecels”) from the regular people (“normies”). Nowadays, joking about being “walkpilled” online will land you a laugh. In schools, being a “sigma” could make you popular. As a woman, “looksmaxxing” promises to teach you how to be more beautiful.

While incels were once relegated to dark corners of the internet, figureheads like Andrew Tate have brought them out into the light. In 2025, the Netflix series Adolescence drove the conversation even further, introducing even the most un-online individuals to the concept of being “blackpilled” (where you fully accept incel ideology) or “the 80/20 rule” (the belief that 80 per cent of women are attracted to the top 20 per cent of men).

Yet incel terminology can regularly be heard on our For You Pages, in our playgrounds, and coming out of the mouths of women, the group it was originally designed to denigrate.
“You get a lot of ‘sigma’ and ‘Chad’,” says east London secondary school teacher Jack*, who has noticed incel-adjacent phrases in use since he first started working in schools four years ago.

The terms are primarily uttered by boys, but also some girls, says Jack. “It’s just part of their joke vocabulary, where the actual meaning is lost, or at least that’s what I hope,” Jack adds. “When I first started my PGCE, the year nines and up would use it a bit more genuinely; they actually put a lot more onus on those words, especially when Andrew Tate was more prevalent. Now, the year sevens and eights just use it as silly, goofy language, like all year sevens and eights do. With time, more people are saying it, but it’s lost its potency.”

“Within the incel community itself, language serves the same function as language in a cult: It’s a recruitment tool creating an ‘us versus them’ mentality,” writes Adam Aleksic in Algospeak: How Social Media is Transforming the Future of Language. “I would argue that, if anything, the incel example is very important to understand, for it has probably contributed more to the development of ‘modern slang’ than any other online community.”

In Amanda Montell’s 2024 book The Age of Magical Overthinking, she highlights the rise of “doomslang”, where serious phrases like “I want to kill myself” and “I’m dissociating” have become commonplace. In Algospeak, Aleksic points out that one of 2025’s favourite phrases, “It’s so over” (the other side of the coin to “We are so back”), originally emanates from incel forums.

Aleksic warns it may not be that simple. “On incel sites, longtime truecels use the terms ‘Newgen’ and ‘Tiktokcel' to describe those who only recently joined their forums from short-form video platforms,” he writes in Algospeak. “The Incels Wiki lists the looks-maxxing trend on TikTok as a primary driver of this recent incel influx, meaning that the meme pipeline has had at least some efficacy in making the blackpill more accessible.” In other words, incel terminology becoming mainstream has introduced it to a new audience, some of whom are curious to learn more.

Over on TikTok, a section of the incel school of thought known as “lookism” has infiltrated female beauty standards. Lookism is the incel belief that “people associate aesthetic appearance with all sorts of positive qualities” and that it is “brutal lookism that keeps [incels] from getting any matches” (as per Incel Wiki).

Classic incel lookism concepts include pseudoscientific standards like ‘interocular distance,’ ‘canthal tilt,’ and ‘hunter eyes.’

In Emily Klein and Jennifer Golbeck’s 2024 paper A Lexicon for Studying Radicalisation in Incel Communities, they note that classifying incel language can help with “tracking the frequency of this type of language over time for specific users.” Much like tracking other extremist groups online, this can help to identify individuals most likely to carry out misogynistic violent extremist attacks. But if everyone’s using incel terminology, this muddies the waters.

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[ESL]

 

[Cnidoblastos]

kek
sleepmaxxing is based

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

OY VEY GOY YOUNG PEOPLE NEVER USED TERMS TO DESCRIBE POSITION IN A HIERARCHY BEFORE 2025!

OY VEY GOY HIERARCHIES DID NOT EXIST BEFORE 2025!

OY VEY!

 

[The Notorious SLAV]

I love how the article softly pushes that "looksmaxxing" is only for women and doesn't mention that we hate Tiktokcels, and actually makes it sound like we want them and are happy about their existence. Hard not to notice the subtle lies and narrative pushing like that at this point.

 

[Elektro]

Normies have no fuckin' clue.

 

[anotherwastedlife]

OY VEY GOY YOUNG PEOPLE NEVER USED TERMS TO DESCRIBE POSITION IN A HIERARCHY BEFORE 2025!

OY VEY GOY HIERARCHIES DID NOT EXIST BEFORE 2025!

OY VEY!

 

[Oneitiscel]

I love how the article softly pushes that "looksmaxxing" is only for women and doesn't mention that we hate Tiktokcels, and actually makes it sound like we want them and are happy about their existence.

“On incel sites, longtime truecels use the terms ‘Newgen’ and ‘Tiktokcel' to describe those who only recently joined their forums from short-form video platforms,”

Newgen? Tiktokcel? What blatant libel! More like newfag & looksfag. Those are the terms I see used the most around here. Maybe they are just getting their data off of looksmaxxing communities instead? Wouldn't surprise me at all. One thing all these all these journalists who write about us seem to have in common is that they are very incompetent at their studying. Lots of inaccurate statements & superficial fearmongering.

 

[The Notorious SLAV]

One thing all these all these journalists who write about us seem to have in common is that they are very incompetent at their studying. Lots of inaccurate statements & superficial fearmongering.

It's almost like they are actively trying to not understand us.

 

[femcelbreedingnig]

I just wanna be your sweetheart

Classic incel lookism concepts include pseudoscientific standards like ‘interocular distance,’ ‘canthal tilt,’ and ‘hunter eyes.’

People lose credibility when they spew shit like this. Disingenuous. That’s on top of the andrew tate cringe

I love how the article softly pushes that "looksmaxxing" is only for women and doesn't mention that we hate Tiktokcels, and actually makes it sound like we want them and are happy about their existence. Hard not to notice the subtle lies and narrative pushing like that at this point.

probably being looksmaxing.com exists

One thing all these all these journalists who write about us seem to have in common is that they are very incompetent at their studying. Lots of inaccurate statements & superficial fearmongering.

Makes you question all the other shit you read online, not just news.

 

[synapzyzz]

the worst thing that could've ever happened to this community was when "it" went mainstream on tiktok with the looksmaxxing memes, oh boy, how much i wish it never went mainstream, been in and out of these forums since 2015, it was better when none of this was mainstream, all sense of the vocab and overall meaning has been lost.

 

[Caichan]

 

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