“Men are lonely because they’re insufferable to be around.”
Cool story. So you're telling me that in every generation before this one, men were somehow magically less insufferable—and women just put up with them? No. Women didn’t suddenly raise their standards because men got worse. They raised their standards because they could, not because the men changed. The dating pool didn’t decline in male quality—it got distorted by choice overload, social media inflation, and a hypergamous mating culture where 80% of women chase the top 10–20% of men.
“Women don’t need men anymore for material security.”
True. And yet somehow, despite that independence, rates of female antidepressant use, therapy dependence, and relationship dissatisfaction are skyrocketing. Maybe women don’t “need” men in the hunter-gatherer sense—but clearly, the idea that they're thriving solo is a narrative, not a fact. If men are obsolete, why is everyone—men and women both—so miserable?
“Now men are competing only on character, and they’re failing.”
False. Men are competing on everything: looks, money, status, height, charm, emotional intelligence, humor, clout, jawline, and now even ideological compliance. And guess what? Character is one of the least rewarded traits in the current dating market. Women aren't choosing “good men.” They’re choosing exciting, high-value men—which is degenerate, but don’t pretend that character is the only metric.
The reason men are lonely isn’t because they “failed.” It’s because the mating system has collapsed into a brutal, winner-takes-all dynamic—powered by apps, porn, short-term thinking, and hyper-selectivity. If women want only the best of the best, fine. But don’t blame average men for a system that tells them they’re invisible by default.
Loneliness isn’t a moral failure. It’s the natural byproduct of a society that destroyed every structure that used to give average men a chance.
