Lin says:
March 19, 2021
just be an adult and put the glass away?
You don’t do it even ONCE of your own volition? You’re being stubborn because you want to be agreed with so you engage in passive-aggressive behavior when your significant other is saying, in actual words, to just put it away?
You don’t know that it hurts even though your significant other said it hurts and is in tears?
you care more about company than you care about your significant other?
Yikes.
Seems like, even though you had time to reflect and you’ve divorced, you’re still making excuses and trying to rationalize your behavior after the fact.
In this entry you still managed to make it an issue because women process differently or because she wanted acknowledgement and appreciation.
Maybe she wanted someone who wasn’t such a passive-aggressive manchild who wouldn’t put a single dish away on a daily basis because what? He’s a man that desperately needs to be right? He doesn’t respect her opinion but gladly caves when guests are over (which means she was right in the first place)?
Christ. A mess.
I hope you’ve grown, buddy. And I hope your toxic coaching hasn’t damaged any other relationships the way you did yours.
Jesus.
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Matt says:
March 19, 2021
It was written more than five years ago, Lin. I share your lack of enthusiasm for my word choices and some of the ideas shared. It’s not very good. People just keep sharing it anyway. I’m sorry.
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Patrick Langston says:
March 19, 2021
Really? Last we spoke you said you were chosen for 15 different book awards and everyone wanted to publish your awful advice. It’s was sort of your way of proving to me that you were right “look, high status people agree with me I must be right” appeal to authority it’s called. But all of a sudden a month or two after you now realize you advice is terrible huh? What did it take you to realize that?
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- Matt says:
March 19, 2021
I’m burying a parent this week, Patrick. I don’t have room in my life for internet-arguing with Lin or you or anyone else, and I don’t want to.
If you want to have a philosophical conversation about my “advice,” I’d prefer it be based on what I discuss with coaching clients, and what I’ve written in, say, the past six months.
Sorry the comments on a five-year-old blog post mean so much to you. Maybe there’s a more effective way of sharing your ideas with people than investing in my old blog posts.
Because you don’t know what I believe or talk to people about. But you think you do. If you ever want to actually know instead of think, you just tell me.
But not this week, please.
Maybe we can all pour a drink and have a laugh about something and go outside instead of being dicks on the internet.
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- Patrick Langston says:
March 19, 2021
Who’s house will we be at? Will you be washing your glass this time around?
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- Maude says:
March 19, 2021
Patrick, you’re being an asshole.
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- Lea Ann Mallett says:
April 27, 2021
Agreed, and I am a woman who wants that glass put away simply as a symbol of respect and acknowledgement…
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