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Theory Relationships without an age disparity is a sign of narcissism

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I came across this thread on Reddit:


View: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/comments/17hs503/am_i_gonna_start_finding_older_women_physically/


One of the top replies implies that attraction is fundamentally a process of admiring your own reflection, which is, of course, narcissistic in essence:

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This seems to be a trend in modern soyciety, where modern couples are attracted to each other not out of a fascination for any differences which might complement their deficits, for example, but out of a drive to achieve incestuous similarity:


A study on romantic relationships found that for more than 80% of traits analysed – from political views to drug taking and the age at which people first had sex – partners were often remarkably similar.
According to the research, between 82% and 89% of traits examined were similar among partners, with only 3% ranking as substantially different.
Couples were likely to share a similar birth year, and show similarities in terms of less well-studied traits such as how many sexual partners they had had and whether they were breastfed as a baby.

It must be due to the same social processes which have resulted in political polarization and the ghettoization of discourse. Our soyciety has all the worst and most destabilizing aspects of diversity, combined with all the worst and most stifling aspects of homogeneity tbh
 
its not narcissism its COPE
 
its not narcissism its COPE
It's cope when men have to pretend as though younger women are not more attractive. But cope doesn't explain why there aren't even moderate age disparities in modern relationships, and people tend to seek out their exact clones.

It must even be a shock to Shlomo, since even interracial relationships are rare because of this!
 
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An evolutionary psychologist would say that this is explicated by the difference between short term and long term mating strategies, where the short-term maters are more interested in novelty (so as to achieve offspring with many different types of genetic expression and thus maximize the chances of any surviving in a chaotic environment), and the long-term maters are more interested in similarity/compatibility (to ensure the survival of fewer offspring through increased paternal investment in a stable environment).

It would be interesting to apply a sociological lens to this insofar as short-term mating is very common among the youth, and it's only when people get older (more cognizant of their mortality, perhaps, or otherwise beleaguered by life) that they "settle down."

For example, the average roastie spends her teens and early twenties fucking all different types of Chads, but by her late 20s/early 30s "settles down" with a Billy who much closer resembles her own personality. But, of course, being a Chad orphan makes her a very horrible wife who ends up divorce raping her Billy (perhaps due to a projection of the self-loathing that Chads caused her)
 
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Lines up with women preferring men around their age while male age preference is pretty static
 
An evolutionary psychologist would say that this is explicated by the difference between short term and long term mating strategies, where the short-term maters are more interested in novelty (so as to achieve offspring with many different types of genetic expression and thus maximize the chances of any surviving in a chaotic environment), and the long-term maters are more interested in similarity/compatibility (to ensure the survival of fewer offspring through increased paternal investment in a stable environment).
A very interesting article in this regard:


The dark triad (DT) traits are differentially related to psychometrically assessed life history strategy (LHS), such that psychopathy is strongly associated with a faster LHS, whereas narcissism appears to be, if anything, a slow LHS indicator

Understanding narcissism as a slow Life History Strategy (i.e., long-term mating strategy), would confirm the theorem in the OP
 
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So I’m a light triad empath if I prefer jbs over roasties my age?
 
i'm 22 and 14-16 year olds don't look like kids to me. the life stage of my youth was stolen away from me so i desire a younger femoid in an attempt to relive that.
 
So I’m a light triad empath if I prefer jbs over roasties my age?
Empath = BPD, who like folx younger than them only because they were molested as a child :feelshaha:
 
I didn’t know this term is associated with BPDs tbh
"Empaths" basically describe having intense neuroticism, and being overly-sensitive.

It's not unlike how many autistic people say "well ackchyually, autistic folx do not lack empathy; we are actually very empathetic" when all that means to them is being emotional nutcases :feelshaha:
 
It would be interesting to apply a sociological lens to this insofar as short-term mating is very common among the youth, and it's only when people get older (more cognizant of their mortality, perhaps, or otherwise beleaguered by life) that they "settle down."
Prominent among the considerations here is the fact that young people in Western soyciety lack any real type of social structure or direction besides the school to wageslave pipeline. This makes their social/mating environment effectively chaotic (indeed, their peers change from elementary to middle to high school to college and then through their various early-adult workplaces).

This would incentivize short term mating strategies by nature, since everything social at this stage of life is short-term! Indeed, at this stage of life, people cannot even possibly retain the same mating partner for very long without entering into a long distance relationship (classically, as during the transition from high school to college when many high school boyfriends and girlfriends get physically separated), and long distance relationships are the very definition of a narcissistic relationship: to love an image from afar, and project your own qualities onto it.

Contrast this situation to when folx get older. Their environment would tend to stabilize for them as they figure capitalist soyciety out and achieve their economic potential (indeed, this happens for folx by about their late 20s and early 30s!). Unfortunately, though, this "socio-economic stability" really just represents an intensified form of social alienation, with many studies attesting to the fact that people at this age lose a great degree of the social connections they previously had, fleeting as even those were :feelshaha:

And much like a lonely person's only comfort is to talk to themselves, a narcissist's only comfort (narcissism as induced by the trauma of repeated early life social separations from peers and romantic separations from mates) would be to find an exact replica of themselves to make this talking to themselves, and indeed fucking themselves, much more convincing to their egos as a sign of their worthiness since technically there is someone else's flesh involved.

This doesn't even go into the rearing of children as pets/clones of their parents, which is indicated by the epidemic of idiosyncratic, pet-tier names for modern children. Superficially/nominally special yet essential replications, a sign of the culture of narcissism :feelsugh:

I speculate that folx never truly get over their first loves, and in the process of mentally reeling over the separation from their first loves, this naturally induces narcissism as a psychological defense. Since who that love actually was becomes indistinct from who you are, as you hold onto them in your mind, and they become fused with your own self. Indeed, an extreme form of this very process leads to transsexuality.
 
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I have both due to social anxiety so that means I’m an empath too?
The point is that "empath" is a meaningless term.

Someone who is intensely sensitive to the emotional states of others (particularly negative emotional cues), yet cannot "read the room" or navigate a relationship with self-efficacy cannot be called very empathetic. Since empathy implies not just emotional sensitivity but a great degree of emotional intuition too.
 
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The point is that "empath" is a meaningless term.

Someone who is intensely sensitive to the emotional states of others (particularly negative emotional cues), yet cannot "read the room" or navigate a relationship with self-efficacy cannot be called very empathetic. Since empathy implies not just emotional sensitivity but a great degree of emotional intuition too.
Yeah, I can tell what the other person is thinking or what emotion he/she is currently experiencing but I cannot read in between the lines sometimes.
 
Yeah, I can tell what the other person is thinking or what emotion he/she is currently experiencing but I cannot read in between the lines sometimes.
It is notable that "empaths" all bitch about their slew of failed relationships

Presumably they should've had the empathy to see where things would go, and avoid these problems. But they don't even seem to learn from them either :feelshaha:
 
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It is notable that "empaths" all bitch about their slew of failed relationships

Presumably they should've had the empathy to see where things would go, and avoid these problems. But they don't even seem to learn from them either :feelshaha:
Yeah, they are LARPs.

Any online psychological tests you would recommend me to take? you seem to know a lot about it
 
Yeah, they are LARPs.

Any online psychological tests you would recommend me to take? you seem to know a lot about it
Focus on 5 Factor model tests for personaliteehee.

I guess I can call myself an empath because I achieved 100% BPD and 0% narcissism last time I took one :feelsgah:
 
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Focus on 5 Factor model tests for personaliteehee.

I guess I can call myself an empath because I achieved 100% BPD and 0% narcissism last time I took one :feelsgah:

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I took the similarminds test cause I couldn’t find anything else. Idk if it’s credible but probably not cause it says my apd score is higher than dependent personality score kek.

I think you once sent me the link to this tests but some of my results were a bit different. Maybe it’s because I was biased in self evaluation or sth.

If I have some narcissitic traits they probably stem from me enjoying the positive enforcement I never had rather than feeling superior to others like a stereotypical narcissist.
 
Prominent among the considerations here is the fact that young people in Western soyciety lack any real type of social structure or direction besides the school to wageslave pipeline. This makes their social/mating environment effectively chaotic (indeed, their peers change from elementary to middle to high school to college and then through their various early-adult workplaces).

This would incentivize short term mating strategies by nature, since everything social at this stage of life is short-term! Indeed, at this stage of life, people cannot even possibly retain the same mating partner for very long without entering into a long distance relationship (classically, as during the transition from high school to college when many high school boyfriends and girlfriends get physically separated), and long distance relationships are the very definition of a narcissistic relationship: to love an image from afar, and project your own qualities onto it.

Contrast this situation to when folx get older. Their environment would tend to stabilize for them as they figure capitalist soyciety out and achieve their economic potential (indeed, this happens for folx by about their late 20s and early 30s!). Unfortunately, though, this "socio-economic stability" really just represents an intensified form of social alienation, with many studies attesting to the fact that people at this age lose a great degree of the social connections they previously had, fleeting as even those were :feelshaha:

And much like a lonely person's only comfort is to talk to themselves, a narcissist's only comfort (narcissism as induced by the trauma of repeated early life social separations from peers and romantic separations from mates) would be to find an exact replica of themselves to make this talking to themselves, and indeed fucking themselves, much more convincing to their egos as a sign of their worthiness since technically there is someone else's flesh involved.

This doesn't even go into the rearing of children as pets/clones of their parents, which is indicated by the epidemic of idiosyncratic, pet-tier names for modern children. Superficially/nominally special yet essential replications, a sign of the culture of narcissism :feelsugh:

I speculate that folx never truly get over their first loves, and in the process of mentally reeling over the separation from their first loves, this naturally induces narcissism as a psychological defense. Since who that love actually was becomes indistinct from who you are, as you hold onto them in your mind, and they become fused with your own self. Indeed, an extreme form of this very process leads to transsexuality.
Interesting
 
still is interesting thread cause i encountered this in my own life
 

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