i think it's important to understand sexual conflict, men & women have different evolutionary interests. men's strategy is to have as much sex as possible while women's strategy is to find a committed partner who is of high enough genetic quality to raise children with.
to men, all sex is good. to women, no sex is better than unwanted sex. i think sexual freedom, having the ability to choose who you want to have sex with, is an inevitable aspect of advanced civilization / modern society. it's unavoidable, and it means that women arguably hold the greatest power as gatekeepers of sex, the force that drives men to strive.
i hate it all, but i think it's just how biology & nature works. you can argue about men's deaths & killings, but idk how you would compare which of the human rights to life or sexual freedom bear more weight.
also, it's important to mention most rapes are committed by attractive & dark triad men, not incels, but incels take all the blame, as usual. there are arguments that suggest women enjoy rape (from attractive/dark triad men), and i would not be surprised to hear that women are just seeking revenge when their rapist doesn't commit to them, as is expected by men's evolutionary approach.
both sexes employing their own evolutionary tactics, females of course being all the more privileged on average across all aspects compared to men, but i think it's a bad argument to say that females can have sex whenever they want, because the femcel problem is about love & commitment from a male of high enough genetic quality (chad), and not about whether she can acquire sex, that's an incel problem.
i think more people should check out dr david buss' works