Pornography addiction

[Geoppkinha]

I watch it occasionally but it usually just ends up pissing me off seeing other men get to have sex while I rot

So real

 

[cynical]

It’s not. Being a slave to porn and masturbation is

The porn part I agree with, but masturbation is natural and not wanting to masturbate is a sign of low T.

 

[Eternalifeofdoom]

I'll stop being addicted when the underlying issue is fixed

 

[coursehawk69]

I also do that in some way, but not that extreme. I don't think that's a porn addiction, it's more a "collecting addiction".

I did that a few times when I was really young but I always regretted deleting some favourite stuff, now I don't delete anything intentionally any more (except maybe really bad stuff to make some space). Do you ever regret it? For me actually what reduced my desire to collect was running out of disk space. When my hard drive was full and I couldn't collect any new porn any more, I also didn't watch it ... so ig with rising HDD prices that could also be an option, just don't buy new ones

As a non-native speaker, what is a fornicator? I never heard that word. A quick google search tells me it's someone who has extramarital sex, but I don't think that applies to watching porn as it's not having sex?

I understand the fear of deleting stuff. Another strategy you can take is to develop your favorite core set of material and then make a rule for yourself that you don't need anything else, and sticking to that will also cut off the collecting addiction, but it's easier to backslide compared to cold turkey. Do I regret it? Mostly no. There are a few top-quality videos from the early/mid 2010s that I never found again after deleting in the past. But desiring such things comes with a dirty feeling, so I can't say I regret it. Also, there is a sort of equilibrium that is reached with horniness, that when you go a long time without porn, you can get off to really basic things, like a single thirst trap photo on twitter. I'd rather be high in horniness and low on stimulation than overstimulated and sexually drained.

You have the right idea with what fornicator means. It basically means sex for pleasure, without being married. I suppose you could put it on a spectrum, with the strictest meaning being any sex outside marriage, and the loosest, and also worst kind, being casual sex. Jesus said a few things as recorded in the book of Matthew that calls upon us to take what is inside our heart more seriously. He said that obviously murder is wrong, but wishing death on a man or even excessive hatred is like committing murder in your heart. Likewise, being a fornicator is wrong, but lusting after a woman is like being a fornicator in your heart. So it's not just what you do that makes up your character, it's what you desire. It has been easy for me to judge people who have casual sex, but I'm closer to them than to a truly good man since I have fantasized so much.

Be careful not to see that as a assertion of equivalence. Surely being a murderer is worse than wishing murder, that's obvious. It's about holding yourself to a high standard. It's also about preventing wicked thoughts from evolving into real action. Sometimes it is circumstance that prevents us from doing bad things, rather than our own goodness. If a man gets his heart right, he won't do evil things when temptation arrives.

 

[Yunoo]

The porn part I agree with, but masturbation is natural and not wanting to masturbate is a sign of low T.

I said being a slave to it. Not wanting to do it

 

[SociallyStupid]

Another strategy you can take is to develop your favorite core set of material and then make a rule for yourself that you don't need anything else, and sticking to that will also cut off the collecting addiction, but it's easier to backslide compared to cold turkey.

Well, I do have kinda that, but naturally. A favourite set of stuff I mainly use, actually it's mostly one part of one video lol. But now some things simply have fueled my collection addiction again, which is that I want to collect material to maybe train some LoRa for an image or video model. And this is a "rational" pressure which cannot be overcome so easily.

That said, quite often I fap to my imagination anyway. It's better as I have lots of paraphilias which normal porn typically cannot express or not in the depravity I personally have so my imagination is better. What do you think about that? Does that still count as it's a sexual image, but in your mind, or not?

Also, there is a sort of equilibrium that is reached with horniness, that when you go a long time without porn, you can get off to really basic things, like a single thirst trap photo on twitter. I'd rather be high in horniness and low on stimulation than overstimulated and sexually drained.

I know many people say it but I didn't feel it. When I didn't use porn for a few months I did not get more aroused, but maybe it was also because I just replaced it with my imagination ... where I partially just constructed the porn in my head and then (later, when I started watching again) was disappointed it didn't exist lol

Likewise, being a fornicator is wrong, but lusting after a woman is like being a fornicator in your heart. So it's not just what you do that makes up your character, it's what you desire. It has been easy for me to judge people who have casual sex, but I'm closer to them than to a truly good man since I have fantasized so much.

But how is that related to porn? If you are lusting after a woman, aren't you only a fornicator in your heart if you "just" want to fuck, but not marry her? But if you want to marry her and have children with her the natural way you are not? So IMHO it's not about whether you lust after women, but whether you would want to marry all you lust after? Or am I seeing something wrong?

 

[Cuda]

I kind of used to be until I stopped consuming it so much naturally. Pornography isn't considered an addiction as isn't applicable to the addiction model of substances (i.e. alcohol and psychoactive drugs.) Although, there's research about its harmful affects. It's more like a colloquial term I believe.