Discussion People who push gifts or help on you, but want loads in return

[Hoppipolla]

No pressure to watch all this, but it was covered here in Seinfeld!


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQQnhq3tf1I


I have this issue with multiple people.

For example they might push a gift on you that you don't want (like in that clip) and then try to use that to get loads from you in future.

I'm sure others here have experienced this as it seems fairly common.

 

[NirvanaFan1988]

i have never received a gift from someone.

 

[dungeondragon]

I don't ask for anything, nor will I accept any gifts or kind gestures. Bliss. I will adamantly refuse, to the point of rudeness. Boundaries must be preserved.

 

[Lonelyus]

I don't ask for anything, nor will I accept any gifts or kind gestures. Bliss. I will adamantly refuse, to the point of rudeness. Boundaries must be preserved.

Ill take free gifts

 

[Med Amine]

people who want help from me never give me any kind of gift

they ask me directly and even get angry if i don't help them

 

[Hoppipolla]

Ill take free gifts

That's the thing though they say they're free but really there are lots of strings attached.

 

[Lonelyus]

That's the thing though they say they're free but really there are lots of strings attached.

If it is, I say that they didnt mention it before

 

[Hoppipolla]

If it is, I say that they didnt mention it before

lol that's a good strategy.

I think the problem can be though that they try to use that for blackmail.

Basically the threat is that if you don't do stuff for them they'll make you look ungrateful (and therefore bad) to others.

 

[Glerforpus]

Many people are often only nice to you so they can use you. It’s sad but I think friendships are going to the way of the past

 

[Gutless]

I don't ask for anything, nor will I accept any gifts or kind gestures. Bliss. I will adamantly refuse, to the point of rudeness. Boundaries must be preserved.

 

[Lonelyus]

lol that's a good strategy.

I think the problem can be though that they try to use that for blackmail.

Basically the threat is that if you don't do stuff for them they'll make you look ungrateful (and therefore bad) to others.

I aleredy look bad to others, My face is aleredy cropped into a gayporn and was shared by my bullies a few years ago, I just didnt care about it and it went away, But i deleted facebook tho, Im probably so ugly that no matter what online space i take people just want to steal my photo

 

[Robb97]

Everything humans do for each other is transactional

 

[Emba]

It's gold Jerry! Gold!

I have the feeling that this is why many folks around here - IRL - refuse my stuff. Like free plants and whatnot. Perhaps they think I'll want something in return? (Instead of me giving them the stuff because I'm drowning in it!)

Also, they already refuse to do stuff for me, help me, or go out of their way for me, even though they are going that way anyway...

Everything humans do for each other is transactional

They want no dealings with the dying old ugly man...