https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/7yjo3e/girlfriend_of_three_years_left_with_my_daughter/
My 29 y/o girlfriend of 3 years and the mother to my 19 month old daughter recently left and I’m devastated. I’m 37 y/o. We were so happy and the perfect couple so in love we would just look at each other and smile non stop. She wasn’t supposed to be able to have children but she got pregnant and she always dreamed of it. While pregnant she changed a lot and I started to go out more and avoid her because of being different and kind of mean. I began texting a girl that was related to an older friend I had about child advice and such, innocently. I don’t know how and can’t explain why but we started text more and hang out. No physical contact but emotions started getting involved and I realized what was going on. I stopped texting but my girlfriend found out seeing some older messages. We fought and she left but came back after I promised to change the things that bothered her. I stopped going out, I spent time with my baby, and I tried so hard to make her happy. Since guys point it was a 180. She didn’t show affection, treated me badly, wouldn’t allow me to leave without fighting, and must of my family began having issues with her to make them avoid me. I tried so hard and just couldn’t make her go back to the way she was. We did this for year until just recently she left with my daughter after a little argument. She said she wasn’t happy and hadn’t been and can’t get over me texting a girl. I realize what I did and have apologized, and changed for the better but it didn’t matter. I literally pictured being with her for the rest of my life and no matter what would never ever give up trying to make it work by any means. I tried seeing if she wanted to go to therapy to try but she won’t. She had mental issues before pregnancy and had post partum. She’s told me she tried hurting/ killing herself multiple times in the past year and refuses to talk to anybody with me or on her own. She said she needed to better herself and get happy again but how if you don’t want to get help. How can she not be willing to work or try anything for us and our daughter? I want her in my life and to be happy but how? Is it too Late? Sometimes she won’t text me or respond for days and other times she’s messaging me all night and trying to talk about things. I can give more info but I really just want to hear what you guys think I should do or can do to make it work or get closure since I’ve asked her multiple times if we were done and she just says I don’t know. I ant keep on hurting not knowing and don’t want to try to be hurt worse later.
