I have been to therapy but not for my inceldom. I don't talk about that with them because I know for a fact that in such cases they are going to give you the standard responses and "solutions". They will absolutely gaslight you, so I don't even bother.
But it did help me once, even if just to realize where my depression comes from.
It was during rehab. No, I was not a druggie or anything. I just had severe depression to the point of almost roping several times.
But there they've actually helped me understand why I had issues to fall asleep and sleep well, why I have low self esteem and confidence etc. etc. .
Basically, my upbringing was very bad. Having two parents is not a guarantee for success in life as they too can fail, and mine habe failed miserably.
I have talked about this many times here.
There are six relationship motives:
Recognition / Acknowledgment (love, devotion, respect)
Importance (being important and valuable to others)
Reliability / Dependability (reliable relationship)
Solidarity (important in the sense that your parents stand by your side in difficult times)
(reasonable) Autonomie (depending on the age of the child the parents should grant them more autonomy and encourage it. Helicopter parents are doing the opposite.
inviolability of Boundaries (territoriality, parents must make rules and uphold them, not bend them and enforce them)
When your parents raise you and fail to satisfy most or all of these motives, you will be fucked for life.
You will be a mess of a human being and you will absolutely need coaching or a miracle to undo all the damage.