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When I was in high school, I had a neighbor a year older than me, who I found kind of cute. We weren’t super close friends, but we lived on the same street for a long long time, so I’d say we knew each other decently well. She definitely knew that I was a good, nice guy, with a great personality.
In high school, I started to care about dating, and one platitude I heard from many people I knew was “it’s all about personality”
At that point I had been rejected a few times, and I am really not fond of rejection, so I figured I’d ask her out. I already had her number, I don’t remember how I got it, but I texted her a couple times, trying to plan a date/hangout.
Of course she politely said she was busy, but to this day, I doubt that was true.
And also, if she actually was busy but still interested she would have suggested a different day.
After the second try, I got the memo, and didn’t talk to her as much, except for brief small talk now and then.
Nowadays, she goes to some fancy private university, and she is actually more attractive than back then. (LMTB-HHTB) I kind of wish I had waited until this summer, although I doubt it would have made a difference, I probably would have been rejected either way. (Also I think she has a boyfriend, I’m not sure though)
Point being, after hearing that personality matter, I figured I would shoot my shot with a girl who knows my personality well.
Being rejected by her was important. It gave me one of the many puzzle pieces I needed to figure out the truth. It helped the wheels of reality start spinning. After that I thought “if personality is so important then why did I still get rejected… maybe other factors like visual attraction are more important…”
My coming to understand the world was not instant. It slowly built up over years and dozens of experiences
In high school, I started to care about dating, and one platitude I heard from many people I knew was “it’s all about personality”
At that point I had been rejected a few times, and I am really not fond of rejection, so I figured I’d ask her out. I already had her number, I don’t remember how I got it, but I texted her a couple times, trying to plan a date/hangout.
Of course she politely said she was busy, but to this day, I doubt that was true.
And also, if she actually was busy but still interested she would have suggested a different day.
After the second try, I got the memo, and didn’t talk to her as much, except for brief small talk now and then.
Nowadays, she goes to some fancy private university, and she is actually more attractive than back then. (LMTB-HHTB) I kind of wish I had waited until this summer, although I doubt it would have made a difference, I probably would have been rejected either way. (Also I think she has a boyfriend, I’m not sure though)
Point being, after hearing that personality matter, I figured I would shoot my shot with a girl who knows my personality well.
Being rejected by her was important. It gave me one of the many puzzle pieces I needed to figure out the truth. It helped the wheels of reality start spinning. After that I thought “if personality is so important then why did I still get rejected… maybe other factors like visual attraction are more important…”
My coming to understand the world was not instant. It slowly built up over years and dozens of experiences
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