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This is something that happen quite often with me, but usually with people ain't not very familiar with, like colleagues and classmates. Recently I have been noticing this among close friends as well.
Do you guys never feel like you're being belittled among a group of friends? Like you're not being respected? Of course it's usually a very subtly thing, let me illustrate. Today I went to a walk with this group of old friends from HS and everything was nice, we're teasing each other but I felt like when I was the only one being teased, they'd seem to spend more time mocking me, like it was funnier when I was being mocked, you know?
That's not the only thing, for an instance these days I have been working on my posture, so during this walk I was actually in a corrected posture, looking foward and not downwards and my chest out, I wasn't being autistic or anything, just a normal posture, so this simply thing was enough for them to point out at me and lightly tease me on this. It's the kind of thing that wouldn't be funny pointing out on anyone else, but when I was the only one doing it was funny.
I also barely made fun of them, most of the time I simply wanted to talk about some actual thing but they seemed to feel this necessity to tease me constantly. Other friends in the circle that I'm closer to started to act this way as well when in other situations they'd be respectful.
I remember once when I had this presentation at college and I was kinda nervous, so at the beginning I misspoked and said "good evening" instead of "good day", quickly correct myself, not a biggie. But then the whole class burst in laughs.
Of course there are many other examples of these subtles signs of disrespect I get from people, this is one of the reasons that I find social interactions extremely annoying most of the times. You know, sometimes I get these vibes that these people like hanging with me for the only sake of feeling better about themselves. But not only in a positive way, more like "I know I suck but look at this guy, I don't feel like such a loser when he's around"..
tldr: you don't have to read if you don't want to but I can't summarize this
Do you guys never feel like you're being belittled among a group of friends? Like you're not being respected? Of course it's usually a very subtly thing, let me illustrate. Today I went to a walk with this group of old friends from HS and everything was nice, we're teasing each other but I felt like when I was the only one being teased, they'd seem to spend more time mocking me, like it was funnier when I was being mocked, you know?
That's not the only thing, for an instance these days I have been working on my posture, so during this walk I was actually in a corrected posture, looking foward and not downwards and my chest out, I wasn't being autistic or anything, just a normal posture, so this simply thing was enough for them to point out at me and lightly tease me on this. It's the kind of thing that wouldn't be funny pointing out on anyone else, but when I was the only one doing it was funny.
I also barely made fun of them, most of the time I simply wanted to talk about some actual thing but they seemed to feel this necessity to tease me constantly. Other friends in the circle that I'm closer to started to act this way as well when in other situations they'd be respectful.
I remember once when I had this presentation at college and I was kinda nervous, so at the beginning I misspoked and said "good evening" instead of "good day", quickly correct myself, not a biggie. But then the whole class burst in laughs.
Of course there are many other examples of these subtles signs of disrespect I get from people, this is one of the reasons that I find social interactions extremely annoying most of the times. You know, sometimes I get these vibes that these people like hanging with me for the only sake of feeling better about themselves. But not only in a positive way, more like "I know I suck but look at this guy, I don't feel like such a loser when he's around"..
tldr: you don't have to read if you don't want to but I can't summarize this
