My parents are divorced btw, but I spent a lot of time with both of them during my youth. They never gave a damn that I was single all the time and never had a GF.
I don't know how I should feel about that to be honest. In some way, it's good that they didn't pressure me with things like "when will you find a girlfriend", but on the other hand, I can't understand why they didn't care about it at all. My father never in my life asked me if I have a girlfriend and he never cared who I hung out with, he didn't give a shit about my personal life. We never talked about anything. My mother never asked me anything about that either. We never discussed anything about women, relationships, sex... They didn't give a damn that I got really fat at some point either, they never put me in any sports. I had to take things in my hands and started training sports when I was in my 20s to lose weight, but I feel like it was too late, because I basically missed my prime. I look better now at 30 than I did when I was 20 because I was fat and bloated back then.
The first time I talked about my "incel" problem to my parents was when I was 26 when I told my mother that I never had a girlfriend, not even a female friend or anything, and that women never showed any interest in me and always reacted very cold when I approached them.
My mom then just gave me some bluepill advice that I will eventually find someone when I finish with my education and when I will have work and that I should focus on other things. As if you can just start with your first relationship when you're 30 without any experience and without having a social circle that would include women. And for what? To betabuxx some woman who was already with dozens men before and who would only care about my job and house and car.
I never understood the attitude of my parents about my situation, how could they be so oblivious to not understand that if you miss out on sex and relationships when you're in high school and in college, you're an outcast for life in this society.
Both of my parents were really popular and had a lot of relationships in their youth, so it was obviously an important part of their lives yet they never seemed to care that I don't have anything of that.
Now here's the worst part. When I finally started admitting to my parents about how bad my situation is, instead of focusing on my problems they always started talking about themselves like "do you think you're the only one who has bad experiences in his youth, I broke with my boyfriend/girlfriend when I was xy and I was a wreck for years," (JFL) or talk about how bad my grandparents (their parents) were "my dad was alcoholic/was in prison" etc. I can't even help not to laugh at this because it's so pathetic. These people can't even imagine what it's like to NEVER be in a relationship in the first place. And why should I even give a shit what kind of problems they had in their youth, I'm not the one raising them, they should have been raising me.
I feel like I never had a family, I had to literally figure out everything on my own and it took me a lot of time to finally realize what my situation is. This is why I can never support this Western society that destroyed family, because if you don't have family support, if you don't have tradition and normal upbringing, you don't have anything really.
I don't know how I should feel about that to be honest. In some way, it's good that they didn't pressure me with things like "when will you find a girlfriend", but on the other hand, I can't understand why they didn't care about it at all. My father never in my life asked me if I have a girlfriend and he never cared who I hung out with, he didn't give a shit about my personal life. We never talked about anything. My mother never asked me anything about that either. We never discussed anything about women, relationships, sex... They didn't give a damn that I got really fat at some point either, they never put me in any sports. I had to take things in my hands and started training sports when I was in my 20s to lose weight, but I feel like it was too late, because I basically missed my prime. I look better now at 30 than I did when I was 20 because I was fat and bloated back then.
The first time I talked about my "incel" problem to my parents was when I was 26 when I told my mother that I never had a girlfriend, not even a female friend or anything, and that women never showed any interest in me and always reacted very cold when I approached them.
My mom then just gave me some bluepill advice that I will eventually find someone when I finish with my education and when I will have work and that I should focus on other things. As if you can just start with your first relationship when you're 30 without any experience and without having a social circle that would include women. And for what? To betabuxx some woman who was already with dozens men before and who would only care about my job and house and car.
I never understood the attitude of my parents about my situation, how could they be so oblivious to not understand that if you miss out on sex and relationships when you're in high school and in college, you're an outcast for life in this society.
Both of my parents were really popular and had a lot of relationships in their youth, so it was obviously an important part of their lives yet they never seemed to care that I don't have anything of that.
Now here's the worst part. When I finally started admitting to my parents about how bad my situation is, instead of focusing on my problems they always started talking about themselves like "do you think you're the only one who has bad experiences in his youth, I broke with my boyfriend/girlfriend when I was xy and I was a wreck for years," (JFL) or talk about how bad my grandparents (their parents) were "my dad was alcoholic/was in prison" etc. I can't even help not to laugh at this because it's so pathetic. These people can't even imagine what it's like to NEVER be in a relationship in the first place. And why should I even give a shit what kind of problems they had in their youth, I'm not the one raising them, they should have been raising me.
I feel like I never had a family, I had to literally figure out everything on my own and it took me a lot of time to finally realize what my situation is. This is why I can never support this Western society that destroyed family, because if you don't have family support, if you don't have tradition and normal upbringing, you don't have anything really.
