JFL My (21M) girlfriend (21F) had a 3-year "phase" with 15 guys before me.

[PhineasSpear]

View: https://www.reddit.com/r/retroactivejealousy/comments/1seocsz/my_21m_girlfriend_21f_had_a_3year_phase_with_15/

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a year. I love her, she’s high-achieving and we have big plans for our future together. But I’m stuck on something that is starting to feel like a dealbreaker.

My body count is 4. I believe your body is something you should respect and only share with people who actually matter. I didn’t think this way initially but after my first one night stand I realised sex without emotion was empty and stopped.

I wonder what the dealbreaker is....?

She recently told me her count is 15. She started late (18) and basically spent three years "catching up" to her friends before she met me at 21. I am her first actual boyfriend.

She had to "catch up" with her whore friends Can't make this shit up.

The part that eats at me:

About 10 of those guys were just one-night stands. She frames it as "exploring her sexuality" and says it didn't mean anything because she didn't respect or even like those guys. To her, she was just "figuring things out." In her view she can seperate the emotional attachment which she has been gatekeeping and the physical act of sex, which she hands out freely.

Of course she has to rationalize/sugarcoat it.

To me, that’s exactly the problem. I don’t understand how a smart, driven woman can let random guys she doesn't even respect have access to her for no reason. It feels like she treated herself like a hobby or a sport for three years while I was out here holding myself to a higher standard.

JFL at "smart, driven woman"

She says she "saved" the real intimacy and the effort, of herself for me because I’m the first man she actually respects. But it’s hard for me to feel like "the prize" when I’m the one who has to lead everything and put in all the work, while 10 random dudes got her for free without doing a single thing to earn it.

Brutal

I’m offended by her past choices. I feel like there’s a massive gap in our values. I stayed disciplined; she was reckless. Now, I’m the first boyfriend, and I’m the one dealing with the "ick" of her history.

Questions:

Is it a red flag that she was so non-discriminatory with her body for those 3 years, even if she’s 100% loyal now?

Can a relationship work when I view sex as something sacred and she viewed it as something to just "check off a list" with randoms

Answers:
1: Yes
2: No, the relationship cannot work.
Anyways as if it can't get bad enough, just wait till you read the edit.

Edit: Hi all thank you very much for the insights please see below what conclusion I came too with the help of all of you - feeling which responses I resonated most with.

When actually auditing my internal beliefs not those imposed on me by broader society I realised I was in fact treating my gf as an object not a person. Our past experiences shape our present and if shes perfect in the present how can I in good faith hate on the past. This is highly freeing for me as I was in such turmoil I think due to believing what red pill influencers have been spewing for many years, subconsciously I must have associated those ideas as my own however after having been forced to think for myself for 72 hrs, I realised I don’t actually care. Anyone going through RJ I wish u well.

LMFAO, SHE TREATED HERSELF AS AN OBJECT. He basically resigned himself to being an oofy-doofy.

The state of modern relationships.

 

[Extern]

15 is nothing for avg woman in her 20s

 

[DriveLikeNigger]

15 is surpisingly too low for modern whores. Nonetheless This man is a future cuck, who'll take care of this whore's baby daddy's little mistake.

 

[Qech__]

Wait a minute...

I am her first actual boyfriend.

About 10 of those guys were just one-night stands

Something does not compute...

 

[AutistSupremacist]

 

[PhineasSpear]

Something does not compute...

Good eye. Didn't catch that.

 

[Qech__]

Edit 1:
[.,.]
I realised I don’t actually care. Anyone going through RJ I wish u well.

Edit2: Hi all seems some of u have an issue with the edit. I wanted to say I thought the point of this sub was to help move past a negative way of thinking. It seems though you all are happy to keep perpetuating these negative beliefs for what? To keep yourselves unhappy? I’m actually really unsure but wish you all peace.

Nigga came back for edit 2 to reassure himself. He has not gotten over it at all.

 

[MoroccanFarmer]

That must be tough for this guy but i still dont have big titties sheboon with me

 

[Aspiring Janitor]

Redditors in the comments actually being somewhat reasonable. Foid's a whore though and OP is a faggot low t male with no self-respect.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

What do men in relationships with outgoing attractive women expect? You can't have your cake and eat it too.

 

[FoidsEnshittifyAll]

holy cuckoldry and captain saveahoe behaviour... .

 

[VanGobbel]

This is literally every foid. Bluepilled retards grow up believing their first normcuck relationship will be with an untouched princess and then reality ALWAYS turns out like this lmao. watch this mong go through it and end up in mgtow spheres (which are all a bunch of fat faggots anyway)

 

[Meditation X]

Insane cope by the cuck

 

[Izayacel]

Now if he was based enough he would just ditch her once she shows " signs " and becomes resentful towards you for no reason .

Never take a Woman to serious

 

[parbate2025]

View: https://www.reddit.com/r/retroactivejealousy/comments/1seocsz/my_21m_girlfriend_21f_had_a_3year_phase_with_15/


I wonder what the dealbreaker is....?

She had to "catch up" with her whore friends Can't make this shit up.

Of course she has to rationalize/sugarcoat it.

JFL at "smart, driven woman"

Brutal


Answers:
1: Yes
2: No, the relationship cannot work.
Anyways as if it can't get bad enough, just wait till you read the edit.

LMFAO, SHE TREATED HERSELF AS AN OBJECT. He basically resigned himself to being an oofy-doofy.

The state of modern relationships.

It was already over when he even thought of asking the most cucked platform on social media(reddit).
"My girlfriend is whore, how should i approach this?"
Break up you fucking fag.
Grow a spine

 

[Anonymoutron]

His gf is a fucking whore and he’s cucked for staying with her

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Feminine nature is not a phase

 

[nihilum]

15 is nothing for avg woman in her 20s

 

[nihilum]

15 is surpisingly too low for modern whores. Nonetheless This man is a future cuck, who'll take care of this whore's baby daddy's little mistake.

 

[TooSomething]

Rather be incel than this.

 

[nihilum]

Rather be incel than this.

“when I’m the one who has to lead everything and put in all the work, while 10 random dudes got her for free without doing a single thing to earn it.”

 

[TooSomething]

“when I’m the one who has to lead everything and put in all the work, while 10 random dudes got her for free without doing a single thing to earn it.”

Also, rather pay for an escort than be a paypig gor this.

What makes this whore any better than prostitutes? Right. Nothing.

 

[nihilum]

Also, rather pay for an escort than be a paypig gor this.

What makes this whore any better than prostitutes? Right. Nothing.

Exactly

 

[luciferiancel]

The update makes it seem the whole thing is fake. There's no way someone could so easily be convinced to be a brazen cuck, right? But when I think about the state we are in as a whole, it becomes more believable