This is how normies all the way up to Chads can feel depressed: most relationships are shitty and undesirable.
Incels suffer from optimism bias in which they yearn for only the positive aspects of a relationship, like physical intimacy, emotional support, feeling wanted by someone. In order to truly want a relationship means also accepting the bad parts: the possibility of getting cheated on, being abused or neglected by your partner, having to take care of someone else, etc.
Most betabuxx (the majority of men) end up getting henpecked by their wives and live in a constant state of fear that they will get cheated on, divorced, or simply end up in a loveless marriage. The desire for intimacy is so great that betabuxx are willing to accept suicidal levels of risk to fulfill their egoistic desire.
Chad doesn't even have to enter a relationship with a woman for sex, because Chad already knows that a long-term relationship is shitty and undesirable. He would be tied down to one woman and would eventually have to provide for her and support her, so it's better to pump and dump multiple women.
If we're honest about male fantasies and desires, it's not simply having a wife and two kids, but rather being Gigachad and having a harem full of girls who each have a relationship with you and possibly multiple children. Gigachad doesn't have to settle for one woman, so unless you're Gigachad, having a mediocre or even good relationship with one woman is less than ideal. It is that longing for what we can not have that creates suffering, even normies can feel that.
Incels suffer from optimism bias in which they yearn for only the positive aspects of a relationship, like physical intimacy, emotional support, feeling wanted by someone. In order to truly want a relationship means also accepting the bad parts: the possibility of getting cheated on, being abused or neglected by your partner, having to take care of someone else, etc.
Most betabuxx (the majority of men) end up getting henpecked by their wives and live in a constant state of fear that they will get cheated on, divorced, or simply end up in a loveless marriage. The desire for intimacy is so great that betabuxx are willing to accept suicidal levels of risk to fulfill their egoistic desire.
Chad doesn't even have to enter a relationship with a woman for sex, because Chad already knows that a long-term relationship is shitty and undesirable. He would be tied down to one woman and would eventually have to provide for her and support her, so it's better to pump and dump multiple women.
If we're honest about male fantasies and desires, it's not simply having a wife and two kids, but rather being Gigachad and having a harem full of girls who each have a relationship with you and possibly multiple children. Gigachad doesn't have to settle for one woman, so unless you're Gigachad, having a mediocre or even good relationship with one woman is less than ideal. It is that longing for what we can not have that creates suffering, even normies can feel that.
