This is a Cope.
To protect what's left of their self worth, incels often believe "If I only I had X" then I wouldn't be incel. For example "If only I was white/black" or "If only I was Tall", "If only I was jacked", "If only I had a square Jaw", "If only I had a good job", "If only I had good social skills", etc.
If X is anything other than extremely good looks, encompassing all that is good looks not just one feature, then you would still be an incel.
I was in the military, and MOST military men are still incels just like most men IRL are incels. All women have hundreds if not thousands or tens of thousands of options, even the most obese land whales. Most military men are either blue pilled or black pilled incels, they never date. A smaller percentage of them will date literally hundreds of different women a year. These guys are always texting multiple women at a time, schedule sex with multiple women on the same day, and never do their job because they are too busy texting girls and too tired from not sleeping. They also look and act like the violent thugs that women are attracted too, which is in their facial features as well, which you can't fake. And the women that take turn dating these guys wait for years choosing to be single just until they can hook up with the top 1% of the top 1% for a few weeks while he's also sleeping with a bunch of other girls until he gets bored and replaces them.
You can't just be "above average" to date women, you have to be her best option out of the thousands of guys she has to choose from.