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Either height or looks (but looks are much more important) can save you if you're not funny or interesting. But if you're interesting or funny, you can also be saved by good looks (and heights above 5'4", you men need to look VERY good).

I'm 5'3" and look so very ugly because of a disability I have (I was born with it, but it developed during puberty, I can walk normally and drive a car, but in society, in dating I'm disabled). Since I'm 11, I overhear people telling others I look "like a monster", "so ugly", "ugliest person I've ever seen", etc. – and most don't even try to hide it (strangers, mostly, too). Or they just give me weird glances, or even laugh, some have even literally taken pictures of me.

So yeah, I could be funny as hell, interesting and intelligent (I'm not any of those)... but they won't save me. Without the disability, I'd probably look good and be tall, but I have this disability now... so here we are. Girls were either disgusted by the sight of me (heard this too when I was in school, I'm 26 now though), or had nada interest in me. It's over for me. I have difficulty gaining muscles, but what will that do. Facial surgery won't help me and implants are extremely risky, and it's so expensive, spoke with 4 surgeons already. My head and facial bones don't allow for any surgery that will show good results. Head and face shape can't be changed, and both are really weird. Went to 2 stores with my mom today, people either made fun of me or looked at me weirdly.

Now what annoys me a lot, but my mom is right. Now my mom tells me I look good – but it's just to make me feel better (because she has contradicted herself, indirectly, in the past). She tells me, what I see in those "sick videos" (normal porn videos), is "not reality, because women aren't that good looking in real life. Good-looking women are very rare."

She also said, just hours ago, that "it [sex] is disgusting, and people [in society] are uglier than you think." Context: I rarely venture outside the house, expect to walk the dog.

She has lied to me in the past, said on the one hand, looks aren't important, on the other "sure I understand you want a pretty girlfriend. You can have on." the next week "no, you can't have one [because you're not that good looking." So, basically, she's indirectly trying to tell me, I'm too ugly/weird (and to some extent too short) for a pretty girlfriend (she doesn't explicitly say this, but that's her underhand message). She implies I should get an average one, but they are ugly imo (and also ugly to her, but I know she just means well and tries that I don't feel bad).

This makes me so sad, especially the part about "losing virginity between 16-20 is important"

 
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Are you neurotypical? If yes you mog me by default
 
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It is hell indeed
I think that it's better to be phisycally disabled than being mentally disabled, because unless you have Down's syndrome, mental illness isn't immidiatelly noticed in a way, physical disabilities are, so people think that you're faking it to receive fake sympathy.
 
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I think that it's better to be phisycally disabled than being mentally disabled, because unless you have Down's syndrome, mental illness isn't immidiatelly noticed in a way, physical disabilities are, so people think that you're faking it to receive fake sympathy.
Exactly, the invisible disability thing. People don’t expect a man with an amputated leg to walk as fast as the average person. But they want someone with ASD/ADHD to function at their own level otherwise you’re just being lazy
 
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Exactly, the invisible disability thing. People don’t expect a man with an amputated leg to walk as fast as the average person.
Which is why the man will receive empathy regardless of how he looks.
But they want someone with ASD/ADHD to function at their own level otherwise you’re just being lazy
It's not just that they think you're lazy. It's that they think you're faking it to receive sympathy. That's how twisted most normies's worldview is.
 
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Exactly, the invisible disability thing. People don’t expect a man with an amputated leg to walk as fast as the average person. But they want someone with ASD/ADHD to function at their own level otherwise you’re just being lazy
I'm not neurotypical. Bc this disability can also influence your mind/brain. I was tested 2.5 years ago. I have extremely slight autism, and I do "clearly" have ADHD according to the 4 hour test I took. It is hell for me bro, I can sympathise with you. I tried a ADHD med, had bad side-effects and am now on 2 antidepressants that do shit. As well as therapy, both so useless. So yeah, I can't concentrate on college work (doing online college) and always do my stuff last minute. I can't find my earphones. Placed them somewhere. They'll turn up in a few days, so I'm not worried.
 
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Life with ADHD seems like hell.
Yeah I also have that. But that's the least of my problems, personally. Everyone is different. My looks and height dwarf my ADHD and mental problems, pun intended
 
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Exactly, the invisible disability thing. People don’t expect a man with an amputated leg to walk as fast as the average person. But they want someone with ASD/ADHD to function at their own level otherwise you’re just being lazy
Just to add... for me, bc my looks are so bad, my ADHD kinda becomes less important. But then again, I can only speak for myself. Bc my dating "future" cough cough will fail bc of my looks (and to a lesser degree height)
 
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I'm not neurotypical. Bc this disability can also influence your mind/brain. I was tested 2.5 years ago. I have extremely slight autism, and I do "clearly" have ADHD according to the 4 hour test I took. It is hell for me bro, I can sympathise with you. I tried a ADHD med, had bad side-effects and am now on 2 antidepressants that do shit. As well as therapy, both so useless. So yeah, I can't concentrate on college work (doing online college) and always do my stuff last minute. I can't find my earphones. Placed them somewhere. They'll turn up in a few days, so I'm not worried.
Damn meds didn’t work for you? Was it Ritalin or Adderall? Some redditors reported drastic improvement in work and socializing after getting medicated whilst others said pills made their lives worse. Don’t know why it is so.

I somehow coped through college but my social life is hell: the sluggish cognitive tempo, the hypersensitivity, the emotional dysregulation, all make socializing impossible for me.
 
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Yeah I also have that. But that's the least of my problems, personally. Everyone is different. My looks and height dwarf my ADHD and mental problems, pun intended
I agree with that. Height influences Neurotypicality. There's no way someone below 170cm is going to turn out NT.
 
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Just to add... for me, bc my looks are so bad, my ADHD kinda becomes less important. But then again, I can only speak for myself. Bc my dating "future" cough cough will fail bc of my looks (and to a lesser degree height)
My looks wouldn’t be so bad if I didn’t have ADHD lol. I could’ve worked out, done skincare, dietmaxxing, hairmaxxing etc. But instead I’ve been self sabotaging due to executive dysfunction and immense anxiety.
 
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My looks wouldn’t be so bad if I didn’t have ADHD lol. I could’ve worked out, done skincare, dietmaxxing, hairmaxxing etc. But instead I’ve been self sabotaging due to executive dysfunction and immense anxiety.
yeah that's fine, I'm not saying you're wrong and I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying, my face and head are weird bc of my disability. no working out, skincare, diet will change that – or in any way compensate for it. In my case. I can't and won't talk for you obviously
 
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Redpillers and IT will say that if he goes to the gym, take a shower and do skin care he will get laid
 
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Damn meds didn’t work for you? Was it Ritalin or Adderall? Some redditors reported drastic improvement in work and socializing after getting medicated whilst others said pills made their lives worse. Don’t know why it is so.

I somehow coped through college but my social life is hell: the sluggish cognitive tempo, the hypersensitivity, the emotional dysregulation, all make socializing impossible for me.
Ritalin. My shrink said he'd never prescribe Elvanse because of the bad side effects many people have. I'm on Zoloft now, which is supposed to help against social anxiety. And another med, which is for my sadness. But how will a med work if I'm treated like shit by society, you know. What you're saying is me too, but my looks will be THE deal breaker. So freaking sad for me
 
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Yeah. Your response actually makes me sad, obviously... because it's true. But my face is the deal breaker, it's much worse than my height. I can wear shoes and height lifter in shoes that make me 5'6 when I go outside. But people react to my weird face

I'm so sad. Why can't I just die. And I'll smile while doing it. Then blackness.
 
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Yeah. Your response actually makes me sad, obviously... because it's true. But my face is the deal breaker, it's much worse than my height. I can wear shoes and height lifter in shoes that make me 5'6 when I go outside. But people react to my weird face

I'm so sad. Why can't I just die. And I'll smile while doing it. Then blackness.
I don't know how's your face, but if you're really that ugly, I think your height isn't that bad. And I really mean it, not coping. Think about it, if you were taller (let's say 6'0), people would notice you much more and you would be even more bullied for your face. And the height wouldn't help you get laid since your face is the problem. Or maybe if you were taller you'd be much more scary and then people would just let you alone, idk.

I know it's difficult, but I would completely forget about women forever, make friends online, if you haven't already find a way to make money from home, and find good hobbies to cope
 
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Either height or looks (but looks are much more important) can save you if you're not funny or interesting. But if you're interesting or funny, you can also be saved by good looks (and heights above 5'4", you men need to look VERY good).

I'm 5'3" and look so very ugly because of a disability I have (I was born with it, but it developed during puberty, I can walk normally and drive a car, but in society, in dating I'm disabled). Since I'm 11, I overhear people telling others I look "like a monster", "so ugly", "ugliest person I've ever seen", etc. – and most don't even try to hide it (strangers, mostly, too). Or they just give me weird glances, or even laugh, some have even literally taken pictures of me.

So yeah, I could be funny as hell, interesting and intelligent (I'm not any of those)... but they won't save me. Without the disability, I'd probably look good and be tall, but I have this disability now... so here we are. Girls were either disgusted by the sight of me (heard this too when I was in school, I'm 26 now though), or had nada interest in me. It's over for me. I have difficulty gaining muscles, but what will that do. Facial surgery won't help me and implants are extremely risky, and it's so expensive, spoke with 4 surgeons already. My head and facial bones don't allow for any surgery that will show good results. Head and face shape can't be changed, and both are really weird. Went to 2 stores with my mom today, people either made fun of me or looked at me weirdly.

Now what annoys me a lot, but my mom is right. Now my mom tells me I look good – but it's just to make me feel better (because she has contradicted herself, indirectly, in the past). She tells me, what I see in those "sick videos" (normal porn videos), is "not reality, because women aren't that good looking in real life. Good-looking women are very rare."

She also said, just hours ago, that "it [sex] is disgusting, and people [in society] are uglier than you think." Context: I rarely venture outside the house, expect to walk the dog.

She has lied to me in the past, said on the one hand, looks aren't important, on the other "sure I understand you want a pretty girlfriend. You can have on." the next week "no, you can't have one [because you're not that good looking." So, basically, she's indirectly trying to tell me, I'm too ugly/weird (and to some extent too short) for a pretty girlfriend (she doesn't explicitly say this, but that's her underhand message). She implies I should get an average one, but they are ugly imo (and also ugly to her, but I know she just means well and tries that I don't feel bad).

This makes me so sad, especially the part about "losing virginity between 16-20 is important"

I wish he'll was real so all these savages who made fun of you will burn. There truly is no good in this world.
 
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I don't know how's your face, but if you're really that ugly, I think your height isn't that bad. And I really mean it, not coping. Think about it, if you were taller (let's say 6'0), people would notice you much more and you would be even more bullied for your face. And the height wouldn't help you get laid since your face is the problem. Or maybe if you were taller you'd be much more scary and then people would just let you alone, idk.

I know it's difficult, but I would completely forget about women forever, make friends online, if you haven't already find a way to make money from home, and find good hobbies to cope
You're right :-(

--ARGH--

Yeah, I was always bullied in school too, in middle school and high school. I have a disability (I can walk, drive), and my facial bones and head shape are MESSED UP. Most of the time they said things about me. Also now, outside, the strangers. I'm not sure if I can survive for much longer. I try working out at home (strength) but that won't do me any good, skin is fine, it's just my ugly head, why is life so unfair, others have pretty girlfriends and I have to die alone and never hold a woman, on Christmas or ever. Fuck :-(
 
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I wish he'll was real so all these savages who made fun of you will burn. There truly is no good in this world.
Thanks, appreciate it bro :-(

I'm even sometimes mistaken for a woman bc of how the disability influenced my face (not a lot of bones). So people will go like "look at him", and the reply will be "oh, I thought that is a woman." - The ugly part can't be fixed, the woman part can be fixed a tiny bit with fillers. Hope I can get those soon. But they're not cheap. But should I take my money to the grave? EDIT- I'm CIS and male obviously, but hormones didn't flow correctly, only to my dick.

There's no hell. Fucking wish there was.
 
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Thanks, appreciate it bro :-(

I'm even sometimes mistaken for a woman bc of how the disability influenced my face (not a lot of bones). So people will go like "look at him", and the reply will be "oh, I thought that is a woman." - The ugly part can't be fixed, the woman part can be fixed a tiny bit with fillers. Hope I can get those soon. But they're not cheap. But should I take my money to the grave? EDIT- I'm CIS and male obviously, but hormones didn't flow correctly, only to my dick.

There's no hell. Fucking wish there was.
There's no point in looking like a man tbh. People will treat you way worse as cucked as it is and since you're ugly there's no point.
 
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Either height or looks (but looks are much more important) can save you if you're not funny or interesting. But if you're interesting or funny, you can also be saved by good looks (and heights above 5'4", you men need to look VERY good).

I'm 5'3" and look so very ugly because of a disability I have (I was born with it, but it developed during puberty, I can walk normally and drive a car, but in society, in dating I'm disabled). Since I'm 11, I overhear people telling others I look "like a monster", "so ugly", "ugliest person I've ever seen", etc. – and most don't even try to hide it (strangers, mostly, too). Or they just give me weird glances, or even laugh, some have even literally taken pictures of me.

So yeah, I could be funny as hell, interesting and intelligent (I'm not any of those)... but they won't save me. Without the disability, I'd probably look good and be tall, but I have this disability now... so here we are. Girls were either disgusted by the sight of me (heard this too when I was in school, I'm 26 now though), or had nada interest in me. It's over for me. I have difficulty gaining muscles, but what will that do. Facial surgery won't help me and implants are extremely risky, and it's so expensive, spoke with 4 surgeons already. My head and facial bones don't allow for any surgery that will show good results. Head and face shape can't be changed, and both are really weird. Went to 2 stores with my mom today, people either made fun of me or looked at me weirdly.

Now what annoys me a lot, but my mom is right. Now my mom tells me I look good – but it's just to make me feel better (because she has contradicted herself, indirectly, in the past). She tells me, what I see in those "sick videos" (normal porn videos), is "not reality, because women aren't that good looking in real life. Good-looking women are very rare."

She also said, just hours ago, that "it [sex] is disgusting, and people [in society] are uglier than you think." Context: I rarely venture outside the house, expect to walk the dog.

She has lied to me in the past, said on the one hand, looks aren't important, on the other "sure I understand you want a pretty girlfriend. You can have on." the next week "no, you can't have one [because you're not that good looking." So, basically, she's indirectly trying to tell me, I'm too ugly/weird (and to some extent too short) for a pretty girlfriend (she doesn't explicitly say this, but that's her underhand message). She implies I should get an average one, but they are ugly imo (and also ugly to her, but I know she just means well and tries that I don't feel bad).

This makes me so sad, especially the part about "losing virginity between 16-20 is important"

Whats the name of your deformity
 
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I don't know how's your face, but if you're really that ugly, I think your height isn't that bad. And I really mean it, not coping. Think about it, if you were taller (let's say 6'0), people would notice you much more and you would be even more bullied for your face. And the height wouldn't help you get laid since your face is the problem. Or maybe if you were taller you'd be much more scary and then people would just let you alone, idk.

I know it's difficult, but I would completely forget about women forever, make friends online, if you haven't already find a way to make money from home, and find good hobbies to cope
Actually if he was taller people would be more intimidated by him and less likely to mock him directly.
 
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There's no point in looking like a man tbh. People will treat you way worse as cucked as it is and since you're ugly there's no point.
Nah I think they will mock him less because they are intimidated.
 
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I think that it's better to be phisycally disabled than being mentally disabled, because unless you have Down's syndrome, mental illness isn't immidiatelly noticed in a way, physical disabilities are, so people think that you're faking it to receive fake sympathy.
Interesting
 

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