idkwattodowithlife said:
Well, I guess youthfulness isn't whats cracked up to be? If you guys are in that much pain, it'd be bad to ignore, and let it go unnoticed. Looks like I'm wrong though. Its good, that you guys have added some light to this issue.
Here's some more to add. So you go make a Tinder profile, and you're already less attractive than most men, so you're already fucked. Now when you make Tinder, if you don't lie about your age, it lists your age. And you need a photograph.
So women see a guy who looks 17, but age says 28. What does a woman assume? That I'm super low T is one possible assumption. I might be slightly but not like those people who have never gone through puberty, I am well-developed everywhere BUT my face/facial hair - I have an adult's upper and lower body, maybe slightly smaller than most men my height/age but not so much that I would consider myself to be cursed like true framecels. I have thick chest hair, pubic hair, leg hair, etc. But because all they see is face and my average frame, they might assume I'm low T.
What's another assumption? That I'm using an old picture from 5+ years ago, and that I now look completely different and that I'm frauding. I'm not. I've considered having stuff in my photos that proves that they are recent enough, like current trends or band shirts or something, but I realized that I'd be putting in too much effort for something that will likely prove useless anyway, because I'm below average.
If they don't think I'm using an old picture, then they could just assume that I'm using a fake picture, fake profile, catfish basically. And I can totally understand why they would see it that way, and there is nothing I can do.
So, if online dating wasn't over for me as it is, it's super over for me now. Add to the fact that because I'm oldcel and didn't keep up with the trends, I feel out of touch with all of these dating apps anyway. I'm a high inhib, anxiety-ridden, excessively young-looking oldcel who is out of touch with the generation of women who are closest to me in age looks, and too young-looking and behind on general life development because I went back to uni for women of my age. It's so fucking over for me.