Hypocrisy "Life doesn't come with a handbook."

[UndeadDeadMan]

Background​

There's something ridiculously condescending about "Life doesn't come with a handbook.". Often the people that use this statement are trying to deflect responsibility, or refuse to share important information that could help others move forward with their lives. It's also used to justify massive wealth transfers from the working class to the rich and unrestrained hypergamy. They're often well-off folks that spout other related statements such as "money doesn't matter". The general idea is that if you're stuck with a certain problem or situation in life, you have to unshit yourself, stop complaining, and stop bothering people with your problems. Unsurprisingly, this is often said to sub5 men and incels in an attempt to placate their legitimate concerns and pains.

Why "Life doesn't come with a handbook." doesn't live up to reality​

But there's only one problem... if life doesn't come with a handbook, where's the reference point for doing things? How can anybody tell me if I'm doing something correctly or not? Who's authority is it, to say that I should or shouldn't do X or Y with my life? How come some kid is a millionaire at 21 years old while I'm a 32 year old IT industry cuck? If you were born in a family of athletes, would you not share all your knowledge with your kids, if you have them and they want to become athletes too? Isn't that body of knowledge - and the act of sharing that knowledge - the handbook that people keep saying doesn't exist?

There's many things I don't know how to do. But because I'm an ugly and short sub5, people are usually reluctant to help me, so I spend obscene amounts of time looking up things on search engines (and today LLMs) in the hopes that I can learn a skill that someone else takes for granted because they were taught that skill when they were kids (not to mention all the emotional support and resources provided). Then I have to actually experiment with the information obtained on my own, and that may or may not cost money that I may or may not have. The experiment might not even be successful, which means I lose money and time. Not to mention the endless humiliation rituals sustained for repeated failed experiments. And in some cases it might actually be dangerous:

'Shy and awkward' student, 19, faces JAIL after sex assault conviction

Durham University student Jamie Griffiths, 19, Googled 'how to make a friend' then came into contact with the 17-year-old girl during two attempts to engage her in conversation.

www.dailymail.co.uk

JFL at this clown world, what nightmare society do we live in where you can potentially be imprisoned for lightly touching someones arm

This guy was so broken he googled 'how to make a friend'. And once the media found out about this, they emphasized it in horror.

Not to mention, our society has laws, social norms, cultural expectations. If life doesn't come with the handbook, then why do these things I've listed exist, and why should I care about them? I'll tell you why - if you break the law, your ass is fined or going to jail. If you break social norms and cultural expectations, your ostracized or even beaten. It's also a denial of cause-and-effect, which I've talked about briefly in replies to other threads:

Normies would have to care about cause and effect for something like this to budge. The problem is, if they started caring about that, the system and its narratives would collapse. So what the system does - via TV, social media, even schools, etc. - is incentivize them to NOT care about cause and effect.

What "Life doesn't come with a handbook." actually is​

It's a form of Information Warfare, because useful information is gatekept, denied, destroyed, manipulated or allowed depending on certain objectives. Those who thrive in life don't want to tell others exactly what their process was (and what kind of resources they had access to), because that would probably tarnish the narrative that "they got there all by themselves". And so those with genuine struggles are dismissed and left in the dust. Confusion or lack of knowledge is treated like a serious personal failure, and it's a hook for future and continued gaslighting.

The places or stages where that Information Warfare takes place are also important to consider. It's all in these neatly designed social media platforms with all these colorful buttons and navigation panels. Infinite scrolling is specifically designed to make it harder to relate concepts and ideas to each other, thus making pattern recognition/detection also harder.

This expression is very popular with the baby boomers, because many bought a bunch of properties and have good positions in companies, and they don't want younger people to have the same opportunities - especially if they're sub5 young males. So rather than pass the torch, they put out the fire, then say "oh you know, life has no instruction manual, figure out how to light that up again lol". Completely infuriating hypocrisy.

Closing words​

Whenever I head this expression, I immediately distance myself from the person/people who said it, because I already know I'll be facing endless gaslighting and bullshit, and I'm nowhere nearer the solution I was looking for. If anything, it gives them a social boost, because they can contrast themselves with the "loser", thus exalting their own (already superior) social status.

In addition to being stupid, it's also dangerous due to disregard for cause and effect. "Life not having a handbook" implies causeless effects, it implies that everything is 100% random all the time, and that you can't know anything. It's also the reason why it took so long for me to discover my health conditions (in hindsight with really obvious symptoms that everyone conveniently ignored).