I'm less than 2 years away from 40 and it's almost like a relief. I feel that society is greatly skewed towards our sexualized years, say 20-40. As I get older I feel I am closer to being "off the hook" when it comes to being a sexual being, like soon enough my failure will be so permanent that it may not drag on me any longer. It's like you can only have anxiety about something that is uncertain, and this certainty allows you to let go.
Like, if you are pro-natalist, you could chastise a single woman in her 20s who is avoiding having children. But there's no point in trying to change her mind when she is 50, it is over. In a similar way, I will fade further into the background of life, I'll just be a lonely unc, not a man who is actively losing a competition because it is done already.
I might change how I feel if we soon get really good anti-aging tech. Then everybody will be permanently in bodies of 20s and 30s and judged sexually until they die.