Keeping a count/diary of nights out / events / social gatherings. What should be the number before giving up on going out?

[fred_herbert]

I used to never go out to bars / clubs / events until my mid 20's. As someone who's not NT, I never had an interest in night life, clubbing, etc. I used to believe that I was incel simply because I did not get into situations where girls would notice me. I think this is a legit explanation for inceldom if you have purely mental issues, but probably not if your problems are physical, i.e. manlet, ugly, etc.

Starting around my mid 20's I decided to change that in order to figure things out and forced myself to go to those places. Usually alone, from time to time with friends. I would go to random bars, events, clubs at night, usually several in one night. Often I meet groups of strangers (usually male) who accept me and let me join them bar / club hopping. I've probably talked to / drank with thousands of strangers by now. Considering how easy it is for me to connect with strangers I think my social skills are not that bad.

I've kept a count / diary of those nights and by now they are around 80 or so. Needless to say, none of those nights resulted in me finding a girl that would show interest, let alone getting approached, getting a number, having a kiss or even sex.

So my success rate would be 0/80 so far. Some normies I know have a success rate of 1/10 or something along those lines. Someone who's a slayer might have something like 1/2.

So my question is, is it worth to keep going? If this was you, after how many nights out would you give up? 50? 100? 1000? 10 000? Keep in mind that those opportunities are limited, there are only 2 days a week where night life is busy (friday and saturday) and only around 6 months where the weather is good, which means you have only around 50 opportunities for going out per year. After how many nights out would you give up?

 

[ZtarvationArmy]

155. For many incels going out alone it takes only 5 to know it's over if you are helplessly autistic every time, which you are not. If you can connect with strangers and keep a conversation you have some hope left and may just need more time.

 

[Epedaphic]

Shit, good job for trying. A lot more than most people here can say.

How many years did it take to get to 80 tries?

It may be better for you to try daytime things instead of nightlife. Although it sounds like you may have tried some. Like sports, festivals, that kind of thing.

 

[fred_herbert]

Shit, good job for trying. A lot more than most people here can say.

How many years did it take to get to 80 tries?

It may be better for you to try daytime things instead of nightlife. Although it sounds like you may have tried some. Like sports, festivals, that kind of thing.

Thanks. It took around 5-6 years, granted 2019-2021 I almost never went out due to coronavirus and other reasons. So I'd say maybe 25-30 nights out per year.

I've been to some daytime events, small festivals, etc, I included those in my count. I think those might actually give you better chances, simply due to the number of participants, usually bars / clubs have less than 100 people, while those events it could be thousands, giving you more opportunities to approach or get approached. I should focus more on these indeed.