Nordicel94
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Inspired by a pinned thread.
Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value.
Your confidence "stocks" that you have accumulated throughout your life can be attributed to looks, achievements, status, social validation, love from family etc. It's anchored in real life experience = value. When a successful, good looking person walks around being confident, everyone knows that their confidence is backed up by value.
"Just be confident" is nonsensical advice. If you have nothing to base your confidence on, it's not backed up by anything. If you go into that mindset, you're basically printing money out of thin air, creating worthless currency. You're causing your own inflation. People might at first look at you and be impressed at you being so confident, but it's not sustainable, because that confidence is rooted in nothing. Eventually, the crash comes and people see through you, that you've basically been showing off with nothing to show for. Your stocks are worthless. You're a fraud. Impostor syndrome will get to you.
"Fake it til you make it" is an extension to this. The thing here is almost the same. Pretending to be something you're not might work for a while, but then the bubble will burst because you have no foundation. You might fraud yourself into being admitted to taking Maths at Yale, attend all the lectures, pretend to understand, you may even start to believe that you understand, you make friends with the other student but when that first exam comes, you'll be dumbfounded. You shouldn't have been there in the first place, you didn't have the talent that everyone else did that gave them confidence that they would succeed at Yale. If you "fake it til you make it"-you will ALWAYS be exposed or self-sabotage.
One time I saw someone give the advice: "Just imagine the confidence you would have after winning an Olympic Gold Medal, just get into that frame of mind and walk around and talk to girls". Jfl. That's not something that can be manufactured by a brain that has never kissed a girl.
Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value.
Your confidence "stocks" that you have accumulated throughout your life can be attributed to looks, achievements, status, social validation, love from family etc. It's anchored in real life experience = value. When a successful, good looking person walks around being confident, everyone knows that their confidence is backed up by value.
"Just be confident" is nonsensical advice. If you have nothing to base your confidence on, it's not backed up by anything. If you go into that mindset, you're basically printing money out of thin air, creating worthless currency. You're causing your own inflation. People might at first look at you and be impressed at you being so confident, but it's not sustainable, because that confidence is rooted in nothing. Eventually, the crash comes and people see through you, that you've basically been showing off with nothing to show for. Your stocks are worthless. You're a fraud. Impostor syndrome will get to you.
"Fake it til you make it" is an extension to this. The thing here is almost the same. Pretending to be something you're not might work for a while, but then the bubble will burst because you have no foundation. You might fraud yourself into being admitted to taking Maths at Yale, attend all the lectures, pretend to understand, you may even start to believe that you understand, you make friends with the other student but when that first exam comes, you'll be dumbfounded. You shouldn't have been there in the first place, you didn't have the talent that everyone else did that gave them confidence that they would succeed at Yale. If you "fake it til you make it"-you will ALWAYS be exposed or self-sabotage.
One time I saw someone give the advice: "Just imagine the confidence you would have after winning an Olympic Gold Medal, just get into that frame of mind and walk around and talk to girls". Jfl. That's not something that can be manufactured by a brain that has never kissed a girl.