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Blackpill "Just be confident inkwell" - why confidence can't be created out of thin air

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Inspired by a pinned thread.

Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value.

Your confidence "stocks" that you have accumulated throughout your life can be attributed to looks, achievements, status, social validation, love from family etc. It's anchored in real life experience = value. When a successful, good looking person walks around being confident, everyone knows that their confidence is backed up by value.

"Just be confident" is nonsensical advice. If you have nothing to base your confidence on, it's not backed up by anything. If you go into that mindset, you're basically printing money out of thin air, creating worthless currency. You're causing your own inflation. People might at first look at you and be impressed at you being so confident, but it's not sustainable, because that confidence is rooted in nothing. Eventually, the crash comes and people see through you, that you've basically been showing off with nothing to show for. Your stocks are worthless. You're a fraud. Impostor syndrome will get to you.

"Fake it til you make it" is an extension to this. The thing here is almost the same. Pretending to be something you're not might work for a while, but then the bubble will burst because you have no foundation. You might fraud yourself into being admitted to taking Maths at Yale, attend all the lectures, pretend to understand, you may even start to believe that you understand, you make friends with the other student but when that first exam comes, you'll be dumbfounded. You shouldn't have been there in the first place, you didn't have the talent that everyone else did that gave them confidence that they would succeed at Yale. If you "fake it til you make it"-you will ALWAYS be exposed or self-sabotage.

One time I saw someone give the advice: "Just imagine the confidence you would have after winning an Olympic Gold Medal, just get into that frame of mind and walk around and talk to girls". Jfl. That's not something that can be manufactured by a brain that has never kissed a girl.
 
confidence is also heavily based on aura.

If you are attractive and somehow insecure, you will be perceived as confident regardless.

Although, typically attractive people are the most confident, so it makes absolutely no sense to claim that confidence is a true factor.
 
Based thread. Confidence comes from success. Too many people think success comes from confidence, when it’s the other way around. I can be confident in my mechanical skills because most of the repairs I do succeed. I have no confidence with women because I have 0 success to my name. Confidence can’t be spawned out of nothing
 
Sometimes we need a healthy dose of water. Everything is water at this point. If we stopped mentioning stuff like this we’d have nothing to talk about
 
Sometimes we need a healthy dose of water. Everything is water at this point. If we stopped mentioning stuff like this we’d have nothing to talk about

These days I am enjoying more threads about rant and personal experiences. It is not like we are running out of things to say.

But I can see why somoeme new to the blackpill would enjoy this thread.
 
These days I am enjoying more threads about rant and personal experiences. It is not like we are running out of things to say.

But I can see why somoeme new to the blackpill would enjoy this thread.
Personal rants are nice too. I’ve made enough of them myself. Earlier today I made a thread because I couldn’t sleep when the normie retards were cutting the grass while I was trying to sleep. Boy, I wish I could rev up engines at night when they try to sleep and bother them in return
 
Personal rants are nice too. I’ve made enough of them myself. Earlier today I made a thread because I couldn’t sleep when the normie retards were cutting the grass while I was trying to sleep. Boy, I wish I could rev up engines at night when they try to sleep and bother them in return
thats my biggest problem going to sleep during the day. The noise is just too much. Unless I am really tired is hard to sleep here. There is always construction noise, people screamming motorcycles etc.
 
thats my biggest problem going to sleep during the day. The noise is just too much. Unless I am really tired is hard to sleep here. There is always construction noise, people screamming motorcycles etc.
Same. I hate how often my sleep gets ruined
 
Based thread. Confidence comes from success. Too many people think success comes from confidence, when it’s the other way around. I can be confident in my mechanical skills because most of the repairs I do succeed. I have no confidence with women because I have 0 success to my name. Confidence can’t be spawned out of nothing
Thanks man. Yeah if confidence was something that could be spawned out of nothing, everyone would turn it on in the morning and have an amazing day. Same goes for happiness. We're evolved to survive, not necessarily to be happy all the time. Happiness is a reward we get for achievements that further our survival and the survival of our genes.

Spawning confidence and happiness can only be done with drugs, and even then it's unsustainable, fake and destructive.
 
Thanks man. Yeah if confidence was something that could be spawned out of nothing, everyone would turn it on in the morning and have an amazing day. Same goes for happiness. We're evolved to survive, not necessarily to be happy all the time. Happiness is a reward we get for achievements that further our survival and the survival of our genes.

Spawning confidence and happiness can only be done with drugs, and even then it's unsustainable, fake and destructive.
:yes: :yes: :yes: Yep. Confidence is a byproduct of success, nothing more. Just like exhaust is a byproduct from a car engine using an air fuel mixture to power the engine
 
Inspired by a pinned thread.

Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value.

Your confidence "stocks" that you have accumulated throughout your life can be attributed to looks, achievements, status, social validation, love from family etc. It's anchored in real life experience = value. When a successful, good looking person walks around being confident, everyone knows that their confidence is backed up by value.

"Just be confident" is nonsensical advice. If you have nothing to base your confidence on, it's not backed up by anything. If you go into that mindset, you're basically printing money out of thin air, creating worthless currency. You're causing your own inflation. People might at first look at you and be impressed at you being so confident, but it's not sustainable, because that confidence is rooted in nothing. Eventually, the crash comes and people see through you, that you've basically been showing off with nothing to show for. Your stocks are worthless. You're a fraud. Impostor syndrome will get to you.

"Fake it til you make it" is an extension to this. The thing here is almost the same. Pretending to be something you're not might work for a while, but then the bubble will burst because you have no foundation. You might fraud yourself into being admitted to taking Maths at Yale, attend all the lectures, pretend to understand, you may even start to believe that you understand, you make friends with the other student but when that first exam comes, you'll be dumbfounded. You shouldn't have been there in the first place, you didn't have the talent that everyone else did that gave them confidence that they would succeed at Yale. If you "fake it til you make it"-you will ALWAYS be exposed or self-sabotage.

One time I saw someone give the advice: "Just imagine the confidence you would have after winning an Olympic Gold Medal, just get into that frame of mind and walk around and talk to girls". Jfl. That's not something that can be manufactured by a brain that has never kissed a girl.
I once was embarrassed in front of the whole class by an experienced university teacher after making my presentation because it was a topic very hard, scientific and specific, and I had a very limited amount of information I could base myself on. So I went doing my presentation confidently telling myself I knew everything, and I ended up doing a shitty long presentation not saying much and sluttering all along. The worst moment came when he started to ask questions. I really got ridiculed that day
 
I once was embarrassed in front of the whole class by an experienced university teacher after making my presentation because it was a topic very hard, scientific and specific, and I had a very limited amount of information I could base myself on. So I went doing my presentation confidently telling myself I knew everything, and I ended up doing a shitty long presentation not saying much and sluttering all along. The worst moment came when he started to ask questions. I really got ridiculed that day
To be more general I always try being thoughtless and confident when I'm about to talk to someone or ask something and 100% of the time end up like shit
 
Inspired by a pinned thread.

Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value.

Your confidence "stocks" that you have accumulated throughout your life can be attributed to looks, achievements, status, social validation, love from family etc. It's anchored in real life experience = value. When a successful, good looking person walks around being confident, everyone knows that their confidence is backed up by value.

"Just be confident" is nonsensical advice. If you have nothing to base your confidence on, it's not backed up by anything. If you go into that mindset, you're basically printing money out of thin air, creating worthless currency. You're causing your own inflation. People might at first look at you and be impressed at you being so confident, but it's not sustainable, because that confidence is rooted in nothing. Eventually, the crash comes and people see through you, that you've basically been showing off with nothing to show for. Your stocks are worthless. You're a fraud. Impostor syndrome will get to you.

"Fake it til you make it" is an extension to this. The thing here is almost the same. Pretending to be something you're not might work for a while, but then the bubble will burst because you have no foundation. You might fraud yourself into being admitted to taking Maths at Yale, attend all the lectures, pretend to understand, you may even start to believe that you understand, you make friends with the other student but when that first exam comes, you'll be dumbfounded. You shouldn't have been there in the first place, you didn't have the talent that everyone else did that gave them confidence that they would succeed at Yale. If you "fake it til you make it"-you will ALWAYS be exposed or self-sabotage.

One time I saw someone give the advice: "Just imagine the confidence you would have after winning an Olympic Gold Medal, just get into that frame of mind and walk around and talk to girls". Jfl. That's not something that can be manufactured by a brain that has never kissed a girl.
Confidence without being good looking is just asking for trouble from soyciety.
 
"Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value."

Only the money being backed by something is wrong.

Modern money is straight up fraud. Backed by nothing.

There's no paper money on earth that has any real intrinsic value. (Like gold or silver or labor or dirt)
 
Inspired by a pinned thread.

Confidence is like a currency i.e paper money. It has to be backed up by something of real value.

Your confidence "stocks" that you have accumulated throughout your life can be attributed to looks, achievements, status, social validation, love from family etc. It's anchored in real life experience = value. When a successful, good looking person walks around being confident, everyone knows that their confidence is backed up by value.

"Just be confident" is nonsensical advice. If you have nothing to base your confidence on, it's not backed up by anything. If you go into that mindset, you're basically printing money out of thin air, creating worthless currency. You're causing your own inflation. People might at first look at you and be impressed at you being so confident, but it's not sustainable, because that confidence is rooted in nothing. Eventually, the crash comes and people see through you, that you've basically been showing off with nothing to show for. Your stocks are worthless. You're a fraud. Impostor syndrome will get to you.

"Fake it til you make it" is an extension to this. The thing here is almost the same. Pretending to be something you're not might work for a while, but then the bubble will burst because you have no foundation. You might fraud yourself into being admitted to taking Maths at Yale, attend all the lectures, pretend to understand, you may even start to believe that you understand, you make friends with the other student but when that first exam comes, you'll be dumbfounded. You shouldn't have been there in the first place, you didn't have the talent that everyone else did that gave them confidence that they would succeed at Yale. If you "fake it til you make it"-you will ALWAYS be exposed or self-sabotage.

One time I saw someone give the advice: "Just imagine the confidence you would have after winning an Olympic Gold Medal, just get into that frame of mind and walk around and talk to girls". Jfl. That's not something that can be manufactured by a brain that has never kissed a girl.
Only place I'm confident is on a football pitch is because I'm somewhat decent
 
Confidence with out being aware of what will work and what won’t work is just a form of being logically impaired. You have to have some kind of idea of what will work to have a genuine sense of confidence. When someone has no idea what will work and they’re confident their confidence is fake. If a foid is showing signs of liking a guy and he makes a move he makes his move out of a place of confidence that tells him what he’s trying will work because the foid likes him. if a foid is not showing signs of liking a guy and the guy is showing signs of confidence he will just come off as the guy who should not get any further.
 

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