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Nordicel94
Pancake-faced viking-cel
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Entering adolescence, most people are anxious about how they're perceived by the opposite sex, what their SMV will be, when they're going to get any action.
But by the time they're 14/15 most people have had their first kiss, and by the time they're 17/18, they've lost their virginity. They can then let go of all that fear and anxiety because they've been validated. An 18-year old guy knows that if he can get one girl to sleep with him, he can get more than one to do so. That gives him confidence and reassurance that he has "got IT". They can. then focus on future milestones.
As for me, I'm 30 and I'm still in the perpetual anxiety phase of feeling invalidated and overlooked. From a sexually developmental point of view, I'm still a 14 year old boy. People my age have kids who are starting school, they're buying houses, going on vacations. Sex is just a natural part of life to them, as natural as eating breakfast, while it completely consumes my mind because I've never experienced it.
Life is like a row of domino bricks, if you don't manage to topple the first one, the rest won't move. You'll be stuck in life. Had you kissed a girl when you were 14, you probably wouldn't have been here right now.
But by the time they're 14/15 most people have had their first kiss, and by the time they're 17/18, they've lost their virginity. They can then let go of all that fear and anxiety because they've been validated. An 18-year old guy knows that if he can get one girl to sleep with him, he can get more than one to do so. That gives him confidence and reassurance that he has "got IT". They can. then focus on future milestones.
As for me, I'm 30 and I'm still in the perpetual anxiety phase of feeling invalidated and overlooked. From a sexually developmental point of view, I'm still a 14 year old boy. People my age have kids who are starting school, they're buying houses, going on vacations. Sex is just a natural part of life to them, as natural as eating breakfast, while it completely consumes my mind because I've never experienced it.
Life is like a row of domino bricks, if you don't manage to topple the first one, the rest won't move. You'll be stuck in life. Had you kissed a girl when you were 14, you probably wouldn't have been here right now.