that's the funny thing. literally "grass is always greener on the other side".
notice how all of us, all of us are probably living in much better conditions than the average medieval citizen in the 1400's?
human fulfillment does not work like "HAVE SOMETHING = FEEL GOOD FOREVER". The only people really suffering are those without basic needs. food, shelter, etc. Once our basic phisiological needs are met, we all basically feel the same. Give a homless person a house, he'll feel great, but then he returns to baseline. give him a bigger house? he'll go back to that regular baseline when the novelty wears away.
give anyone in this thread the "one thing" they think they need to feel happy. a lambo, a new computer, a bigger house, whatever the fuck object you can name. whatever income or job you can name. They go back to baseline of boredom, and wondering what the fuck the point of living on this rock in space is.
we all have existential dread once we have food. we just distract ourselves daily. drugs, video games, (chads nutting inside of foids), working for a shinier chandelier. all cope.
life is suffering mate. no one has happiness. they're just in a state of nonsuffering temporarily.
this
even in the worst countries on earth people are now living like nobility 150 years ago
- running water
- toilets
- smartphones
- electritiy
- public transport, cars (imagine owning a carriage back in the day)
- much cheaper food, access to meat
- superior basic health care (talking about basic shit like surgery, setting bones etc)
Human happiness simply can not be based on material shit, or all of our ancestors would have roped instantly. My grandma did not even have a toilet, they shit in a river in the 50s, from one of these wooden porta potty looking things with a hole in the seat.
Yes, some of it is physical, like gut health and shit, but a lot of it is also purely mental/spiritual. They did surveys on africans living in shitholes like somalia, and even there, homeless people are suprisingly "happy."
It mostly comes down to social connections.
In this giga long term harvard project they found that the one thing that makes a difference is social connections. If you have good supportive social connections, everything else does not even fucking matter.
In 1938, Harvard researchers embarked on a decades-long study to find out: What is the secret to a happy life? Contrary to what think, it's not career achievement, money, exercise, or a healthy diet.
www.cnbc.com
I used to work in a nursing home for extremely demented people until I developed brainrot myself and was hospitalized.
My observation was that even potato level demented people were clearly the happiest when surrounded by loving family members. They would break out of their haze, smile, laugh etc. People can tell when they are appreciated, even when completely demented.
When I was homeless for 9 months in 2021 I saw the same thing. Even homeless people mostly cope by having community, sharing time together etc.
Another thing is that some disabilities make you very social and happy, like down syndrome
This one too:
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_niLYtrm-w
People that take care of down syndrome people usually love them very much and enjoy being with them. The reason is that down syndrome people are the most low-inhib, NT people ever. Like, they are fucking insane but very joyful.
Thats why for a long time, conditions that cut you off from social life (i.e. autism) were considered worse than down syndrome. Because social validation = literal lifefuel. And if you are incalable of feeling that validation like with autism or because of acquired trauma, you are litrally a walking zombie without any joy.
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jy9sHTFp7D8