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Theory Is Social Anxiety Rational?

Esoteric7

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I have social anxiety. We’re told that social anxiety is a mental malfunction, a “disorder” that needs fixing. But I believe it's not a defect, it’s a sane reaction to how people actually behave.

Why Social Anxiety Makes Perfect Sense:

Strangers make snap judgments about your looks, status, intelligence, and worth within seconds of seeing you. If you’re nervous around people, it’s because they really are evaluating you.

The more “developed” a country is, the more fake, transactional, and hostile social interactions become. In tribal/village life, people needed each other. Now you’re one awkward moment away from being screenshotted and mocked online. Result: hyper-awareness in social settings isn’t irrational, it’s adaptive.

Normies: “Just be yourself! No one’s judging!" Also normies: [Records your stumble in public, posts it to TikTok with clown emojis]. The gaslighting is insane. You’re not paranoid, people are that cruel.

Low Status = High Risk
If you’re unattractive, poor, or socially unskilled, every interaction carries higher stakes. One wrong move, and you’re labeled a “creep” or “weirdo.” Meanwhile, attractive people can say/do whatever they want. Anxiety isn’t distributed equally, it’s a privilege tax.

The Irony of ‘First World’ Social Hell:

Wealth ≠ Civility. In fact, richer societies have more loneliness, narcissism, and social stratification.

Technology = Permanent records. Every awkward moment can now be digitally preserved and weaponized.

Therapy Gaslighting: They pathologize your fear of judgment while ignoring that judgment is REAL and OFTEN devastating.

Why ‘Exposure Therapy’ Feels Like Bullshit:

Forcing yourself into social situations doesn’t change how people treat you, it just desensitizes you to pain. It’s like telling someone with a fear of snakes to hug a cobra and hoping it won’t bite.

Conclusion:
Social anxiety isn’t a brain defect, it’s a correct assessment of risk.

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re just paying attention.
  • If you’re low-status, people will mistreat you.
  • If you’re unattractive, your mistakes will be magnified.
  • If you’re introverted, the world will punish you for it.
 
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  • If you’re low-status, people will mistreat you.
  • If you’re unattractive, your mistakes will be magnified.
  • If you’re introverted, the world will punish you for it.
i've always been all three, no wonder i always suffered with GAD among other things
 
Why wouldn’t you be anxious when every social interaction reminds you of your suffering? You’re one wrong word away from getting laughed at or humiliated.
 
Social anxiety is a warning to you that if you mess up some important social interaction in an embarassing way your imaginary social status will become low as shit and there is a real threat you might be kicked from your tribe. Becoming a lone wolf in nature almost always means death. Social anxiety is a necessary evil to ensure one's survival in nature.
 
I have social anxiety. We’re told that social anxiety is a mental malfunction, a “disorder” that needs fixing. But I believe it's not a defect, it’s a sane reaction to how people actually behave.

Why Social Anxiety Makes Perfect Sense:

Strangers make snap judgments about your looks, status, intelligence, and worth within seconds of seeing you. If you’re nervous around people, it’s because they really are evaluating you.

The more “developed” a country is, the more fake, transactional, and hostile social interactions become. In tribal/village life, people needed each other. Now you’re one awkward moment away from being screenshotted and mocked online. Result: hyper-awareness in social settings isn’t irrational, it’s adaptive.

Normies: “Just be yourself! No one’s judging!" Also normies: [Records your stumble in public, posts it to TikTok with clown emojis]. The gaslighting is insane. You’re not paranoid, people are that cruel.

Low Status = High Risk
If you’re unattractive, poor, or socially unskilled, every interaction carries higher stakes. One wrong move, and you’re labeled a “creep” or “weirdo.” Meanwhile, attractive people can say/do whatever they want. Anxiety isn’t distributed equally, it’s a privilege tax.

The Irony of ‘First World’ Social Hell:

Wealth ≠ Civility. In fact, richer societies have more loneliness, narcissism, and social stratification.

Technology = Permanent records. Every awkward moment can now be digitally preserved and weaponized.

Therapy Gaslighting: They pathologize your fear of judgment while ignoring that judgment is REAL and OFTEN devastating.

Why ‘Exposure Therapy’ Feels Like Bullshit:

Forcing yourself into social situations doesn’t change how people treat you, it just desensitizes you to pain. It’s like telling someone with a fear of snakes to hug a cobra and hoping it won’t bite.

Conclusion:
Social anxiety isn’t a brain defect, it’s a correct assessment of risk.

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re just paying attention.
  • If you’re low-status, people will mistreat you.
  • If you’re unattractive, your mistakes will be magnified.
  • If you’re introverted, the world will punish you for it.
Well yes its a defense mechanism by the brain no? Letting you know like fuck this stop this social stuff we know what happens lets leave.
 
Absolutely, the reason we have it is because of how hellish social interaction was for us growing up.

Blue pillers will just want us to keep touching that hot stove because maybe it won’t burn you this time.

They have no idea what they are talking about, but that won’t stop them from giving advice.
 
I have social anxiety. We’re told that social anxiety is a mental malfunction, a “disorder” that needs fixing. But I believe it's not a defect, it’s a sane reaction to how people actually behave.

Why Social Anxiety Makes Perfect Sense:

Strangers make snap judgments about your looks, status, intelligence, and worth within seconds of seeing you. If you’re nervous around people, it’s because they really are evaluating you.

The more “developed” a country is, the more fake, transactional, and hostile social interactions become. In tribal/village life, people needed each other. Now you’re one awkward moment away from being screenshotted and mocked online. Result: hyper-awareness in social settings isn’t irrational, it’s adaptive.

Normies: “Just be yourself! No one’s judging!" Also normies: [Records your stumble in public, posts it to TikTok with clown emojis]. The gaslighting is insane. You’re not paranoid, people are that cruel.

Low Status = High Risk
If you’re unattractive, poor, or socially unskilled, every interaction carries higher stakes. One wrong move, and you’re labeled a “creep” or “weirdo.” Meanwhile, attractive people can say/do whatever they want. Anxiety isn’t distributed equally, it’s a privilege tax.

The Irony of ‘First World’ Social Hell:

Wealth ≠ Civility. In fact, richer societies have more loneliness, narcissism, and social stratification.

Technology = Permanent records. Every awkward moment can now be digitally preserved and weaponized.

Therapy Gaslighting: They pathologize your fear of judgment while ignoring that judgment is REAL and OFTEN devastating.

Why ‘Exposure Therapy’ Feels Like Bullshit:

Forcing yourself into social situations doesn’t change how people treat you, it just desensitizes you to pain. It’s like telling someone with a fear of snakes to hug a cobra and hoping it won’t bite.

Conclusion:
Social anxiety isn’t a brain defect, it’s a correct assessment of risk.

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re just paying attention.
  • If you’re low-status, people will mistreat you.
  • If you’re unattractive, your mistakes will be magnified.
  • If you’re introverted, the world will punish you for it.
If you are ugly it's completely rational
 
Social anxiety is a result of pattern recognition. Our brains have been conditioned over the years to associate social interaction with emotional pain, thus triggering a "fight or flight" response to protect us from further harm.
 
We live in an abonormally large and ((Diverse)) societies, so of course you will have axiety.

Its because of ((J00S)) that we made every behavior that risks them getting exposed, or is a behavior that is good and healthy for people, as "Mental Ilness".
 
When it feels like half of every social interaction I have ends with people wanting me dead due to misunderstandings and deliberate misinterpretations I wonder why I'm feeling anxious in social situations...
 
high iq post :bigbrain:, i do have social anxiety and what u wrote is true
 
What you say is very true. It makes me very angry when normie psychologists say that social anxiety is “erroneous beliefs.”
 
it is rational; and such behaviors are generally rational.
Anxiety is rational
Depression is rational
Trauma is rational
They're evolved behaviors, not mistakes.
 
In my life experience (40+ years), most people are usually pretty nice, but about 10% of people in the population are cruel, mean, and abusive. That means about 1 out of 10 of your interactions with people in public will be mildly to very negative. Social anxiety is a completely rational defense mechanism to protect yourself from such interactions.
 
  • If you’re low-status, people will mistreat you.
  • If you’re unattractive, your mistakes will be magnified.
  • If you’re introverted, the world will punish you for it.
i've always been all three, no wonder i always suffered with GAD among other things
 
Yes, it’s rational. But exposure is actually effective because it makes you numb to the danger. Obviously the danger will always be there.

Being scared of heights is a rational fear. But skydiving everyday will probably make you numb to that fear. It doesn’t mean the danger disappeared. Same with dangerous animals, etc. all rational but exposure is still effective.

It’s a mistake to think that exposure is exposing you to the fact that social situations aren’t dangerous; obviously social ostracism is biologically very dangerous and significantly more likely if you’re an ugly, dysgenic untermensch.
 
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