Serious Is it normal when you dont wanna be surrounded by other people as a kid?

[DestroyedLife]

Because of bad experience in the past ? Iam talking about the age of four or 5.

 

[Deleted member 8499]

Idk. I suppose not. It's normal to be socializing - the way a 5 yo does that- at that age but then again you mention a bad experience that might leave a trauma which is not normal

 

[DestroyedLife]

Idk. I suppose not. It's normal to be socializing - the way a 5 yo does that- at that age but then again you mention a bad experience that might leave a trauma which is not normal

I was literally scared as fuck as i went into kindergarten the first day. I remember that i only followed the female assistant the whole kindergarten time, because i didnt know how to talk to other kids and i didnt trust them too.

 

[Deleted member 8499]

I was literally scared as fuck as i went into kindergarten the first day. I remember that i only followed the female assistant the whole kindergarten time, because i didnt know how to talk to other kids and i didnt trust them too.

Maybe you got autism or aspergers

 

[DestroyedLife]

Maybe you got autism or aspergers

Personality disorder.

 

[Grotesque]

No. It's a sign of a personality disorder and usually toxic relationship with your parents.

 

[DestroyedLife]

No. It's a sign of a personality disorder and usually toxic relationship with your parents.

Well my father always treated me like an object, abused me etc.... . My mother was the exact opposite of this and she cared very much about me. You could even call it overprojecting? So yeah... later in elementary school i learned to be more open and more funny and played the clown for a time just to protect myself from others. I saw people all my life as a threat to me.... and i cant even think how normies are able to live so happily not expecting the worst of the worst of others.

 

[Grotesque]

Well my father always treated me like an object, abused me etc.... . My mother was the exact opposite of this and she cared very much about me. You could even call it overprojecting? So yeah... later in elementary school i learned to be more open and more funny and played the clown for a time just to protect myself from others. I saw people all my life as a threat to me.... and i cant even think how normies are able to live so happily not expecting the worst of the worst of others.

Sounds very similar to my parents. Overbearing parents are a great way to create an incel.

 

[DestroyedLife]

Sounds very similar to my parents. Overbearing parents are a great way to create an incel.

I never had a serious healthy relationship to other people. It was all COPING. I tried to make the best out of my situations,, but when people came to close to me i cutted them off. Atleas tnowadays my relationship to my mother has gotten better and when iam visiting her, she realized that she made many mistakes during my past. But whatever, i dont blame her since she always wanted the best for me.

 

[CaptainCuck]

I can relate.

I have been a loner my entire life. As a baby I apparently ignored other children and played by myself, which worried the carers and my parents.

I'm almost 30 now and am still pretty much the same as then with regard to being completely disinterested in socializing / doing anything with other people.

 

[deadman123]

Because of bad experience in the past ? Iam talking about the age of four or 5.

Yeah you think they might wanna start trouble