Discussion Is "growing up" even possible in 2026

[Homegrownman326]

I'm at an age where life is undergoing significant changes. I'm a young adult, and my teenage years are coming to a close. I've put some time into thinking about being an adult now. It's hard to believe and accept that I'm older. I wish I could stay a teen forever. Being an adult is about self-sacrifice. But in modernity, the question of what we're sacrificing our entire lives for is ambiguous. There's just no meaning at all. There are countless articles about people failing to "launch". About "man children". I think what they miss is that there's simply no reason, no purpose to grow up. Becoming an adult, in my view, is the act of sacrificing your own happiness and vitality for some purpose. How is that possible in a purposeless world? How can you be a responsible adult when there's nothing to be responsible for?

 

[ToBurble&Pine]

No
It's not possible for sub5 incels

 

[Bigmaxs]

Sometimes I dream about being a kid again and being dumb with my friends without a worry in the world it really is hard to accept that you're older now and for me personally it feels like time wasted and taken for granted. Only way it could even get slightly better is through financial freedom but even then we'll never have the bliss of being a kid again.

 

[SociallyStunted]

Well i think you're looking at it from a sub human point of view, growing up into an adult is what most normies look forward to since they can do alot more things + move out. Growing up is only possible for normies/foids and not for incels, since there is nothing we can grow up and look forward to.

 

[RBPilled]

I'm at an age where life is undergoing significant changes. I'm a young adult, and my teenage years are coming to a close. I've put some time into thinking about being an adult now. It's hard to believe and accept that I'm older. I wish I could stay a teen forever. Being an adult is about self-sacrifice. But in modernity, the question of what we're sacrificing our entire lives for is ambiguous. There's just no meaning at all. There are countless articles about people failing to "launch". About "man children". I think what they miss is that there's simply no reason, no purpose to grow up. Becoming an adult, in my view, is the act of sacrificing your own happiness and vitality for some purpose. How is that possible in a purposeless world? How can you be a responsible adult when there's nothing to be responsible for?

I felt like an adult when I was 15-16 and now feel like I'm 70

 

[Solid State]

It is not that much different for me than when I was a teenager, except I live by myself, take my meds and watch myself like a good boy and go to work and pay bills instead of going to school.

Everything else has been in a stasis since then.

 

[Todd Thundercock]

This is why there's so many doomers. Men who have nothing to fight for.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

I will never be able to grow up because I have missed out on so many developmental milestones.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

Well i think you're looking at it from a sub human point of view, growing up into an adult is what most normies look forward to since they can do alot more things + move out. Growing up is only possible for normies/foids and not for incels, since there is nothing we can grow up and look forward to.

 

[Shitskin=Shitlife]

It's not possible because we have passed fewer developmental milestones than a 14 year old boy. At least he has kissed a girl.

 

[ANTAGONIST]

It's not possible because we have passed fewer developmental milestones than a 14 year old boy. At least he has kissed a girl.

Truth. Society isn't entitled to our participation. We don't owe anything to the hivemind that rejected and humiliated us. "Growing up" is nowadays mostly a societal construct: from an animalistic perspective becoming pubescent and ascending would constitute "growing up" and we obviously didn't achieve that.

 

[troon]

there is nothing we can grow up and look forward to.

 

[The Supreme Goyim]

I'm at an age where life is undergoing significant changes. I'm a young adult, and my teenage years are coming to a close. I've put some time into thinking about being an adult now. It's hard to believe and accept that I'm older. I wish I could stay a teen forever. Being an adult is about self-sacrifice. But in modernity, the question of what we're sacrificing our entire lives for is ambiguous. There's just no meaning at all. There are countless articles about people failing to "launch". About "man children". I think what they miss is that there's simply no reason, no purpose to grow up. Becoming an adult, in my view, is the act of sacrificing your own happiness and vitality for some purpose. How is that possible in a purposeless world? How can you be a responsible adult when there's nothing to be responsible for?

I'm in the same boat bro, gotta figure out if ima become a NEET or try to act like a normie, get a full time job, get fake work "friends". Or ima Unabomber max and save up enough money to get a shack in the woods, jerk off to old hustlers and live peacefully.

 

[Homegrownman326]

Sometimes I dream about being a kid again and being dumb with my friends without a worry in the world it really is hard to accept that you're older now and for me personally it feels like time wasted and taken for granted. Only way it could even get slightly better is through financial freedom but even then we'll never have the bliss of being a kid again.

I look back on my elementary school days very fondly. It's hard to let the past go for me. That was the last time I had a real friend group. On the subject of "lost time". That only applies if you feel as if you could've used it better. In my case, I feel as if all time is ultimately wasted. Even if I do things I deem to be productive, time continues to move no matter what.

 

[Homegrownman326]

This is why there's so many doomers. Men who have nothing to fight for.

Not just fight, nothing to build, nothing to maintain, nothing to hope for.

 

[anotherwastedlife]

No
It's not possible for sub5 incels

 

[Homegrownman326]

It's not possible because we have passed fewer developmental milestones than a 14 year old boy. At least he has kissed a girl.

I'm skeptical whether vagina is as big of a motivator as it's claimed to be. Maybe for normscum but even if I "ascended" I can't see myself slaving away to make some foid her betabux.

 

[andrej]

This is why there's so many doomers. Men who have nothing to fight for.

 

[nazianime]

Not just fight, nothing to build, nothing to maintain, nothing to hope for.

This society offers nothing and takes everything. Takes our hobbies (and gives them to ewhores), takes our money (taxes), takes our rights (censorship laws), takes our culture (memes and lingo), takes our copes (absurd RAM and GPU prices)

 

[Chacalcel]

I'm at an age where life is undergoing significant changes. I'm a young adult, and my teenage years are coming to a close. I've put some time into thinking about being an adult now. It's hard to believe and accept that I'm older. I wish I could stay a teen forever. Being an adult is about self-sacrifice. But in modernity, the question of what we're sacrificing our entire lives for is ambiguous. There's just no meaning at all. There are countless articles about people failing to "launch". About "man children". I think what they miss is that there's simply no reason, no purpose to grow up. Becoming an adult, in my view, is the act of sacrificing your own happiness and vitality for some purpose. How is that possible in a purposeless world? How can you be a responsible adult when there's nothing to be responsible for?

Deshou? It's sad that we are programed-like to search meaning in something that doesn't have one, that's why there is religion and art

 

[Roastie Crusher]

to grow up you must go down to the bottom

 

[lennox]

Find or make purpose. Marriage is fickle and fails. Reproduction and raising children, I find that manufactured and for directionless people like yourself but it works to motivate people. We can't achieve these so other options are required. I think real purpose comes from helping others and the world, or by just getting to enjoy life.

 

[Homegrownman326]

Find or make purpose. Marriage is fickle and fails. Reproduction and raising children, I find that manufactured and for directionless people like yourself but it works to motivate people. We can't achieve these so other options are required. I think real purpose comes from helping others and the world, or by just getting to enjoy life.

"Purpose is being altruistic for no reason". "Find or make purpose". I find that manufactured and directionless. I'm highly skeptical of the idea that purpose can be made. Your opinions are those of soyciety.

 

[tehgymcel420]

I'm 30 and still feel like a kid

 

[Autistic Uggo]

How can you grow up when you've missed many key developmental milestone? It's ludicrous to think that a guy who hasn't even held a woman's hand is a well-rounded adult. On a social level, we're essentially still teenage boys. Inceldom forever arrests your development.

 

[lennox]

"Purpose is being altruistic for no reason". "Find or make purpose". I find that manufactured and directionless. I'm highly skeptical of the idea that purpose can be made. Your opinions are those of soyciety.

Purpose is like a reason that allows you to continue your existence on this planet. You can do with a temporary one that you don't think too deeply into as a motivator. Eg dudes grind to get girls. They don't think about how it's truly stupid but it's motivating.

My purposes actually have a lot of reasoning, I'm just abstracting to make conversation faster. Find some idea that resonates with you or what you like doing, figure out the source of its appeal and what you do for it for example

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

There are countless articles about people failing to "launch". About "man children". I think what they miss is that there's simply no reason

It's not that there's no reason to, but that it's impossible.
To grow up and be an adult you need two things: finding a place in society (aka earning enough money to be independent from your parents) and a partner. Us incels are restricted from the latter, and on most cases from the former too.

It's not possible because we have passed fewer developmental milestones than a 14 year old boy. At least he has kissed a girl.

Growing up is only possible for normies/foids

 

[Homegrownman326]

It's not that there's no reason to, but that it's impossible.
To grow up and be an adult you need two things: finding a place in society (aka earning enough money to be independent from your parents) and a partner. Us incels are restricted from the latter, and on most cases from the former too.

I think this is a broader problem because even normie sex havers aren't really growing up. We have it the worst, of course. I think a large part of being an adult is raising a family and controlling a bitch (being married). Monogamy has really ceased to exist in the current day due to feminism, and therefore marriage and the nuclear family have eroded. So much of human behavior is motivated by material conditions and social expectations. The societal social contract, which stipulates that you must work your life away, is hinged on men being married and having children. Since that is no longer the case, men feel no need to slave away. What I mean by "not growing up" is a mindset. It's a shift from the view of "life is meant to be enjoyed" to "life is a duty-bound struggle". There is nothing worth devoting yourself to as a man today, no matter who you are. Women, however, are unfazed by "purpose". Women are totally fine with having no purpose. Their drive originates in sublimating their child-caring behavior into caring for a corporation. Instead of caring for a baby, they care for their work, boss, and female coworkers. Women don't require a reason to strive or live. They do what they're told and are more than content with leading a meaningless life being a corporate drone. That's how we've arrived at this state of ever-increasing gynocracy.

 

[Thugcel]

I'm at an age where life is undergoing significant changes. I'm a young adult, and my teenage years are coming to a close. I've put some time into thinking about being an adult now. It's hard to believe and accept that I'm older. I wish I could stay a teen forever. Being an adult is about self-sacrifice. But in modernity, the question of what we're sacrificing our entire lives for is ambiguous. There's just no meaning at all. There are countless articles about people failing to "launch". About "man children". I think what they miss is that there's simply no reason, no purpose to grow up. Becoming an adult, in my view, is the act of sacrificing your own happiness and vitality for some purpose. How is that possible in a purposeless world? How can you be a responsible adult when there's nothing to be responsible for?

"Grow up" Hahahaha... no, i dont think so

 

[pisser]

I'm in the same boat bro, gotta figure out if ima become a NEET or try to act like a normie, get a full time job, get fake work "friends". Or ima Unabomber max and save up enough money to get a shack in the woods, jerk off to old hustlers and live peacefully.

Yeah super real man, ik ill probably commit to being a neet but my mothers gonna have a issue. Only time will tell where i end up lol

 

[St3v3Cel]

Growing up is only possible for normies/foids and not for incels, since there is nothing we can grow up and look forward to.