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Discussion Is anyone else here afraid of failing while trying?

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I used to be afraid of failing while putting effort because it would make me realize about my shortcomings, which I can never fix. That’s the reason why I didn’t put any effort during my time at uni, since if I performed badly, I would use the excuse of not trying to protect my ego. After becoming blackpilled about myself, that fear eventually disappeared.
 
Yes, I've always had this pattern recognition even when I was :bluepill: whenever I tried/put effort into something it always ended up bad.
Looks is everything unfortunately.:blackpill:
 
I used to be afraid of failing while putting effort because it would make me realize about my shortcomings, which I can never fix. That’s the reason why I didn’t put any effort during my time at uni, since if I performed badly, I would use the excuse of not trying to protect my ego. After becoming blackpilled about myself, that fear eventually disappeared.
It's because you know the outcome, at least your subconcious does. Failing for Chad almost never occurs, and if it does, he is given endless opportunity to redeem himself while getting continuous praise.

Cels don't live that life, and for that reason our brains have a survivorship bias to maintain what we got, even in the worst of situations, staying under the radar.

The good thing is when Chad does fail, he usually kills himself, where is't just another day for us.
 
I had huge social phobia for years. When I finally overcame the worst of it, I experienced the black pill first hand and realized it didn't even matter
 
Without sex and natural fulfillment, you can't actually reach any healthy form of self-actualization so you're basically comatose forever.
 
As they say. Some of us are so scared of taking the step because we think it will break the idea of greatness we have in our minds about our selves
I used to be afraid of failing while putting effort because it would make me realize about my shortcomings, which I can never fix. That’s the reason why I didn’t put any effort during my time at uni, since if I performed badly, I would use the excuse of not trying to protect my ego. After becoming blackpilled about myself, that fear eventually disappeared
 
In the past, yes. I always thought that I only got bad grades in school because I didn't try as hard as others, but when I tried my best and still didn't become as good as some people, I couldn't come up with excuses to protect my ego anymore. But this has never stopped me from actually trying my best.

Nowadays I don't care, I try to get the best I can get, I don't care how I compare with other people and what's my "worth" anymore.
 
Yes, I've always had this pattern recognition even when I was :bluepill: whenever I tried/put effort into something it always ended up bad.
Looks is everything unfortunately.:blackpill:
truth nuke
 
It is not just the initial failure and rejection itself, but also the negative social repercussions, consequences, or even legal trouble that could soon follow.

The person you approached will probably tell all her friends about the traumatic experience she had being hit on by some "creepy guy". Things get exaggerated as the gossip spreads and then all of the white knights and simps emerge to defend m'lady from you and make your life miserable.

If somebody like us was dumb enough to to this at work, we would immediately get called into the office and severely-reprimanded or terminated for a sexual harassment claim from said coworker.

In severe cases, a girl/woman might even decide to call the cops on you for feeling "unsafe" and claiming that you were about to sexually-assault her despite no evidence for her claim, and then you could end up arrested or in jail.

There are so many things that could go wrong, and "rejection" is the least of our worries in this regard.
 
Yeah me, and its ruined my life. I've recently come to realize that its not just failure that I fear but rather I fear the immense stamina required to pick myself up and try again and again. I just don't have the stamina to absorb failure multiple times while relentlessly moving forwards towards my goal; its exhausting for me to do that. This is why I'm such a big failure in life. I'm just a weak dysgenic piece of shit with low vitality and strength. Honestly, I should just be euthanized.
 
Truth be told i stopped trying years ago
 

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