Cope “Incels think having a girlfriend will solve their problems.”

[Lazyandtalentless]

People constantly say, “Incels think getting a girlfriend will solve all their problems,” but I do not believe that. Even if I somehow got into a relationship, the deeper issues wouldn’t magically go away.

Lookism would still exist. Society would still treat me differently because of how I look. It’s not like a girlfriend could erase the reality that being unattractive affects how people perceive you—not just in dating, but in jobs, friendships, and even basic respect. Heightism wouldn’t vanish either.

And as an autistic man, ableism is always present. Neurodivergent men are overlooked and misunderstood in almost every social situation. We’re labeled as “creepy” or “weird” just for existing differently. A relationship wouldn’t stop that stigma.

The point is, systemic biases don’t go away with a partner. They’re ingrained in how people treat you every day. Incels aren’t delusional for pointing this out. Having a girlfriend wouldn’t fix these issues; society itself has to change.

This is bigger than relationships—it’s about the way people like me are judged, excluded, and dehumanized. A girlfriend isn’t a solution to a world that constantly reminds me I’m less-than.

 

[Grodd]

Having a loyal girlfriend would solve 85% of my problems

 

[Kaichee]

I think my mental health is a real problem

 

[JKlancecaster069]

Having a girlfriend wouldn't solve all of my problems but it certainly would help.

 

[SilverBullet]

I’d still be in chronic pain and have trauma from years of bullying. Might help me mentally heal a bit IF she truly loves me, wouldnt save me though

 

[Chaircel]

Having a loyal girlfriend would solve 90% of my problems. I'm used to how society treats me and if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't really give a fuck about it (or at least not as much of a fuck about it) anyway. I've got a shit ton of trauma but honestly it's just something I need to live with at the end of the day.

 

[Incedel]

I stopped caring about gfs, now I just care about making them miserable. First step was voting for Trump in 2016 and abolishig WHORE vs WADE

 

[Todd Thundercock]

In my case, not only would a loyal loving life "fix my problems", it would be a benefit for all of society.

I would 100% be a productive wageslave homeowner if a woman mutually loved me.

The penalty for not providing me this is I will collect autismbux and leech every government penny I can for the rest of my life.

 

[Zedmund]

 

[ViciousKanga]

Don't get me wrong I would feel better 100%, but like others have said in this thread all the trauma I've dealt with for being unattractive is permanent and will forever have an impact on the way I view myself/the world.

 

[American_Psycho_X]

Water? A symptom, not the cause, of not fitting a.k.a. being an utter social failure, is not having a gf... or friends... Loneliness and emotional well being though, true love and friends would fix, but where o' where?

 

[AnonWojak]

If you live in a 1st world country all of your vital need are met to a certain degree, shelter and food. Leaving only your 3rd vital need to be met: intimacy, so yes a loyal gf would solve most of an incel's problems.

 

[American_Psycho_X]

If you live in a 1st world country all of your vital need are met to a certain degree, shelter and food. Leaving only your 3rd vital need to be met: intimacy, so yes a loyal gf would solve most of an incel's problems.

Are you talking about Maslow's Hierarchy of needs? There's 5 layers, most people only make it to 2 or 2.5.

 

[cunnylover69]

Lookism would still exist. Society would still treat me differently because of how I look. It’s not like a girlfriend could erase the reality that being unattractive affects how people perceive you—not just in dating, but in jobs, friendships, and even basic respect. Heightism wouldn’t vanish either.

Part of the fantasy of having a girlfriend (that actually loves you and not your money) is the fact that it means you aren't an ugly subhuman. So yeah if some girl wanted to get in a relationship with me it wouldn't solve my problems because she would probably just be trying to use me for something. But if I had a girlfriend who actually loved me for who I am it would mean that my face magically became more attractive and all my mental issues went away. Which of course would mean most of my problems would be gone. And obviously that will never happen without resetting my character in GTA.

Of course normies think they have problems because people get bored with their lives and fuck shit up. Thats just how the mind operates. They will never understand what its like to be hopeless and doomed to be alone for eternity because that problem doesn't exist for them. They experience love and validation and thus can focus on more frivolous matters that only normies care about. Thats why alot of women who transition into incels kill themselves. Their minds cannot deal with the suffering that we experience on a daily basis. Its like being sent directly to hell. No amount of rationale or empathy can make them understand what life is like as an incel, and if they were able to they would literally kill themselves.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

Having a loyal girlfriend would solve 85% of my problems

Probably would solve 60% of my problems

 

[biggestloser]

Probably would solve 60% of my problems

just fucking a foid would solve 100% of my poblems

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

just fucking a foid would solve 100% of my poblems

Based

 

[UglyDumbass]

People constantly say, “Incels think getting a girlfriend will solve all their problems,” but I do not believe that. Even if I somehow got into a relationship, the deeper issues wouldn’t magically go away.

Lookism would still exist. Society would still treat me differently because of how I look. It’s not like a girlfriend could erase the reality that being unattractive affects how people perceive you—not just in dating, but in jobs, friendships, and even basic respect. Heightism wouldn’t vanish either.

And as an autistic man, ableism is always present. Neurodivergent men are overlooked and misunderstood in almost every social situation. We’re labeled as “creepy” or “weird” just for existing differently. A relationship wouldn’t stop that stigma.

The point is, systemic biases don’t go away with a partner. They’re ingrained in how people treat you every day. Incels aren’t delusional for pointing this out. Having a girlfriend wouldn’t fix these issues; society itself has to change.

This is bigger than relationships—it’s about the way people like me are judged, excluded, and dehumanized. A girlfriend isn’t a solution to a world that constantly reminds me I’m less-than.

bro a girlfriend wouldn’t even last long Once they find out how much of a damn loser we are

 

[ilieknothing]

A homeless man getting a job and home won’t solve his problems

 

[Limitcel]

sex and a girlfriend are just a symbol that you are well integrated into society
it's like having a house and a car a symbol of financial success

 

[chudjak]

Having a (real life, not fictional perfect nonexistent) woman would not help anyone, it'd actually be a big time and money pit for nothing. Having a GF is simp behavior, who would ever trust a woman like that?

 

[BlackPilledNormi]

Well it would solve most of my problems at this point, but since my brain would get used to the new situation and a relationship would probably bring up new problems I would probably bring me back to where Im now in terms of happiness.

But still I want a gf even if I knew that wont give me infinit and everlasting happiness, it would solve my problems that I have now.

 

[Maocel]

People constantly say, “Incels think getting a girlfriend will solve all their problems,” but I do not believe that. Even if I somehow got into a relationship, the deeper issues wouldn’t magically go away.

Lookism would still exist. Society would still treat me differently because of how I look. It’s not like a girlfriend could erase the reality that being unattractive affects how people perceive you—not just in dating, but in jobs, friendships, and even basic respect. Heightism wouldn’t vanish either.

And as an autistic man, ableism is always present. Neurodivergent men are overlooked and misunderstood in almost every social situation. We’re labeled as “creepy” or “weird” just for existing differently. A relationship wouldn’t stop that stigma.

The point is, systemic biases don’t go away with a partner. They’re ingrained in how people treat you every day. Incels aren’t delusional for pointing this out. Having a girlfriend wouldn’t fix these issues; society itself has to change.

This is bigger than relationships—it’s about the way people like me are judged, excluded, and dehumanized. A girlfriend isn’t a solution to a world that constantly reminds me I’m less-than.

pin this saars

 

[Angry_runt]

Having a girlfriend is like a seal of approval from humanity. I know I'd feel a lot better knowing I'm just one of the guys and I have a shot.

 

[turbosperg]

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[Numetalist]

Don't get me wrong I would feel better 100%, but like others have said in this thread all the trauma I've dealt with for being unattractive is permanent and will forever have an impact on the way I view myself/the world.

real

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

A good girlfriend would solve a large portion of my problems—indirectly and directly.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

How many of my problems could a girlfriend fix? Let's see.

• Not having a girlfriend
• Low drive with studies, working out and career because I'll be an incel anyway
• Low self esteem from never being loved
• No social interactions
• Unsatisfied sex drive
• Unhealthy use if porn and AI chatbots
• Hatred for every human being
• Low IQ
• Ugly
• No talents or potential

I think that it would fix all my fixable problems and leave out only the genetic ones.

 

[BPmonk]

Truth.

Incels are literally the only downtrodden group that society refuses to even acknowledge, let alone address.

 

[Yabadadabadoo]

A gf would solve all my problems

 

[AutistSupremacist]

A gf would solve all my problems

 

[A.M.]

It would not

 

[Popovshishman]

How many of my problems could a girlfriend fix? Let's see.

• Not having a girlfriend
• Low drive with studies, working out and career because I'll be an incel anyway
• Low self esteem from never being loved
• No social interactions
• Unsatisfied sex drive
• Unhealthy use if porn and AI chatbots
• Hatred for every human being
• Low IQ
• Ugly
• No talents or potential

I think that it would fix all my fixable problems and leave out only the genetic ones.

Bump this minus the talent/potential and IQ
A gf would give us a reason to work hard

 

[slavcel11]

ok having a gf won't magically solve ALL of my problems, but some of them will go away and i will be able to better cope with the rest

 

[tari147]

Having a girlfriend would change my life. Yes, some problems would still exist but I would be much less depressed.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

Bump this minus the talent/potential and IQ
A gf would give us a reason to work hard

I already mentioned that in the "low drive with studies etc." Even when I work my hardest I don't reach great results because of my natural limits, but they would still be much better than the ones that I get now. In other words, the only problems that a girlfriend wouldn't fix are the one that couldn't be fixed anyway.

 

[Popovshishman]

I already mentioned that in the "low drive with studies etc." Even when I work my hardest I don't reach great results because of my natural limits, but they would still be much better than the ones that I get now. In other words, the only problems that a girlfriend wouldn't fix are the one that couldn't be fixed anyway.

Yeah true. It's a shame really, when I was younger I fell for the trap of "you don't need other people in your life to be happy" but over the years now came to realise just how big of a lie that was (and how destructive it is). We can't continue to grow as people if we lack meaningful relationships in life and it's a sad truth really. There's a reason a GF is a social milestone and it's sadly one that a lot of us won't ever be able to reach.

 

[SandNiggerKANG]

They’re not 100% wrong though. Having a gf comes with a whole new set of problems. Now you have to worry if she’s cheating on you, if she will stop loving you or having feelings for you and other bullshit mind games. There’s gonna be arguments too. Chad basically has guaranteed love though. He can find it anywhere and there’s not much scarcity. Having a GF and savouring that intimacy would make me feel very complete though ngl.

 

[A.M.]

They’re not 100% wrong though. Having a gf comes with a whole new set of problems. Now you have to worry if she’s cheating on you, if she will stop loving you or having feelings for you and other bullshit mind games. There’s gonna be arguments too. Chad basically has guaranteed love though. He can find it anywhere and there’s not much scarcity. Having a GF and savouring that intimacy would make me feel very complete though ngl.

I would beat her into submission.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

We can't continue to grow as people if we lack meaningful relationships in life and it's a sad truth really. There's a reason a GF is a social milestone and it's sadly one that a lot of us won't ever be able to reach.

People underestimate how important it is to have a girlfriend because they always had one. It's necessary in order to reach adulthood to develop "horizontal" relationships, relationships not with your parents or teachers but with your peers. And only a girlfriend lets you become that close with another person and share your intimate experiences and so on in an emotionally impactful way. People think that humans have a fixed personality but most of their goals, ideologies, passions and behaviors are taken from friends or partners. I lived in my own head from when I was a child to the end of high school and the results show, I'm an empty husk of a man.

 

[RandomGuy]

bro a girlfriend wouldn’t even last long Once they find out how much of a damn loser we are

View: https://youtube.com/shorts/8u2Eaa1crLE?si=anYZ4tDaojldQhPr

 

[TheCatMan]

Well it would give me more motivation to do stuff and take of myself

 

[SlayerSlayer]

I highly disagree with this nugget of reddit antiwisdom.

Having a girlfriend would automatically solve all our problems. Look at Komesarj. It's literally the difference between being an incel, and not being an incel.

The problem is simply that we are all incels. But if we just had a girlfriend for even a week, we would be SET FOR LIFE.

HAVING A GIRLFRIEND is literally the stepping stone to having a happy life

 

[Leonardo Part V]

Only youngcels think that.


There’s a reason we don’t have girlfriends in the first place.


There would be no attraction, no respect, and no devotion from her.


Those copers don’t understand, it’s not just that women don’t want them; nature doesn’t want them. We have traits that simply aren’t attractive to women, and that’s why we’re here. Our existence itself is already a reason for us not to have a girlfriend. We can’t change that. We can’t have what Chad and normies have.

 

[A.M.]

View: https://youtube.com/shorts/8u2Eaa1crLE?si=anYZ4tDaojldQhPr

I would delight in mangling her face back to a sub 3

 

[A.M.]

Only youngcels think that.


There’s a reason we don’t have girlfriends in the first place.


There would be no attraction, no respect, and no devotion from her.


Those copers don’t understand, it’s not just that women don’t want them; nature doesn’t want them. We have traits that simply aren’t attractive to women, and that’s why we’re here. Our existence itself is already a reason for us not to have a girlfriend. We can’t change that. We can’t have what Chad and normies have.

Beat her, strave her, torture her spiritually and mentally. Strip her humanity.
Just like a master would for his slave, then you have no fighting back, no arguments, only loyality and fear.

 

[Leonardo Part V]

Beat her, strave her, torture her spiritually and mentally. Strip her humanity.
Just like a master would for his slave, then you have no fighting back, no arguments, only loyality and fear.

We can't do that, bro. We are not that guy.

 

[A.M.]

We can't do that, bro. We are not that guy.

I AM. Await for a war, then take your pick. Or you can be rich and just buy whatever foid you want.

 

[Leonardo Part V]

I AM. Await for a war, then take your pick. Or you can be rich and just buy whatever foid you want.

Sure, bro. Sure.

 

[Popovshishman]

People underestimate how important it is to have a girlfriend because they always had one. It's necessary in order to reach adulthood to develop "horizontal" relationships, relationships not with your parents or teachers but with your peers. And only a girlfriend lets you become that close with another person and share your intimate experiences and so on in an emotionally impactful way. People think that humans have a fixed personality but most of their goals, ideologies, passions and behaviors are taken from friends or partners. I lived in my own head from when I was a child to the end of high school and the results show, I'm an empty husk of a man.

Completely agree. As someone whose also had to be independent due to circumstances, I get that feeling that there's nothing within us, that we're hollow and something, whatever it is, is missing and without it we can't progress in life. It's hard to find and fix it when you don't even know what it is. Like you said, it's important that we have someone we can trust emotionally but sadly that's just not an option for many of us.

I wonder if for some of us it's just our mentality/our own personality stopping us (like ER) or if it's also aspects of our appearance. Sometimes I wish we didn't have the capacity for emotion so I wouldn't have to feel the way I do, but that's not the case unfortunately.