To begin with where we agree, I concur in the sense that I believe inceldom is an issue that causes unnecessary suffering and should be solved, say by culturally enforcing monogamy, but I, with all respect, disagree that we should normalise the sentiment that being a virgin automatically makes you a loser.
I don't say this because of some blind naivety, or that I think it's OK to let millions of young men live alone without sympathy. Instead, I would make the argument that if you do take on the mindset that being a virgin makes you worthless, then of course it's way too easy to get caught in a self-fulfilling prophecy that doesn't actually help make any progress. By all means it is shit, but this is a question of which mindset will make the most positive change.
I joined this forum with the belief that no incel is "a lost cause", yes you may be ugly, yes you may have a condition that wrecks your social skills, but rejecting any hope of improving and labelling it as 'cope' is not how the incel question can be solved. (to stress again I don't believe that accepting inceldom should be the solution either)
I'll leave with the famous quote from Epictetus - "men are disturbed not by things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen".
