Theory Incels have a higher proportion of parents that hate each other

[Giracel]

(Or that are just dysfunctional in some significant way)

Today my brother told me of the situation at home, that my dad went out of the house for something (what isn't important) and while he was gone, my mom told my brother that she preferred it without him being there.

This is not an isolated case, but a data point in a pattern of years. They so clearly hate each other and are held together by unknown forces. I honestly wish they would divorce, it would make things way less stressful. Because when I'm at home—and I will return permanently in spring—I always have to be on guard for the next blow-up over some dumb shit, and of course the fallout affects everyone in the end.

They fight over the most inconsequential stuff, it's the same goddamn tropes every time, including religious disputes of inane natures. And now my mom saying he just prefers him gone, period. She definitely has some founded reasons to dislike him, but if that's the case they should just separate. My brother and I are old enough that neither of us would care and he agrees with me that they should.

 

[sewER dwellER]

Same

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

There is definitely a connection between dysfunctional parenting and higher likelihood of inceldom.

 

[wereq]

Same

 

[Giracel]

There is definitely a connection between dysfunctional parenting and higher likelihood of inceldom.

They are both rather hard people to understand. It's not like they were clear-cut abusive. They would actually be very supportive but turn on a dime if they didn't get their way, especially my mom. All the times they said "you just want your own way!" were projection of their own weak egos and desire for power.

 

[RealSchizo]

There is definitely a connection between dysfunctional parenting and higher likelihood of inceldom.

Same

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

They are both rather hard people to understand. It's not like they were clear-cut abusive. They would actually be very supportive but turn on a dime if they didn't get their way, especially my mom. All the times they said "you just want your own way!" were projection of their own weak egos and desire for power.

My mother is similar in that sense, as she never seemed to have behaved out of intrinsic malicious intent, and her mood as well as her behavior constantly shifted from one extreme to another — which is likely due to an underlying mental disorder she has. Sometimes she would behave in a caring and supportive way, and at other times she would beat me up and verbally abuse me. I do not think she should have ever had a child, and she herself expressed to me she never wanted to have one in the first place.

 

[Giracel]

My mother is similar in that sense, as she never seemed to have behaved out of intrinsic malicious intent, and her mood as well as her behavior constantly shifted from one extreme to another — which is likely due to an underlying mental disorder she has. Sometimes she would behave in a caring and supportive way, and at other times she would beat me up and verbally abuse me. I do not think she should have ever had a child, and she herself expressed to me she never wanted to have one in the first place.

Neither of my parents were really fit for having children. My mother's family was abusive, and my father's was neglectful. They met at a religious cult incubator that "turned their lives around" and the rest is history. I consider myself a sort of shūkyō nisei, inventive Japanese term that describes a lot about my origin story.

 

[anotherwastedlife]

There is definitely a connection between dysfunctional parenting and higher likelihood of inceldom.

 

[anotherwastedlife]

the only memories i have of my parents together in the house are almost always them arguing, even to this day they just argue with eachother a fair amount but it thankfully died down, probably because they realised i was a prototype fuckup and don't want to make me feel bad

 

[ihatelife2]

Sorry your parents hate each other. Mine don't but they have a friendly relationship only and only fucked to get pregnant, don't sleep in the same bed.

 

[gymletethnicel]

There is definitely a connection between dysfunctional parenting and higher likelihood of inceldom.

yeaaah 100%

 

[Chadmaxxington]

(Or that are just dysfunctional in some significant way)

Today my brother told me of the situation at home, that my dad went out of the house for something (what isn't important) and while he was gone, my mom told my brother that she preferred it without him being there.

This is not an isolated case, but a data point in a pattern of years. They so clearly hate each other and are held together by unknown forces. I honestly wish they would divorce, it would make things way less stressful. Because when I'm at home—and I will return permanently in spring—I always have to be on guard for the next blow-up over some dumb shit, and of course the fallout affects everyone in the end.

They fight over the most inconsequential stuff, it's the same goddamn tropes every time, including religious disputes of inane natures. And now my mom saying he just prefers him gone, period. She definitely has some founded reasons to dislike him, but if that's the case they should just separate. My brother and I are old enough that neither of us would care and he agrees with me that they should.

Probably it gives people chronic stress growing up wich impacts growth and can cause trauma to the brain I guess.

 

[Giracel]

Probably it gives people chronic stress growing up wich impacts growth and can cause trauma to the brain I guess.

I have a theory that chronic stress (not necessarily from this but maybe idk) can delay puberty. All of the brain chemistry is very integrated with hormones. I didn't develop the model fully, but it's plausible enough.

 

[Chadmaxxington]

I have a theory that chronic stress (not necessarily from this but maybe idk) can delay puberty. All of the brain chemistry is very integrated with hormones. I didn't develop the model fully, but it's plausible enough.

Yeah I think the same, I also think it can make you end up a few cms shorter and your face and frame not develop to their full extent.