There are many types of addicts. Some are addicted to drugs, while others prefer alcohol. I, on the other hand, am addicted to pornography.
How does this relate to inceldom, you might ask? In order to answer that, you have to ask yourselves what sort of factors lead to addiction in the first place. According to this study conducted in 2014, loneliness and mental health issues are a risk factor when it comes to substance abuse.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Another study (shown here) finds a connection between dugs and mental illness.
www.drugabuse.gov
While this post is primarily about porn addiction, the reason why I am using drugs as an example is because both are relatively similar in the effect they have on your brain.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
"The review leads to the conclusion that Internet pornography addiction fits into the addiction framework and shares similar basic mechanisms with SUBSTANCE ADDICTION."
One of the primary reasons why drugs are so addictive is because they interfere with your natural dopamine receptors. If you didn't know, dopamine is a neurotransmitter who's purpose is to reward you with feelings of "pleasure" and "contentment" whenever you fulfil a biological impulse such as eating, having sex, etc. However, both porn AND drugs mess with these natural receptors, providing us with an artificial "high" despite the fact that we haven't done anything to earn it. This causes our primitive lizard brains to associate drugs and porn with "feeling good" and seek those things out more and more.
In the case of porn, we jerk off so much to the point where our dopamine receptors become "numb" which is why porn addicts often seek out increasingly extreme material in order to recreate that first "high"
Below is a graph that compares porn consumption to the usage of heroin.
As incels, we are pretty much forced to rely on pornography in order to cope. It's why so many guys here possess some rather niche fetishes, (feet, rape, loli, etc) because your average incel started watching porn at around 13 (or even younger) and never had the opportunity to develop healthy sexual behaviors. While our peers were at least interacting with the opposite sex on a daily basis, we sat at home browsing sites such as xhamster and paheal.net in order to fill that void. This is why the teenlovepill is so important, because instead of being raised by experience through healthy sexual experimentation, we were raised by porn.
Whenever I find myself haunted by my failures and unable to fall asleep, what do I do? I masturbate. Whenever I find myself feeling feeling lonely and in desire of a girlfriend, what do I do? I masturbate. Whenever I find myself anxious, stressed, or unable to cope with something, what do I do? I masturbate. I've turned masturbation into a natural antidepressant because it's the only way I can truly "detach" myself from reality and put all of those negative thoughts at bay. In that temporary moment ecstasy, it doesn't matter—none of it does. It doesn't matter that I'm a 22 year old KHHV, it doesn't matter that society is a whole is getting worse and worse, (increase in hookup culture, market inflation, declining family values, etc) NOTHING. All that matters is the pleasure that I am currently experiencing. In my case, this is another reason why I've been getting off to more "extreme" material, because it's just another way to numb the pain. In the past, I used to jerk off to the thought of having a loving girlfriend, (the usual bluepilled crap you see everywhere) but now there are times where I need to look at hardcore BDSM where the girl is crying in order to get my rocks off. I've reached a point where being in a loving relationship is something completely alien to me, and all of that love" has been replaced by uncontrollable anger.
In truth, I absolutely loathe what I've become. I don't want to be a porn addicted degenerate anymore. But unfortunately, it's all I have anymore to keep me from going insane. If there was just ONE girl on this entire planet who who wasn't a whore and willing to give me a chance, I would quit porn altogether. (I'd imagine many of you guys would as well) Would it be an incredibly difficult thing to do? Yes. However, I would DEFINITELY feel motivated enough to try.
In conclusion, the reason why so many of us are addicted to porn is because it's our only way to cope with the fact that we lack something as basic as emotional and sexual intimacy.
How does this relate to inceldom, you might ask? In order to answer that, you have to ask yourselves what sort of factors lead to addiction in the first place. According to this study conducted in 2014, loneliness and mental health issues are a risk factor when it comes to substance abuse.
Emotional and Social Loneliness in Individuals With and Without Substance Dependence Disorder
Loneliness is one of the psychological variables related to high risk behaviors that should be investigated more.The current study aimed to assess emotional, social, romantic, and familial dimensions of loneliness in drug abuser and nondrug abuser individuals.Two ...
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Another study (shown here) finds a connection between dugs and mental illness.
Part 1: The Connection Between Substance Use Disorders and Mental Illness | National Institute on Drug Abuse
Many individuals who develop substance use disorders (SUD) are also diagnosed with mental disorders, and vice versa.2,3 Although there are fewer studies on comorbidity among youth, research suggests that adolescents with substance use disorders also have high rates of co-occurring mental...
While this post is primarily about porn addiction, the reason why I am using drugs as an example is because both are relatively similar in the effect they have on your brain.
Neuroscience of Internet Pornography Addiction: A Review and Update
Many recognize that several behaviors potentially affecting the reward circuitry in human brains lead to a loss of control and other symptoms of addiction in at least some individuals. Regarding Internet addiction, neuroscientific research supports the ...
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
"The review leads to the conclusion that Internet pornography addiction fits into the addiction framework and shares similar basic mechanisms with SUBSTANCE ADDICTION."
One of the primary reasons why drugs are so addictive is because they interfere with your natural dopamine receptors. If you didn't know, dopamine is a neurotransmitter who's purpose is to reward you with feelings of "pleasure" and "contentment" whenever you fulfil a biological impulse such as eating, having sex, etc. However, both porn AND drugs mess with these natural receptors, providing us with an artificial "high" despite the fact that we haven't done anything to earn it. This causes our primitive lizard brains to associate drugs and porn with "feeling good" and seek those things out more and more.
In the case of porn, we jerk off so much to the point where our dopamine receptors become "numb" which is why porn addicts often seek out increasingly extreme material in order to recreate that first "high"
Below is a graph that compares porn consumption to the usage of heroin.
As incels, we are pretty much forced to rely on pornography in order to cope. It's why so many guys here possess some rather niche fetishes, (feet, rape, loli, etc) because your average incel started watching porn at around 13 (or even younger) and never had the opportunity to develop healthy sexual behaviors. While our peers were at least interacting with the opposite sex on a daily basis, we sat at home browsing sites such as xhamster and paheal.net in order to fill that void. This is why the teenlovepill is so important, because instead of being raised by experience through healthy sexual experimentation, we were raised by porn.
Whenever I find myself haunted by my failures and unable to fall asleep, what do I do? I masturbate. Whenever I find myself feeling feeling lonely and in desire of a girlfriend, what do I do? I masturbate. Whenever I find myself anxious, stressed, or unable to cope with something, what do I do? I masturbate. I've turned masturbation into a natural antidepressant because it's the only way I can truly "detach" myself from reality and put all of those negative thoughts at bay. In that temporary moment ecstasy, it doesn't matter—none of it does. It doesn't matter that I'm a 22 year old KHHV, it doesn't matter that society is a whole is getting worse and worse, (increase in hookup culture, market inflation, declining family values, etc) NOTHING. All that matters is the pleasure that I am currently experiencing. In my case, this is another reason why I've been getting off to more "extreme" material, because it's just another way to numb the pain. In the past, I used to jerk off to the thought of having a loving girlfriend, (the usual bluepilled crap you see everywhere) but now there are times where I need to look at hardcore BDSM where the girl is crying in order to get my rocks off. I've reached a point where being in a loving relationship is something completely alien to me, and all of that love" has been replaced by uncontrollable anger.
In truth, I absolutely loathe what I've become. I don't want to be a porn addicted degenerate anymore. But unfortunately, it's all I have anymore to keep me from going insane. If there was just ONE girl on this entire planet who who wasn't a whore and willing to give me a chance, I would quit porn altogether. (I'd imagine many of you guys would as well) Would it be an incredibly difficult thing to do? Yes. However, I would DEFINITELY feel motivated enough to try.
In conclusion, the reason why so many of us are addicted to porn is because it's our only way to cope with the fact that we lack something as basic as emotional and sexual intimacy.
