Honestly, I never stood a chance to begin with. 
same for my father's side. Anger issues mostly I am the calmest person in my family tree along with my mom. BPD and severe paranoia is also present in my family.Yeah and also severely mentally ill. My family life consists of endless abuse and domestic violence.
My dad is also prone to anger issues. He gets into these fits of rage very quickly when things don't go his way. He's also anxious, paranoid, manic and obsessive compulsive. My mom is a narcissist and also very anxious and paranoid. She has anxiety disorder to the point of psychosis.
Over for us.
You just described my dad. My mom is not narcy , but very anxious and paranoid and also suffers from paranoia induced psychosis just like me. I've inherited her anxiety disorder. Worrying too much about simple tasks and panicking like crazy over nothing.
It is very brutal living in a family that tries to save every penny and never spends on anything despite being able to. Many such families unfortunately. I've known poor families that spent more than middle or even high class families. It is a mental illness at that point.
nowadays it became much more common for families to spend enormous amounts of money on their kid if he seems like he's going to be a loser, that's not how it worked in my generation tho
I was starved off dopamine and entertainment as a kid because my dad often refused to buy me what I wanted and I remember it not being expensive at all. I lived with my mom but she couldn't afford to buy me anything due to working an absolutely miserable job. I had a similar to DBDr's childhood. Staring at a wall , brain scorched of any positive chemicals add the bullying on top of everything.
Totally the same here. Being curry, prejudice against mental health runs high so I could never get my dad to admit to his mental illness, but then one day after watching some videos on the benefits of caffeine, my dad decided to try some coffee and the caffeine uplifted some of his dopamine and serotonin which improved his mood. The contrast from the caffeine boost made my dad realize just how fucked up his mind is naturally. Before that fated day, I could NEVER get him to understand how fucked up he is.
how do you handle itYeah and also severely mentally ill. My family life consists of endless abuse and domestic violence.
Yes this mainly happens if your family is in a poor country. All my aunt and cousins talks about it how poor they are like please shut up already. My mom is also a gold digger.
How do you deal with this?
Not well. I'm non-functional. I rot as a NEET. I'm too fucked up to function in real life.
It's not even that, we don't live in some fucking slum, we live relatively comfortable lives and STILL they have to be such fucking vultures about everything, just for reference, one of my uncles from my mother's side started a shouting match in a hospital because of the medical bill that came from my dying grandfather's cancer treatment. Like MY GOD couldn't you at least not make that man's last days be any less miserable? Couldn't you this anywhere else? Have you no shame? I hope they all die slowly and painfully
Being an eastern european too. At this point we are white curries.
I don't.
