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SuicideFuel Incel trait: you learn too little to late that you have been abused all your life.

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BoneHermit666

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I have only come to realize now at the age of 40 that I have had an abusive father. I was more closer to my mother than my father, however she was anther form of crazy. She was very strict (both were actually father more than mother). In my opinion my father is a psychopath, he denies being wrong, most of the time he is never wrong, he is expert at making everything your fault, he always gets angry to get what he wants, he is possibly a compulsive liar, he thinks he knows everything and everybody else is dumb, he takes the piss out of people all the time, he has tortured my brother and me by overfeeding us against our will ( teaching us a lesson because we were apparently being greedy, but he himself IS greedy), he has harmed animals and thought that it was funny in the past, (now he has changed and cares for them instead, he has more patience for the animals than his own children) He is overly possessive and controlling, even with animals. I have tried to tell my mother what he is but as always foids are in denial and she is now passing it off as Autism, because I have recently been diagnosed as Autistic.
 
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Yeah, I was also abused by a parent, even though in my case it was my mother. Children can have hard time perceiving their parents as abusers, leading to bad self-esteem. Its probably a lot more common with incels than the general population.

I think cutting ties with the abusive parent is a decent solution. There's no point in having an abusive person in your life even if its a family member.
 
Balding Subhuman said:
Yeah, I was also abused by a parent, even though in my case it was my mother. Children can have hard time perceiving their parents as abusers, leading to bad self-esteem. Its probably a lot more common with incels than the general population.

I think cutting ties with the abusive parent is a decent solution. There's no point in having an abusive person in your life even if its a family member.
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ever since I have moved out I have much more freedom, but I wish I had this freedom as a teenager.
 
Society legally abused us through school.
Society is sick and evil.
 
my mother abused me hard, i grew up in a toxic environment where i was getting abused + seeing my mom and my dad fight almost everyday, because of this i developed C-PTSD and NPD, now my brain tortures me 24/7 non stop
 
Choler said:
my mother abused me hard, i grew up in a toxic environment where i was getting abused + seeing my mom and my dad fight almost everyday, because of this i developed C-PTSD and NPD, now my brain tortures me 24/7 non stop
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do you find you talk to yourself alot?
 
BoneHermit666 said:
In my opinion my father is a psychopath, he denies being wrong, most of the time he is never wrong, he is expert at making everything your fault, he always gets angry to get what he wants, he is possibly a compulsive liar, he thinks he knows everything and everybody else is dumb, he takes the piss out of people all the time,
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textbook narcissist
 
over for slowpokecels
 
BoneHermit666 said:
I have only come to realize now at the age of 40 that I have had an abusive father. I was more closer to my mother than my father, however she was anther form of crazy. She was very strict (both were actually father more than mother). In my opinion my father is a psychopath, he denies being wrong, most of the time he is never wrong, he is expert at making everything your fault, he always gets angry to get what he wants, he is possibly a compulsive liar, he thinks he knows everything and everybody else is dumb, he takes the piss out of people all the time, he has tortured my brother and me by overfeeding us against our will ( teaching us a lesson because we were apparently being greedy, but he himself IS greedy), he has harmed animals and thought that it was funny in the past, (now he has changed and cares for them instead, he has more patience for the animals than his own children) He is overly possessive and controlling, even with animals. I have tried to tell my mother what he is but as always foids are in denial and she is now passing it off as Autism, because I have recently been diagnosed as Autistic.
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There was this case here in Burgerland of this dad who abused his two kids and wife. He was constantly hitting and slapping all 3 of them all their lives and even sexually abused the daughter all her life. Also he would call the wife "dumb ugly spic" and the kids ugly words constantly ("asshole, faggot, slut"). But he could also be really nice for a while. What would you say is wrong with someone like him? Psychopath, or something else? Is he just a big bully (he mentioned he was bullied as a kid)?

There was a good book about it called "The Poison Tree: A True Story Of Family Terror."

They made a good movie about it here:
 
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ItsOverMan said:
There was this case here in Burgerland of this dad who abused his two kids and wife. He was constantly hitting and slapping all 3 of them all their lives and even sexually abused the daughter all her life. Also he would call the wife "dumb ugly spic" and the kids ugly words constantly ("asshole, faggot, slut"). But he could also be really nice for a while. What would you say is wrong with someone like him? Psychopath, or something else? Is he just a big bully (he mentioned he was bullied as a kid)?

There was a good book about it called "The Poison Tree: A True Story Of Family Terror."

They made a good movie about it here:
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this explins my dad one time when I was little he looked at me with hatred and said "your stupid do you know that?" my lower lip started to quiver and he started slapping me up.

Another time I could not read the time. So he decided he was going to slap me until I guessed the time right. If I started to cry he would have gone mental, something that he has done before.
 
ItsOverMan said:
There was this case here in Burgerland of this dad who abused his two kids and wife. He was constantly hitting and slapping all 3 of them all their lives and even sexually abused the daughter all her life. Also he would call the wife "dumb ugly spic" and the kids ugly words constantly ("asshole, faggot, slut"). But he could also be really nice for a while. What would you say is wrong with someone like him? Psychopath, or something else? Is he just a big bully (he mentioned he was bullied as a kid)?

There was a good book about it called "The Poison Tree: A True Story Of Family Terror."

They made a good movie about it here:
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brocel thank you for the share I see a lot of my father in this, he strangled my mother once and he also slapped my mother one time, but everything else is exactly like my dad, controlling, manipulative, domineering and at times aggressive in the name of discipline.
 
I mean it's been my entire life. I finally hit my breaking point at 23 and ran away to be homeless and die. I'm now 27 and got diagnosed with autism at 26. Idk why but growing up with dysfunctional parents made me feel like I was the parent. I felt like I had to save them, the entire family, or we would all die. My parents did horrible shit to us but it seemed normal at the time and they told us it was normal too. They said other families had it worse, that we are ungrateful etc.

My parents would fight and all of us would cry. My mom would feed us rotten food or shit she pulled from trash behind her Job. One time we had to eat this salad with earth and 100s of tiny black bugs on it. On top of that we had strict impossible rules to follow. You could only loose so you would get yelled at daily. I never looked forward to coming home. My dad beat us a few times. Usually he would just scream though. I think one time he made my little brother sleep on the porch like a dog. I learned to not show any emotions. I have so many stories.

One time in summer dad was grilling and a cat snatched a sausage. My dad grabbed it and threw the cat in black trashcan with maggots and rotting food inside. It was summer so it was boiling hot in there. Later he drove a few miles and threw it out the window. On the other hand he can be nice to animals. I think it's generational trauma. His parents were fucked up too. And my moms too.

Basically the wah it worked was that you did what my parents wanted even if you were sick and dying. If you complained they would mock, ignore or punish. Can you imagine having health issues, getting bullied by family and in school and then being told you are the problem and being punished over and over? That's how I learned to people please and also to feel no emotion on purpose. I was always thinking "soon I will be dead and it will be over" - that was my hope. I didn't think I would see 20. Now I'm 27. At least I have a bit of stability now. I got diagnosed with autism, I'm on welfare, I got my own apartment and social workers helping me.
 
BoneHermit666 said:
brocel thank you for the share I see a lot of my father in this, he strangled my mother once and he also slapped my mother one time, but everything else is exactly like my dad, controlling, manipulative, domineering and at times aggressive in the name of discipline.
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Sorry you had to deal with that psycho.
 
No good deed goes unpunished. Evil psychopathic normies and foids get everything in life. Subhuman freaks are not even allowed to feel that they are the real victims. You don't even know what you have suffered. Thats the most brutal suffering. Not knowing about your own sufferings.
 
Bone hermit i am sorry, i hope sou get reincarnated as a chad
 
poorenglishcel said:
No good deed goes unpunished. Evil psychopathic normies and foids get everything in life. Subhuman freaks are not even allowed to feel that they are the real victims. You don't even know what you have suffered. Thats the most brutal suffering. Not knowing about your own sufferings.
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yes then finding out about it.
 
GeckoBus said:
I mean it's been my entire life. I finally hit my breaking point at 23 and ran away to be homeless and die. I'm now 27 and got diagnosed with autism at 26. Idk why but growing up with dysfunctional parents made me feel like I was the parent. I felt like I had to save them, the entire family, or we would all die. My parents did horrible shit to us but it seemed normal at the time and they told us it was normal too. They said other families had it worse, that we are ungrateful etc.

My parents would fight and all of us would cry. My mom would feed us rotten food or shit she pulled from trash behind her Job. One time we had to eat this salad with earth and 100s of tiny black bugs on it. On top of that we had strict impossible rules to follow. You could only loose so you would get yelled at daily. I never looked forward to coming home. My dad beat us a few times. Usually he would just scream though. I think one time he made my little brother sleep on the porch like a dog. I learned to not show any emotions. I have so many stories.

One time in summer dad was grilling and a cat snatched a sausage. My dad grabbed it and threw the cat in black trashcan with maggots and rotting food inside. It was summer so it was boiling hot in there. Later he drove a few miles and threw it out the window. On the other hand he can be nice to animals. I think it's generational trauma. His parents were fucked up too. And my moms too.

Basically the wah it worked was that you did what my parents wanted even if you were sick and dying. If you complained they would mock, ignore or punish. Can you imagine having health issues, getting bullied by family and in school and then being told you are the problem and being punished over and over? That's how I learned to people please and also to feel no emotion on purpose. I was always thinking "soon I will be dead and it will be over" - that was my hope. I didn't think I would see 20. Now I'm 27. At least I have a bit of stability now. I got diagnosed with autism, I'm on welfare, I got my own apartment and social workers helping me.
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OMG I am so sorry brocel. My mother and father argued alot also. It is impossible to have a conversation with my father because everything becomes an argument. God help you if your disturb his TV time.
 
GeckoBus said:
I mean it's been my entire life. I finally hit my breaking point at 23 and ran away to be homeless and die. I'm now 27 and got diagnosed with autism at 26. Idk why but growing up with dysfunctional parents made me feel like I was the parent. I felt like I had to save them, the entire family, or we would all die. My parents did horrible shit to us but it seemed normal at the time and they told us it was normal too. They said other families had it worse, that we are ungrateful etc.

My parents would fight and all of us would cry. My mom would feed us rotten food or shit she pulled from trash behind her Job. One time we had to eat this salad with earth and 100s of tiny black bugs on it. On top of that we had strict impossible rules to follow. You could only loose so you would get yelled at daily. I never looked forward to coming home. My dad beat us a few times. Usually he would just scream though. I think one time he made my little brother sleep on the porch like a dog. I learned to not show any emotions. I have so many stories.

One time in summer dad was grilling and a cat snatched a sausage. My dad grabbed it and threw the cat in black trashcan with maggots and rotting food inside. It was summer so it was boiling hot in there. Later he drove a few miles and threw it out the window. On the other hand he can be nice to animals. I think it's generational trauma. His parents were fucked up too. And my moms too.

Basically the wah it worked was that you did what my parents wanted even if you were sick and dying. If you complained they would mock, ignore or punish. Can you imagine having health issues, getting bullied by family and in school and then being told you are the problem and being punished over and over? That's how I learned to people please and also to feel no emotion on purpose. I was always thinking "soon I will be dead and it will be over" - that was my hope. I didn't think I would see 20. Now I'm 27. At least I have a bit of stability now. I got diagnosed with autism, I'm on welfare, I got my own apartment and social workers helping me.
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my parents family was also messed up. my mother would also say the same thing your mother said other familys have it worse LOL no they do not, abused kids get abused for life, kids who get treated correctly get what they want and treat the weaker males (US) with abuse and violence, while getting what they want throughout life when they want it.
 
I feel for you man, I learned that I was treated unfairly very late too, years after it all happened. It's a cycle - parents abuse you from the start, your self esteem is low, therefore in the future you won't be recognizing the abuse because it's congruent with how you feel about yourself and you don't even question it, it's just normal to you. Which leads to more abuse.

At least in my case it was a soft one (unlike @GeckoBus 's absolutely disgusting case), like they weren't really beating me or feeding me bugs, but they gave me a very bad start in life the consequences of which I barely survived, were always cold and apathetic and blamed me for everything.
 
reveries said:
I feel for you man, I learned that I was treated unfairly very late too, years after it all happened. It's a cycle - parents abuse you from the start, your self esteem is low, therefore in the future you won't be recognizing the abuse because it's congruent with how you feel about yourself and you don't even question it, it's just normal to you. Which leads to more abuse.

At least in my case it was a soft one (unlike @GeckoBus 's absolutely disgusting case), like they weren't really beating me or feeding me bugs, but they gave me a very bad start in life the consequences of which I barely survived, were always cold and apathetic and blamed me for everything.
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my father is very good at making everything your fault. He rarely says sorry
 
Don't feel too bad for this. Accepting and learning how your parents are bad or even abusive is a very difficult thing because over time we internalize that we deserve all of that. We depend so much on them (now more than ever), this also makes it difficult to see the abuse.
 
BoneHermit666 said:
my father is very good at making everything your fault. He rarely says sorry
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Yeah that's what psychopaths or narcissists or whatever the fuck shitty ass people do.
 
Buried Alive 2.0 said:
Don't feel too bad for this. Accepting and learning how your parents are bad or even abusive is a very difficult thing because over time we internalize that we deserve all of that. We depend so much on them (now more than ever), this also makes it difficult to see the abuse.
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Yeah most normies are on a loop, and are barely aware of themselves.
 
Nah I was aware at a very young age very quickly. My parents were fucked in the head. Sorry this happened to you. I know all to well how badly it fucks you up. I'm 33 and I'm picking up the pieces bit by bit still every single day.
 
I was 16 when I realized. 17 when I registered here (before the 18+ rule came into effect). I don't know if that's too late or not.
 
Emba said:
Yeah most normies are on a loop, and are barely aware of themselves.
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Normies do tend to be slower on this because they can't see through the bullshit
 
Buried Alive 2.0 said:
Don't feel too bad for this. Accepting and learning how your parents are bad or even abusive is a very difficult thing because over time we internalize that we deserve all of that. We depend so much on them (now more than ever), this also makes it difficult to see the abuse.
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I have actually had people say to me you deserve that!
 
Sans said:
I was 16 when I realized. 17 when I registered here (before the 18+ rule came into effect). I don't know if that's too late or not.
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nah your very early well done for realising
 
BoneHermit666 said:
I have actually had people say to me you deserve that!
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That's fucked up. Some people have trouble understanding that parents are also people and can do fucked up things. These people are idiots. With how oblivious and privileged boomers and gen X are it's no wonder there are so many bad parents around and millenials and gen Z are lost generations.
 
Buried Alive 2.0 said:
That's fucked up. Some people have trouble understanding that parents are also people and can do fucked up things. These people are idiots. With how oblivious and privileged boomers and gen X are it's no wonder there are so many bad parents around and millenials and gen Z are lost generations.
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Personally I think humanity has always been fucked
 
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