Assuming you were not born in a Muslim country, you grew up in a largely atheistic, agnostic society with a large tolerance of sexual freedom, divorce, cohabitation and fornication (sexuality outside marriage).
You may take it for granted, but this situation is quite new: the 1960s at most. Before, you'd be surprised how many restrictions and taboos there were on sexual intercourse and relationships.
This new situation created great troubles for a lot of men (more than for women).
This is because in humans, like in all mammalian species, sexual selection is mostly exercised on males: they are the ones in competition for mating. Men have on average far lower standards than women (and I'm not pulling this outta my ass, lots of scientific studies confirmed it).
In a natural environment, one without enforced monogamy, the top 20% of males tend to enjoy a monopoly on casual sex. Studies on Tinder have shown that most women get easy casual sex through Tinder, but most men do not. Statistically, the average man is losing his time on Tinder.
Reverting to enforced monogamy doesn't seem a likely prospect at this point, mostly because only unattractive men stand to win from this - ie a demographic minority.
However, once you have understood this phenomenon in all its complexity, you can approach things more serenely - either by improving yourself before trying to get a GF, or completely giving up on this.
The current situation for most males is one of anxious confusion and frustrated hopefulness: strong desire to get laid with attractive girls, desire which is constantly frustrated. Something an ignorant male may attribute to a "lack of confidence" or "low dating skills 'when in reality he just wasn't attractive enough (and his lack of confidence was merely his brain warning him about this).
Millions of young men are reduced to porn and masturbation - a de facto admission that they can't get real sex easily or in satisfying conditions. That should tip you off about the reality of the sexual "marketplace".
If spending your youth in an anxious and confused haze of dating apps, fantasies and porn rather than getting actual relationships and sex appeals to you, feel free to remain bluepill or redpill. You may get lucky by trying long enough, after all.
You may take it for granted, but this situation is quite new: the 1960s at most. Before, you'd be surprised how many restrictions and taboos there were on sexual intercourse and relationships.
This new situation created great troubles for a lot of men (more than for women).
This is because in humans, like in all mammalian species, sexual selection is mostly exercised on males: they are the ones in competition for mating. Men have on average far lower standards than women (and I'm not pulling this outta my ass, lots of scientific studies confirmed it).
In a natural environment, one without enforced monogamy, the top 20% of males tend to enjoy a monopoly on casual sex. Studies on Tinder have shown that most women get easy casual sex through Tinder, but most men do not. Statistically, the average man is losing his time on Tinder.
Reverting to enforced monogamy doesn't seem a likely prospect at this point, mostly because only unattractive men stand to win from this - ie a demographic minority.
However, once you have understood this phenomenon in all its complexity, you can approach things more serenely - either by improving yourself before trying to get a GF, or completely giving up on this.
The current situation for most males is one of anxious confusion and frustrated hopefulness: strong desire to get laid with attractive girls, desire which is constantly frustrated. Something an ignorant male may attribute to a "lack of confidence" or "low dating skills 'when in reality he just wasn't attractive enough (and his lack of confidence was merely his brain warning him about this).
Millions of young men are reduced to porn and masturbation - a de facto admission that they can't get real sex easily or in satisfying conditions. That should tip you off about the reality of the sexual "marketplace".
If spending your youth in an anxious and confused haze of dating apps, fantasies and porn rather than getting actual relationships and sex appeals to you, feel free to remain bluepill or redpill. You may get lucky by trying long enough, after all.
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