Discussion I’d be more social if I had someone to be social with

[Deleted member 15737]

I have a desire to be social, or at least attempt to be but I have no friends or a girlfriend to go do anything with. I feel so strange and ostracized whenever I go to the movies or a concert by myself.

I just sit/stand there quietly by myself and I know all the people around me feel uncomfortable that I’m there because I’m not part of their social circle, because I feel uncomfortable too.

The last few months I’ve just stayed in my room all weekend and didn’t leave my bed. I feel like if I had one person that cared about me as a friend or better yet, I had a girlfriend, I could find the motivation to become social. Then maybe I could snowball that into a larger social circle.

I just feel like an social outcast wherever I go, probably because I am one.

 

[Hail The Bloatlord]

It was around 17 or 18 that I noticed nobody invidìted me out for drinks anymore.
They'd find some time for me on saturday afternoon, if ever...

 

[Vlone]

That's probably the worst part. I was never bad in social situations, but lack of contact during all other times in the day put a serious strain in my social skills.

 

[ihaveno1]

I relate so much man, no oce ever accepts me and no foid even can give me one chance to go on a date, a lot of things id like to do but pure torture if ur all alone awkwardly the entire time forced to observe

 

[Ellsworth]

I have a desire to be social, or at least attempt to be but I have no friends or a girlfriend to go do anything with. I feel so strange and ostracized whenever I go to the movies or a concert by myself.

I just sit/stand there quietly by myself and I know all the people around me feel uncomfortable that I’m there because I’m not part of their social circle, because I feel uncomfortable too.

The last few months I’ve just stayed in my room all weekend and didn’t leave my bed. I feel like if I had one person that cared about me as a friend or better yet, I had a girlfriend, I could find the motivation to become social. Then maybe I could snowball that into a larger social circle.

I just feel like an social outcast wherever I go, probably because I am one.

You just described me 1000%. At this point I want a gf more to for someone to go places with than for sex.

 

[HowCanSheSlap]

I'm the opposite I simultaneously desire it and crave it - but when the opportunity presents itself, I turn it down. This has happened many times where I've been invited to parties, or asked to hang out with people - but I always made an excuse out of fear and awkwardness.

In real life though I'm actually quite easy to get along with. You wouldn't be able to tell I'm an incel or have trouble with women. I work sometimes in an engagement role where I have to get along with people in the public face-to-face. I usually have no problem with this.

 

[Deleted member 15737]

I'm the opposite I simultaneously desire it and crave it - but when the opportunity presents itself, I turn it down. This has happened many times where I've been invited to parties, or asked to hang out with people - but I always made an excuse out of fear and awkwardness.

In real life though I'm actually quite easy to get along with. You wouldn't be able to tell I'm an incel or have trouble with women. I work sometimes in an engagement role where I have to get along with people in the public face-to-face. I usually have no problem with this.

I’ve never been invited to a party even once, unless you count family gatherings.

I did get invited to a Super Bowl party once from my Dad’s boomer friends. I showed up and I was the only non-Boomer there in a group of about 25 married couples. I had a decent time though because I didn’t have to worry about getting mogged by young Chad’s.

 

[LastGerman]

Is there a chance to come back from this because I do not see it. How to get a social circle in the first place? You have to share the same history/memories with someone to create a connection. It is not possible anymore once one is ostracized.

 

[Microsoft Excel]

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[Bangkok or bust]

Nobody has ever invited me out anywhere, except for family members.

All those years (3 years) living as a student in student accomodation and not one normie asked me to join them to play pool, go for beers etc.

 

[Deleted member 17997]

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[Deleted member 5712]

living the dream OP.....living the dream.....
(the bed is so comfy yet so painful when you sleep your whole weekend away with nobody ever even caring to check up on you)

 

[Vermilioncore]

It's over for isolatedcels

 

[Rassimov]

I've almost became a party beast in my teens, I've chickened out in college and became a gamer.

 

[Akhnai]

I've almost became a party beast in my teens

 

[needsolution]

i wish i was special for someone