I'll start this off by saying I'm well aware of the fact that as a sub5 ogre, I would be truecel anywhere. But I think in other aspects of life, my life would have been better had I lived in a rural part of the country.
My whole life I have lived in big cities or lower class suburbs thereof. My adult life has mostly been in big cities. With cities, especially big ones, there's always a huge divide between rich (+ middle class) and poor...and obviously I've always been the latter. I know wealth gaps exist to some extent everywhere, but in cities they are much more pronounced. To make matters worse, I'm always living in the worst part of the city (because it's all I can afford), but my job is usually in a middle class or upscale part of the city. So I have to live in a dangerous part of the city, and drive in bumper to bumper traffic to a neighborhood I could never ever hope to live in so I can make burgers for trust fund babies.
And by the way, I know this is common sense most of you don't need to hear, but there's some really sheltered people who don't know. But there's nothing "cool" about living in the hood. Nobody actually wants to be here. Anyone who gets their money up leaves ASAP. Some extremely sheltered upper class or suburban kids somehow think it's "cool" because of rap music videos but rappers talk about having lived in the hood (which they left the moment they got rich) the way you'd talk about surviving a war or prison. They're bragging about having survived hardship.
So cities are only nice to live in if you're in a middle or upper class neighborhood. Aside from the economic factor, the only people really thriving in cities are both in a nice neighborhood AND one of the following:
1) Hipster reddit nerds
2) Artsy fartsy cosmopolitan yuppies
3) Trust fund financebros
4) SJW political activists
5) Techbros (in select cities)
I have nothing in common with any of these people. I'm e/acc so superficially I have one thing in common with techbros, but I'm a low IQ fast food worker with no degree, I can't hang with them. That's another thing, people who thrive in cities are always well educated types. I'm WAY too low IQ and uneducated to meaningfully contribute to the topics they talk about. Long ago I was in some friend groups (usually because I was only actually close friends with one guy in the group and the rest just tolerated me) where they would talk about shit like science, philosophy, geopolitics etc. and I wouldn't understand what the fuck they were talking about. They used vocabulary I didn't understand too so it was like they were speaking another language from my perspective. Needless to say, I didn't last too long in those friend groups. Then again even in friend groups I was actually more integrated into I was often "the slow one" people had to dumb things down to.
Looking back at all of the friends i've had in my lifetime, especially within my adult life, the only people I've really connected with were men who had at least one thing wrong with them. They were either poor, sub5, low IQ, or ND. There were a few exceptions, but that was mostly it. I know it's coming off like I think I'm "too good" for those kinds of people but that's not what I'm saying and not how I feel. I'm just saying this to make a point that I just didn't culturally fit in with the average urbanite normie who thrives in the big city.
But from what I've heard, maybe rural areas are more my kind of people. More extroverted, less educated, less pretentious, and more down-to-earth simple people who don't use high level vocabulary I don't understand and have more basic interests and pleasures. I'm as basic as it gets. I don't even really have any hobbies anymore. I just work, eat, sleep, and on my days off i just sort of chill.
Maybe this is just a "grass is greener" mentality. I've spent very little time in rural areas, and whenever I've been to them, they feel pretty foreign (simply due to a lack of experience with such environments). But I was never there long enough to really get a deep understanding of the social dynamics. So maybe I'm way off about all of this. Maybe my ideas are based off of antiquated stereotypes about what rural america is like. It would be interesting to hear from people who live (or have lived) in rural areas. And even better if there's someone here who has lived in both rural and urban environments who can contrast the two.
Obviously I'm not going to quit my job, pack up and move to rural middle america. For one I'm lucky to even have a full time job and have a healthcare plan, especially as a middle aged man with no degree. So as shitty as my job is, I'm going to cling to it for dear life because it's the only reason I'm not homeless. I also know in rural areas jobs are even harder to get. A lot of people move from rural areas TO cities simply for jobs because there are none where they're from. That and I'm way too old to assimilate into what is effectively a different culture. I'm just thinking about "what could have been" if my circumstances were different, which is a common incel theme even if this post has nothing to do with inceldom.
My whole life I have lived in big cities or lower class suburbs thereof. My adult life has mostly been in big cities. With cities, especially big ones, there's always a huge divide between rich (+ middle class) and poor...and obviously I've always been the latter. I know wealth gaps exist to some extent everywhere, but in cities they are much more pronounced. To make matters worse, I'm always living in the worst part of the city (because it's all I can afford), but my job is usually in a middle class or upscale part of the city. So I have to live in a dangerous part of the city, and drive in bumper to bumper traffic to a neighborhood I could never ever hope to live in so I can make burgers for trust fund babies.
And by the way, I know this is common sense most of you don't need to hear, but there's some really sheltered people who don't know. But there's nothing "cool" about living in the hood. Nobody actually wants to be here. Anyone who gets their money up leaves ASAP. Some extremely sheltered upper class or suburban kids somehow think it's "cool" because of rap music videos but rappers talk about having lived in the hood (which they left the moment they got rich) the way you'd talk about surviving a war or prison. They're bragging about having survived hardship.
So cities are only nice to live in if you're in a middle or upper class neighborhood. Aside from the economic factor, the only people really thriving in cities are both in a nice neighborhood AND one of the following:
1) Hipster reddit nerds
2) Artsy fartsy cosmopolitan yuppies
3) Trust fund financebros
4) SJW political activists
5) Techbros (in select cities)
I have nothing in common with any of these people. I'm e/acc so superficially I have one thing in common with techbros, but I'm a low IQ fast food worker with no degree, I can't hang with them. That's another thing, people who thrive in cities are always well educated types. I'm WAY too low IQ and uneducated to meaningfully contribute to the topics they talk about. Long ago I was in some friend groups (usually because I was only actually close friends with one guy in the group and the rest just tolerated me) where they would talk about shit like science, philosophy, geopolitics etc. and I wouldn't understand what the fuck they were talking about. They used vocabulary I didn't understand too so it was like they were speaking another language from my perspective. Needless to say, I didn't last too long in those friend groups. Then again even in friend groups I was actually more integrated into I was often "the slow one" people had to dumb things down to.
Looking back at all of the friends i've had in my lifetime, especially within my adult life, the only people I've really connected with were men who had at least one thing wrong with them. They were either poor, sub5, low IQ, or ND. There were a few exceptions, but that was mostly it. I know it's coming off like I think I'm "too good" for those kinds of people but that's not what I'm saying and not how I feel. I'm just saying this to make a point that I just didn't culturally fit in with the average urbanite normie who thrives in the big city.
But from what I've heard, maybe rural areas are more my kind of people. More extroverted, less educated, less pretentious, and more down-to-earth simple people who don't use high level vocabulary I don't understand and have more basic interests and pleasures. I'm as basic as it gets. I don't even really have any hobbies anymore. I just work, eat, sleep, and on my days off i just sort of chill.
Maybe this is just a "grass is greener" mentality. I've spent very little time in rural areas, and whenever I've been to them, they feel pretty foreign (simply due to a lack of experience with such environments). But I was never there long enough to really get a deep understanding of the social dynamics. So maybe I'm way off about all of this. Maybe my ideas are based off of antiquated stereotypes about what rural america is like. It would be interesting to hear from people who live (or have lived) in rural areas. And even better if there's someone here who has lived in both rural and urban environments who can contrast the two.
Obviously I'm not going to quit my job, pack up and move to rural middle america. For one I'm lucky to even have a full time job and have a healthcare plan, especially as a middle aged man with no degree. So as shitty as my job is, I'm going to cling to it for dear life because it's the only reason I'm not homeless. I also know in rural areas jobs are even harder to get. A lot of people move from rural areas TO cities simply for jobs because there are none where they're from. That and I'm way too old to assimilate into what is effectively a different culture. I'm just thinking about "what could have been" if my circumstances were different, which is a common incel theme even if this post has nothing to do with inceldom.
