I struck a conversation with a girl at work

[incel4life]

She was wearing a shirt of a university close to my hometown (which is far away from where I work), so I stopped her and said "Do you go to <university>?", and she said "No I'm university staff who is visiting <workplace> to do research, but I did go to the same university when I was a student". I said "Oh cool, I went to <university that is close to her university>". Then she introduced herself to me and asked me what my name is. She seemed like she was open to talking more, but I cut the conversation short and said "It was nice meeting you" (I figured it would be 'creepy' if I lingered on for too long). Btw, I am a currycel and she is Chinese. Do you think I have a chance with her?

 

[IronMike]

Look at your join date. You know the answer.

 

[UnfortunatelyINCEL98]

lol....Yeah man casual conversation she wants you to bust her pussy open!

 

[FeminismsCancer]

It's a bit of an IOI but don't read too much into it either.

 

[Hunter]

next time you have to ask her "do you fuck on i?"

you got to be direct and assertive otherwise she will skip you for chad.

 

[Deleted member 3291]

idk but you sound bluepilled

 

[11gaijin]

You know why your happy? Because for the first time in your life you striked up a conversation with no intention of sleeping with her. You didn't send out any autism vide. When you act nt thats when you see interest from a girl.

trust me women can sense the autism vide from incels from a mile away. But if you are free from outcome that when your normal self projects into the conversation.

Does that mean you'll get laid? It depends. Have you passed her looks freshold? can you continue acting normal so you don̈́'t fuck it up?
Just act like a normie, and see what things happen

ah, damn more bluepills.

 

[z2020]

It's hard to say. Even if you're a creep girls might be nice to you due to fear of what your reaction would be if they shut you down /simply ignored you.

I wouldn't think much of it, unless you're not ugly and think you have a chance.

 

[Zaetheus]

who konws ,u never know if u dont try.

 

[Zaetheus]

ah, damn more bluepills.

Im convinced their IT spies here to bluepill the weak minded.

 

[Enigmatic93]

Im convinced their IT spies here to bluepill the weak minded.

This. I've seen a few of these guys here who post bluepills and dress them up in PSL/incel lingo but it doesn't fool me.

 

[maynarde]

G

Look at your join date. You know the answer.

GooOd grief

Talk with them

Keep it light

 

[Enigmatic93]

To OP: No you don't have a chance. If you have to second guess whether a girl likes you, she doesn't

 

[Kointo1]

It was nothing more than a conversation, I think. And on top of that, you initiated it.

 

[Its_OVER]

It's over for you. JFL @ analyzing this shit.

 

[Weirdcel]

you initiated it.

I am a currycel

OVER

 

[Maeror]

It was nothing more than a conversation, I think. And on top of that, you initiated it.

 

[blackcel]

Look at your join date. You know the answer.

kekus maximus

 

[Sadist]

lol....Yeah man casual conversation she wants you to bust her pussy open!

if he was chad she would

but no OP you aren't chad so moving on was the best thing to have done at that situation

 

[VLÖ]

This is not a fucking relationship help forum.

 

[Richard spencer]

Holy shit bro you're in,just keep holding frame and you will be spinning plates in no time,don't forget to no fap and no pillow.

 

[Welcumtotherealworld]

She was wearing a shirt of a university close to my hometown (which is far away from where I work), so I stopped her and said "Do you go to <university>?", and she said "No I'm university staff who is visiting <workplace> to do research, but I did go to the same university when I was a student". I said "Oh cool, I went to <university that is close to her university>". Then she introduced herself to me and asked me what my name is. She seemed like she was open to talking more, but I cut the conversation short and said "It was nice meeting you" (I figured it would be 'creepy' if I lingered on for too long). Btw, I am a currycel and she is Chinese. Do you think I have a chance with her?

SHE'S CHINESE?! You should have secured her because Chad or Tyrone comes along!

 

[The End]

If you have to second guess whether a girl likes you, she doesn't

 

[E.C.C.O]

lol....Yeah man casual conversation she wants you to bust her pussy open!

Shit pants here is right tbh

 

[seclod]

There is something you can do.

Bring it up with her.

Straight up ask her, hey, I'm wondering if you're single. I think you're cute.

One of two things will happen. EITHER she will confirm she was just being nice (to feel good about herself), and she will say "sorry ___" fill in the blank with anything, if her answer starts with sorry it means she was just being nice and she's not interested.

OR.. she will say that's brave of you etc. etc. And you might have a chance.

Both of these are acceptable.

Do it. The worse case scenario is not knowing which group she falls into and pulling Our bald-cell hairs out over it.

 

[TheRealChincel]

Sounds like a regular convo. The fact that you're analyzing it like this is more telling than anything else, OP.

 

[incel4life]

There is something you can do.

Bring it up with her.

Straight up ask her, hey, I'm wondering if you're single. I think you're cute.

One of two things will happen. EITHER she will confirm she was just being nice (to feel good about herself), and she will say "sorry ___" fill in the blank with anything, if her answer starts with sorry it means she was just being nice and she's not interested.

OR.. she will say that's brave of you etc. etc. And you might have a chance.

Both of these are acceptable.

Do it. The worse case scenario is not knowing which group she falls into and pulling Our bald-cell hairs out over it.

Haha, no I would NEVER do that unless she showed CLEAR signs of interest in me first. My protocol for what to do is:

1) Wait for her to start a conversation with me. If she has ANY attraction to me at all she will one of these days find an excuse start a conversation with me, now that I have initiated contact with her.

2) After she starts talking to me I will do things like tap her arm as I am talking to her. If she doesn't respond negatively, I will get more aggressive in touching her.

3) If I can get to the point where I can leave my arm on her shoulder and she still has a big smile on her face, then I will start calling her attractive, etc, and then use her reaction to that as a gauge for whether or not I should ask her to spend more time with me

 

[GymcelsAreFakecels]

If you tried you might?

 

[seclod]

Haha, no I would NEVER do that unless she showed CLEAR signs of interest in me first. My protocol for what to do is:

1) Wait for her to start a conversation with me. If she has ANY attraction to me at all she will one of these days find an excuse start a conversation with me, now that I have initiated contact with her.

2) After she starts talking to me I will do things like tap her arm as I am talking to her. If she doesn't respond negatively, I will get more aggressive in touching her.

3) If I can get to the point where I can leave my arm on her shoulder and she still has a big smile on her face, then I will start calling her attractive, etc, and then use her reaction to that as a gauge for whether or not I should ask her to spend more time with me

This sounds like an amazing plan to get friends zoned slowly over 3-4 years.

The point being if she IS attracted, she will respond positively after the first few seconds of you telling her.
If she isn't attracted she will also tell you.

No amount of waiting for her to start a conversation or months of slowly awkwardly touching her shoulder and smiling is going to change that simple fact, that she is either thinking:

"This guy is attractive, I want to be with him"

or

"This guy is disgusting currycel, my parents would abandon me if I get with him, but I have pity on him, I will talk to him for now because it will count as this week's social service".

No amount of awkwardly touching her arm while smiling will change the above thought process of hers. Unless you want to cuck yourself willingly into orbitting this woman for an undisclosed period of time, your best play is to be upfront get an answer/feedback.

It's like you sat a Math test, and your plan now is to slowly approach the professor and start touching his arm and smiling to get a better score. Either she's attracted or not, Either you passed the test or you didn't. Just go pick up your paper and check the mark.

 

[BlackPillUNC]

"This girl was actually willing to speak to me... Does she want my penis" has become the subject of many posts here.

 

[Incel_Dikshit]

Look for the ioi's

 

[th62eathhts2]

To OP: No you don't have a chance. If you have to second guess whether a girl likes you, she doesn't

 

[GeneticDysfunction]

Dude fucking ask the bitch out. Dont get friendzoned.

 

[Quenma888]

If youre a light skinned curry you might have a chance.
If not then forget about it.

 

[incel4life]

This sounds like an amazing plan to get friends zoned slowly over 3-4 years.

The point being if she IS attracted, she will respond positively after the first few seconds of you telling her.
If she isn't attracted she will also tell you.

No amount of waiting for her to start a conversation or months of slowly awkwardly touching her shoulder and smiling is going to change that simple fact, that she is either thinking:

"This guy is attractive, I want to be with him"

or

"This guy is disgusting currycel, my parents would abandon me if I get with him, but I have pity on him, I will talk to him for now because it will count as this week's social service".

No amount of awkwardly touching her arm while smiling will change the above thought process of hers. Unless you want to cuck yourself willingly into orbitting this woman for an undisclosed period of time, your best play is to be upfront get an answer/feedback.

It's like you sat a Math test, and your plan now is to slowly approach the professor and start touching his arm and smiling to get a better score. Either she's attracted or not, Either you passed the test or you didn't. Just go pick up your paper and check the mark.

Why do you add "while smiling" in there, I never said that. It's a critical difference, touching a girl while smiling vs not smiling. When you smile while touching a girl, that means you think the girl is 'yours', and that you have her 'in the bag' and this utterly creeps out the girl. It doesn't matter how confident you are - if you smile too much when touching a girl, it is creepy. But when you touch a girl while having a neutral expression, it means you are waiting to see what her reaction to being touched is, and that you understand that she might reject you and you won't get to fuck her. The neutral expression, the act of being perceptive to the girl's reaction to being touched, and not thinking "I have her in the bag, I am going to fuck her", is what makes it non-creepy.

Asking a girl on a date out of the blue has good things about it, like it gives the girl the opportunity to reject you, but depending on the setting it can make a woman feel extremely uncomfortable - a workplace environment is one of these settings where asking a girl on a date puts extreme pressure on her in the wrong way. And not to mention it makes things very awkward afterward if you happen to run into her again at work.

I still think my previously stated order is optimal:

1) Touch girl and see if she feels comfortable with it (and abort mission if she does not)
2) Tell the girl she is beautiful or attractive, and see if she responds positively (stop associating with her if you get vibes that she feels uncomfortable)
3) Ask her on a date

I agree that ideally it should be done very quickly after meeting her, but you should not do step 3 before you do step 1 or step 2, unless you like making life more awkward than it has to be.

 

[Indari]

no.

 

[seclod]

Why do you add "while smiling" in there, I never said that. It's a critical difference, touching a girl while smiling vs not smiling. When you smile while touching a girl, that means you think the girl is 'yours', and that you have her 'in the bag' and this utterly creeps out the girl. It doesn't matter how confident you are - if you smile too much when touching a girl, it is creepy. But when you touch a girl while having a neutral expression, it means you are waiting to see what her reaction to being touched is, and that you understand that she might reject you and you won't get to fuck her. The neutral expression, the act of being perceptive to the girl's reaction to being touched, and not thinking "I have her in the bag, I am going to fuck her", is what makes it non-creepy.

Asking a girl on a date out of the blue has good things about it, like it gives the girl the opportunity to reject you, but depending on the setting it can make a woman feel extremely uncomfortable - a workplace environment is one of these settings where asking a girl on a date puts extreme pressure on her in the wrong way. And not to mention it makes things very awkward afterward if you happen to run into her again at work.

I still think my previously stated order is optimal:

1) Touch girl and see if she feels comfortable with it (and abort mission if she does not)
2) Tell the girl she is beautiful or attractive, and see if she responds positively (stop associating with her if you get vibes that she feels uncomfortable)
3) Ask her on a date

I agree that ideally it should be done very quickly after meeting her, but you should not do step 3 before you do step 1 or step 2, unless you like making life more awkward than it has to be.

Listen to yourself man,

Just think logically about it. Why should you not do step 3 before step 1? Do you think if she was really attracted she would care if step 3 was done before step 2?

This is EXACTLY like going to the professor to get your math mark.
The exam was when you were concieved. Either you got shit marks, or good marks.

Smiling while touching her, not smiling, dressing nice, wearing rags, expression, confidence, all of this matters to her.. as much as it matters to your math professor when he gives you your paper. 1+1=2 no matter if your wearing rags, or if you smile while taking the paper.


Get your mark. Go and tell her how you feel, and you will have an answer.
Or atleast admit that it's the possibility of it being a good mark is more enjoyable for you then actually finding your mark. (And self delusion is a fine brand of cope, nothing to be ashamed of).

Just realise though your burning precious life while playing these stupid games.
The true secret to escaping incel is it's a brutal numbers game. The faster you get rejected, and the more times you can do it without breaking down completely the better your chances without being chad.