I remember as a kid I had no idea how challenging it would be finding women

[Hoppipolla]

It's strange isn't it?

When you're a kid you assume the dating game and relationships will be 50/50.

I had no idea that demand would be so skewed and as a guy your attention from women would be a fraction of what they get from men.

It's very challenging out there!

 

[Wolnir]

When I was like 16/17, I believed the blue pill advice that it would "just happen" still hasn't happened 7 years later.

 

[Incel Philosopher]

It's crazy how normal and simple I expected life to be, when I was a kid.

 

[Med Anime]

when i was a kid my parents were super religious and they never liked the fact that getting a gf is something only thugs and degenerate do so i grow up all my life feeling like i should never get into relationship because intimacy is cursed but then discovered that they were just delusional

 

[Rick prime]

When I was a kid I thought humans actually were better than just visual creatures. Man I was wrong. They are actually more primitive than I actually thought

 

[Rick prime]

It's crazy how normal and simple I expected life to be, when I was a kid.

5 year old me is pissed. I can feel it.

 

[Justdone]

5 year old me is pissed. I can feel it.

Most of us here have failed our 13 year old selves

 

[Belzebu]

I thought about that some time ago. When we were kids, we saw a lot of couples everywhere and, for us, it was clear it was destiny for everyone. Everyone will have someone eventually because it looks like that based on what we see.

But I realized, kids are not seeing me, like I didn't see lonely man when I was a kid. Because they don't go to places alone, if they did everyone would think he was an ugly creep and call the police on them and after many terrible experiences with people, they decided to stay away from everyone, we are not wanted anywhere.

 

[Made in Heaven]

It's crazy how normal and simple I expected life to be, when I was a kid.

It's strange isn't it?

When you're a kid you assume the dating game and relationships will be 50/50.

I had no idea that demand would be so skewed and as a guy your attention from women would be a fraction of what they get from men.

It's very challenging out there!

When I was like 16/17, I believed the blue pill advice that it would "just happen" still hasn't happened 7 years later.

Brutal bluepill moment. I became subconsciously aware of how good women had it by the time I was like 10 or 11. As a quite autist I often would just observe my classmates and it became too dam apparent how easy things were for girls and chads in my class

 

[Wolnir]

Brutal bluepill moment. I became subconsciously aware of how good women had it by the time I was like 10 or 11. As a quite autist I often would just observe my classmates and it became too dam apparent how easy things were for girls and chads in my class

I saw from a young age that uglier boys were treated worse and a lot of girls would not even want to be seen talking to one, I just thought that things would change after high school.

 

[ULTRAMAN]

Just this afternoon, I was watching the movie "WarGames" (1983) and had the same reflection. In this film, the protagonist invites a fellow classmate to his computerized room. Even though she wasn't a Stacy but rather a Becky, I couldn't help but think that if I had seen that movie back in those years, I would have imagined that I could have done the same. Throughout my entire life, that thing that seemed so easy while watching a movie never happened to me. I remember noticing the same thing in a movie called "The Last Starfighter" from 1984, where the protagonist, who was a video game player, also had a girl by his side. Believing that if you played video games in your room or in arcades, you could also be popular with certain girls was just a very common gaslighting[ in this kind of film. jewlywood knew that by deceiving these lonely, computer-interested kids and teenagers, they would turn them into cogs in the system, making them believe that foids were also interested in them.

Shortly after puberty, I realized that the girls in my class started showing interest in certain boys, and there were even romances. I used to say, "My turn will come in a few more years." But that never happened.

 

[Epedaphic]

Same, I assumed that symmetry existed between male and female experiences. I even bought into the narrative in my early 20s that if I worked on my career, I'd get a hot wife and win in the end. How wrong (and brainwashed) I was.

 

[Defetivecuckachu]

Shortly after puberty, I realized that the girls in my class started showing interest in certain boys, and there were even romances. I used to say, "My turn will come in a few more years." But that never happened.

I just thought that things would change after high school.

I even bought into the narrative in my early 20s that if I worked on my career, I'd get a hot wife and win in the end. How wrong (and brainwashed) I was.

TBH I started to have doubts about comforting bluepilled optimism/gaslighting while I was still at high school... the cool kids seemed to be having a LOT of fun fucking foids at and after parties, nothing like that even remotely existed in my world.

I really expected that going away to be a university student, everything would change, I'd find "my people" and I would meet some kind of cute studious gf.

JFL. Nope.

By the time I graduated and got started on my career, I had low expectations that anything romantic or sexual would happen for me, and time and trying have only ever validated that.

The one thing I will say though, is that out of my group of 5 hopelessly un-Chad nerd buddies at university, 3 of them later miraculously found their unicorns and ascended and have good full lives today. One of them even has a quite attractive long term GF. While AFAIK (as of a couple years ago) two of us still belong here.

So that's why my advice has always been, you can spare yourself a lot of false hope and heartbreak if you keep your expectations sensible and grounded in a blackpilled understanding of reality. But unicorns do exist and miraculous ascensions do occur. So if you can, keep your door ever so slightly open to the possibility that something good might happen.

 

[Epedaphic]

So if you can, keep your door ever so slightly open to the possibility that something good might happen.

Wise words. Sadly the possibility dwindles with age.

 

[Rick prime]

Most of us here have failed our 13 year old selves

5 year old me is planning the apocalypse so it's all good

 

[Hoppipolla]

TBH I started to have doubts about comforting bluepilled optimism/gaslighting while I was still at high school... the cool kids seemed to be having a LOT of fun fucking foids at and after parties, nothing like that even remotely existed in my world.

I really expected that going away to be a university student, everything would change, I'd find "my people" and I would meet some kind of cute studious gf.

JFL. Nope.

By the time I graduated and got started on my career, I had low expectations that anything romantic or sexual would happen for me, and time and trying have only ever validated that.

The one thing I will say though, is that out of my group of 5 hopelessly un-Chad nerd buddies at university, 3 of them later miraculously found their unicorns and ascended and have good full lives today. One of them even has a quite attractive long term GF. While AFAIK (as of a couple years ago) two of us still belong here.

So that's why my advice has always been, you can spare yourself a lot of false hope and heartbreak if you keep your expectations sensible and grounded in a blackpilled understanding of reality. But unicorns do exist and miraculous ascensions do occur. So if you can, keep your door ever so slightly open to the possibility that something good might happen.

That was a long post but very good! I definitely agree.

But it still blows my mind that things are so challenging for guys. It's not fair really.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

It's crazy how innocent and clueless we were back in the day.
Even crazier is that we still have the same amount of sexual experience now than when we were kids.

Everything changed, but nothing changed.