I need to wake up to reality

[Pikacel]

My longstanding addiction to instant dopamine has ruined me. I have zero life skills IRL. I literally cannot do anything. Instead of learning things and breaking milestones throughout my life I just gave up and LDARed in my room.

The problem is how stressful and depressing it feels when I eventually try to something IRL. I realise how much time I wasted and how I have the skill level of a 6 year old.

At the same time if I am actually resilient and disciplined I can fix a lot within a couple years. Problem is I always give up early and never try again, ultimately opting to return to the pathetic embrace of comfort and instant gratification

 

[aryanmikmaq]

I gave up on social life and rot in my room

 

[Soystein]

My longstanding addiction to instant dopamine has ruined me. I have zero life skills IRL. I literally cannot do anything. Instead of learning things and breaking milestones throughout my life I just gave up and LDARed in my room.

The problem is how stressful and depressing it feels when I eventually try to something IRL. I realise how much time I wasted and how I have the skill level of a 6 year old.

At the same time if I am actually resilient and disciplined I can fix a lot within a couple years. Problem is I always give up early and never try again, ultimately opting to return to the pathetic embrace of comfort and instant gratification

I am the same, the rope is calling me

 

[Mr.Breb]

can relate
I daydream constantly and if not im fapping
My life is mostly in my imagination

I gave up on social life and rot in my room

 

[Leon98]

I am the same, the rope is calling me

 

[Freixel]

I literally made the decision to stop watching porn and free my mind and spirit from this fucking Jewish garbage created to destroy men's brains.

In the long run, porn causes more pain than pleasure.

 

[Pikacel]

can relate
I daydream constantly and if not im fapping
My life is mostly in my imagination

Hmm you waste so much time though. Best to bite the bullet and play catch up

 

[TimeMachineOrLDAR]

I gave up on social life and rot in my room

 

[TimeMachineOrLDAR]

Hmm you waste so much time though. Best to bite the bullet and play catch up

How would catching up look like? In what exactly and how?

 

[AdolfRizzler]

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

Same. I am completely rotten.

 

[coursehawk69]

I recently saw an interesting video about dopamine, if you're not already well-informed about it:
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2jZ-iOR8p4


The key takeaway for me is that dopamine gets depleted doing easy things like scrolling social media and binging youtube/porn etc. It then makes it harder to do boring, focused, delayed reward tasks. So you're not just wasting time when you do that stuff, you are crippling your mind for the next 24 or so hours. Put a brighter way, you have real incentive to work hard at the start of the day and wait until the end to relax. It's not just good discipline, it is easier for you to work hard then goof off vs start the day mindlessly scrolling then try to make up for it.

 

[Pikacel]

Same. I am completely rotten.

I recently saw an interesting video about dopamine, if you're not already well-informed about it:
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2jZ-iOR8p4


The key takeaway for me is that dopamine gets depleted doing easy things like scrolling social media and binging youtube/porn etc. It then makes it harder to do boring, focused, delayed reward tasks. So you're not just wasting time when you do that stuff, you are crippling your mind for the next 24 or so hours. Put a brighter way, you have real incentive to work hard at the start of the day and wait until the end to relax. It's not just good discipline, it is easier for you to work hard then goof off vs start the day mindlessly scrolling then try to make up for it.

I’m going mad. 3 years ago I set so many goals and I didn’t accomplish a single one. I’m still a fat unemployed loser. What the FUCK am I doing to myself

 

[flute_snoop]

Nofap, no thc (legal where i'm from, cunts.) When I buy groceries I have tunnel vision. I don't look at women. It's like a game I play where I'm the only one here. Turning off my peripheral vision is a new tactic I'm using. I am going to give up completely in the next year or 2. All that will entail is deleting 2 dating profiles. No one gives a shit anyway, not only do they not reply, they don't even bother looking at my profile because they can tell I'm a loser. Well, what is deemed a "loser" in their disgusting consumerist hellscape.

 

[Extern]

Same. ADHD makes me a retarded lowlife nigger

 

[Livonica_Irreale]

When I buy groceries I have tunnel vision. I don't look at women. It's like a game I play where I'm the only one here. Turning off my peripheral vision is a new tactic I'm using.

It works but only in old fashioned groceries, where music's not raping my ears.
Seriously, i fucking hate this stock music that rapes my poor ears and distrupt my cognitive process during shopping.

 

[Itsoverm8]

It works but only in old fashioned groceries, where music's not raping my ears.
Seriously, i fucking hate this stock music that rapes my poor ears and distrupt my cognitive process during shopping.

Get some headphones

 

[Livonica_Irreale]

Get some headphones

I need to hear my environment, because somebody might stab me in the back.

 

[SteelCentaur]

The reality is that it's too late now, and you'll never catch up. Even if you did, your genetics will always hold you back. At this point, you may as well keep rotting.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

I'm the same. I always wondered if it's genetic or a consequence of our life as incels, if I became like this because of the depression from the social rejection since I was a kid, or if I was simply born like this because of a genetically inferior and underdeveloped prefrontal cortex or something. Sometimes, looking at my actions, I'm really afraid it's the latter.

 

[PolnischeKartoffel]

I have reality, but still an inkell

 

[mariomariuss]

have the skill level of a 6 year old.

some 6 year olds mogs me

 

[Zaraj11]

I’m going mad. 3 years ago I set so many goals and I didn’t accomplish a single one. I’m still a fat unemployed loser. What the FUCK am I doing to myself

You can set goals if you want, but before that there's something more important to do. Create a schedule, you can do it in google calendar and set notifications. If you have one, you will be motivated to follow it, even if you miss some of it, it's better than nothing.