I find it wild how much most people change over time

[Hoppipolla]

Like... let's say we separate life into child, teen, young adult, adult, elderly.

I dunno about the elderly stage

But between all the others I've noticed really big changes in people.

Child to teen is obvious. Teen to young adult... people become a lot less wild and more orderly, typically. I think it's largely due to the brain finishing developing.

Young adult to adult... I'm not sure. On paper there are no further changes but in practice I guess people's lives change a lot and that can shape how they view things and what they want to do with their time.

And elderly... I guess everything slows down and strangely might in some ways become more like young adult in some ways as you're less busy again. But you enjoy more boring things lol

So yah idk. It's strange to me because I never really change that much so often people seem to grow apart from me, not the other way around.

That being said I also have some health stuff going on that make it harder to fulfill those adult responsibilities, which can encourage you to stay in the young adult stage.

I guess anyone who struggles to find a partner will stay in young adult a bit because things like having a family is how the adult stage really takes form.

That being said, I remember meeting people who were like 30 and 40 and single when I was 20 and they still looked like adults because they had their lives together (their own house or flat, etc).

Anyway yeah I just wanted to explore this a bit!


EDIT -- Oh wow long post sorry!

 

[Scatius Deletus]

Idk

 

[Uggo Mongo]

 

[Hoppipolla]

I think that adult stage is mostly having a family. Unless you do that... your life mostly stays the same.

That seems to be the thing that really separates the 3 latter life stages, other than slowing down a bit with age.

 

[Animecel2D]

I don’t feel like I’ve changed at all tbh

 

[Hoppipolla]

Idk

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lol, and sorry I posted again without replying and stuff - I was in my own world thinking about this and forgot to refresh the page!

But yah maybe it's a weird topic idk

 

[SuperKanga.Belgrade]

I'm just trying to enjoy my time for as long as I can. There will be no old age for me.

 

[Defetivecuckachu]

That being said, I remember meeting people who were like 30 and 40 and single when I was 20 and they still looked like adults because they had their lives together (their own house or flat, etc).

^^^ This.

Years spent taking on big debt to buy property, and working it away, is character building and affects what you care about. When I was 20 I didn't even know what city council taxes were, let alone care if they were increasing too much.

And obviously I've never made a family of my own. I always wanted that though, and I've now got to an age where even if I met someone tomorrow, it would be too late to do all that, I would be 60yo dad trying to play cricket on the lawn with my teenagers, that obviously isn't going to work.

So I've actually grieved all of that, like a loss that has happened and it's over now. Which is a different thing than the fear of missing out that characterizes young inceldom.

So even in inceldom there are differences between young and old. For those reasons, a lot of teen and 20-something forum users seem very young and flippant and ignorant to me.

 

[Hoppipolla]

^^^ This.

Years spent taking on big debt to buy property, and working it away, is character building and affects what you care about. When I was 20 I didn't even know what city council taxes were, let alone care if they were increasing too much.

And obviously I've never made a family of my own. I always wanted that though, and I've now got to an age where even if I met someone tomorrow, it would be too late to do all that, I would be 60yo dad trying to play cricket on the lawn with my teenagers, that obviously isn't going to work.

So I've actually grieved all of that, like a loss that has happened and it's over now. Which is a different thing than the fear of missing out that characterizes young inceldom.

So even in inceldom there are differences between young and old. For those reasons, a lot of teen and 20-something forum users seem very young and flippant and ignorant to me.

Interestingly though so many women never seem to really grow up, lol

They stay emotional and wild forever.

I have investments and stuff now but I mostly just want to keep them afloat so I can live my life. That being said... I've never taken on lots of debt. That's a bit heavy for me >.<

I guess the key word there is responsibility.

Yeah I guess it is tricky to have kids past a certain age. I mean, lots of chaotic situations happen, but it's hard to imagine it as a normal family unit.

 

[VideoGameCoper]

I don’t feel like I’ve changed at all tbh

I have the exact same interests I did as a kid

 

[light]

are you fakecel

 

[Starfish Vs Koala]

I keep changing