example:
“I told my ex girlfriend to stop doing shrooms and she said no so I got really depressed and I started sleeping a lot so she told me we should take a break”
nothing about this scenario makes any sense to me. every part of this is so fucking random and arbitrary? I genuinely don’t get it. and they talk about it as if it’s the most natural thing in the world and they just navigate these kinds of situations on autopilot
the issues within this relationship dynamic seem insanely superficial and easy to resolve. I know exactly what I’d do to mend this situation and I’m pretty sure it’s the most reasonable and obvious way of handling it. logically it’s what I’d expect anyone to do. but I’m also pretty sure that that’s somehow the wrong way of doing things judging by how wildly different the “normie” response is and how the relationship had to end over it
I think there’s a lot of aspects of normie relationships that my autistic brain just doesn’t intrinsically think about at all. like you need to have drama and conflict, you need to maintain a level of “emotional boundaries”, you can’t be too agreeable because then you’re a “doormat”, etc. none of that shit is even considered in my thought processes or in my relationships with friends or other people. so that’s probably why the situation in the post above looks sounds so mind bogglingly straightforward and retarded to me.
I really think any prospective relationship I could ever have would be dead on arrival because of this type of thing. being NT and having some kind of past relationship experience (especially in your developmental years) is so unbelievably crucial
“I told my ex girlfriend to stop doing shrooms and she said no so I got really depressed and I started sleeping a lot so she told me we should take a break”
nothing about this scenario makes any sense to me. every part of this is so fucking random and arbitrary? I genuinely don’t get it. and they talk about it as if it’s the most natural thing in the world and they just navigate these kinds of situations on autopilot
the issues within this relationship dynamic seem insanely superficial and easy to resolve. I know exactly what I’d do to mend this situation and I’m pretty sure it’s the most reasonable and obvious way of handling it. logically it’s what I’d expect anyone to do. but I’m also pretty sure that that’s somehow the wrong way of doing things judging by how wildly different the “normie” response is and how the relationship had to end over it
I think there’s a lot of aspects of normie relationships that my autistic brain just doesn’t intrinsically think about at all. like you need to have drama and conflict, you need to maintain a level of “emotional boundaries”, you can’t be too agreeable because then you’re a “doormat”, etc. none of that shit is even considered in my thought processes or in my relationships with friends or other people. so that’s probably why the situation in the post above looks sounds so mind bogglingly straightforward and retarded to me.
I really think any prospective relationship I could ever have would be dead on arrival because of this type of thing. being NT and having some kind of past relationship experience (especially in your developmental years) is so unbelievably crucial
