Serious I care way too much about other people's opinions, is there a cure for this?

[zombie]

When I leave my house, I try to pick clothes that look good. When I speak in public, I am nervous as shit. Every time I see or do something stupid in a social context I ruminate that moment in my mind over and over for days or even weeks. I can't imagine myself escortcelling because of how they would judge me. I simply can't enjoy autistic shit like video games or drawing anymore because they give me no social validation. I can only play competitive games which include other players like I have something to prove and I want their validation.

Obviously if I was an 8+ Chad I would receive all this validation I crave so much to the point I would not even care about it. But I am obviously not.

Is there a cure for this? Is there anyone here who got over this? I don't feel like being a bitch to everyone else forever. I tried changing my mindset little by little every day and do little things to become more independent but its taking too long and I don't even know if its working...

 

[Sweedee]

Is there a cure for this?

rope

 

[Infinite LDAR]

Accept your personality everytime even when it's not aligned with what people wants you to be at the moment

You will still feel bad when you think other people are judging you because it's Biology but the fact that you know it is biology and not you will lessen the feeling and it will be better than being afraid of doing something bad that will make people judging because by overthinking your persona you'll feel even worse

Get your hormones checked and Jewgle on their effects on anxiety, if there is a problem and it's resolved, it will reduce both the bad feeling of thinking you are judged and the bad feeling when seeing someone judging you when you are yourself

Accept that women won't give you that validation whatever the fuck you try to optimize in you
After that, everything else will be about the fact that you are afraid of being disrespected while being afraid to not being able to respond but there is no cure for that which does no demand efforts like boxing or gymmaxing


You need to see the patterns which makes you feel bad (afraid of looking ugly ? Afraid of downgrading your chance with women ? Afraid of being picked on ? Afraid of not being perfect ?) and accept the flaw which causes it.

If you feel you are making progress then it's good because the brain needs time to "de-emotionalize" somethinf even if you rationally understood it. Why do you think you have made progress ? You've built some ego but not enough ?

 

[Shigechi]

Accept that it's over.

 

[mylifeistrash]

They judge you on your face, not what you do. It's completely out of your control.

 

[zombie]

Accept your personality everytime even when it's not aligned with what people wants you to be at the moment

You will still feel bad when you think other people are judging you because it's Biology but the fact that you know it is biology and not you will lessen the feeling and it will be better than being afraid of doing something bad that will make people judging because by overthinking your persona you'll feel even worse

Get your hormones checked on Jewgle on their effects on anxiety, if there is a problem and it's resolved, it will reduce both the bad feeling of thinking you are judged and the bad feeling when seeing someone judging you when you are yourself

Accept that women won't give you that validation whatever the fuck you try to optimize in you
After that, everything else will be about the fact that you are afraid of being disrespected while being afraid to not being able to respond but there is no cure for that which does no demand efforts like boxing or gymmaxing


You need to see the patterns which makes you feel bad (afraid of looking ugly ? Afraid of downgrading your chance with women ? Afraid of being picked on ? Afraid of not being perfect ?) and accept the flaw which causes it.

If you feel you are making progress then it's good because the brain needs time to "de-emotionalize" something. Why do you think you have made progress ? You've built some ego but not enough ?

Thanks for the response. Maybe knowing its just basic instincts and allow them to happen without stressing over it will make things easier, I have a lot of discipline.

They judge you on your face, not what you do. It's completely out of your control.

I know, but the rational brain and the emotional brain are separate. I can rationally know its outside of my control but emotionally I feel like I should do something about it. And it keeps going back and forth.

 

[Vermilioncore]

Accept that it's over.

 

[littlemanhikicel]

As society isolates you more and more, you will give less importance to what they will say. It's a matter of time.

 

[Transcended Trucel]

Meditation

 

[Perseus]

After i suffered enough at the hands of others, i realized their retarded opinions don't mean shit to me, unless i have to put up with them if they give me roof over my head, food etc. But even after this it always stings when people treat you like shit, it's just a different way for you to get slapped in the face, you don't have to care about the person slapping you but you will always feel the slap.

 

[Lifeisbullshit95]

As I say Morality is a mental illness