Phase 1: Passive-aggressiveness
This is the first indication that she has registered you have dared disagree with her.
Woman: I can't believe it's not butter.
Man: This doesn't taste anything like butter.
Woman: i didn't saaaay that, but ooookaaaaaaay.
Goal: She wants you to get angry so she can move to the next phase.
Phase 2: Obnoxious snark
She still wants to maintain some level of plausible deniability.
Man: You did just say that. That's what you implied.
Woman: All I said is I can't believe it's not butter, not that it tastes like butter.
Man: What else would "I can't believe it's not butter" mean? That's the subtext of "I can't believe it's not butter." What, you "can't believe it" for no reason at all?
Woman: If you say so.
Man: What do you mean, "if you say so?" There's literally no other interpretation, unless you're talking about appearance or scent. Were you talking about appearance or scent?
Woman: You have it all figured out. You're a mind-reader.
Goal: Ramping up the anger.
Phase 3: Insult your manhood
"You have a small penis."
"You wonder why you can't get laid"/"This is why you can't get laid."
"Who hurt you?"
Goal: Increasing the anger. The angrier you get, the more likely she can claim to be the victim of your "abuse."
Phase 4: "Let's just drop it"/"I'm blocking you now" (if in electronic communication)
In person, she attempts the "agree to disagree" tactic when she's getting destroyed so that it appears she's the "mature" one who won the argument. It's a guaranteed victory for her, because if the man doesn't accept her insistence she won when she got destroyed, he now looks unreasonable, abusive, and she might even be able to get him to smack her.
Online, she gets to take screen shots of your "abusive" interaction with her and shame you on whatever social media.
Goal: "I was abused!"
This is the first indication that she has registered you have dared disagree with her.
Woman: I can't believe it's not butter.
Man: This doesn't taste anything like butter.
Woman: i didn't saaaay that, but ooookaaaaaaay.
Goal: She wants you to get angry so she can move to the next phase.
Phase 2: Obnoxious snark
She still wants to maintain some level of plausible deniability.
Man: You did just say that. That's what you implied.
Woman: All I said is I can't believe it's not butter, not that it tastes like butter.
Man: What else would "I can't believe it's not butter" mean? That's the subtext of "I can't believe it's not butter." What, you "can't believe it" for no reason at all?
Woman: If you say so.
Man: What do you mean, "if you say so?" There's literally no other interpretation, unless you're talking about appearance or scent. Were you talking about appearance or scent?
Woman: You have it all figured out. You're a mind-reader.
Goal: Ramping up the anger.
Phase 3: Insult your manhood
"You have a small penis."
"You wonder why you can't get laid"/"This is why you can't get laid."
"Who hurt you?"
Goal: Increasing the anger. The angrier you get, the more likely she can claim to be the victim of your "abuse."
Phase 4: "Let's just drop it"/"I'm blocking you now" (if in electronic communication)
In person, she attempts the "agree to disagree" tactic when she's getting destroyed so that it appears she's the "mature" one who won the argument. It's a guaranteed victory for her, because if the man doesn't accept her insistence she won when she got destroyed, he now looks unreasonable, abusive, and she might even be able to get him to smack her.
Online, she gets to take screen shots of your "abusive" interaction with her and shame you on whatever social media.
Goal: "I was abused!"
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