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"POLYAMORY — if you believe the newspapers — is the hot new lifestyle option for affectless hipsters with alarming haircuts, or a sex cult, or both.
A wave of trend articles and documentaries has thrown new light on the practice, also known as ‘ethical non-monogamy’, a technical term for any arrangement in which you’re allowed to date and snuggle and sleep with whomever you want, as long as everyone involved is happy. Responses to this idea range from parental concern to outright panic.
Sleeping around is all well and good, but do we have to talk about it? Have we no shame? What’s wrong, after all, with good old-fashioned adultery?
Having been polyamorous for almost a decade, I spend a good deal of time explaining what it all means.
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When I told my magazine editor that I wanted to write about polyamory, she adjusted her monocle, puffed on her pipe and said, “In my day, young lady, we just called it ‘shagging around’.”
So I consider it my duty to her and the rest of the unenlightened to explain what it is that’s different about how the kids are doing it these days.
Laurie Penny has written about feminism for a range of publications. Picture: John Phillips/Getty Images
Laurie Penny has written about feminism for a range of publications. Picture: John Phillips/Getty ImagesSource:Getty Images
THE STATE OF POLYAMORY TODAY
The short answer is: it’s not the shagging around that’s new. There’s nothing new about shagging around.
I hear that it has been popular since at least 1963. What’s new is talking about it like grown-ups. It’s the conversations. It’s the texts with your girlfriend’s boyfriend about what to get her for her birthday. It’s sharing your Google Calendars to make sure nobody feels neglected.
The Daily Mail would have you believe that polyamory is all wild orgies full of rainbow-haired hedonists rhythmically thrusting aside common decency and battering sexual continence into submission with suspicious bits of rubber.
And there’s some truth to that. But far more of my polyamorous life involves making tea and talking sensibly about boundaries, safe sex and whose turn it is to do the washing-up.
Over the past 10 years, I have been a ‘single poly’ with no main partner; I have been in three-person relationships; I have had open relationships and dated people in open marriages.
The best parts of those experiences have overwhelmingly been clothed ones."
I'd say its pretty ridicuolous, how some of these people live like. Also too much suicide fuel...
Picture of the couple:
Here's the story:
"POLYAMORY — if you believe the newspapers — is the hot new lifestyle option for affectless hipsters with alarming haircuts, or a sex cult, or both.
A wave of trend articles and documentaries has thrown new light on the practice, also known as ‘ethical non-monogamy’, a technical term for any arrangement in which you’re allowed to date and snuggle and sleep with whomever you want, as long as everyone involved is happy. Responses to this idea range from parental concern to outright panic.
Sleeping around is all well and good, but do we have to talk about it? Have we no shame? What’s wrong, after all, with good old-fashioned adultery?
Having been polyamorous for almost a decade, I spend a good deal of time explaining what it all means.
RELATED: Meet America’s most popular author right now
When I told my magazine editor that I wanted to write about polyamory, she adjusted her monocle, puffed on her pipe and said, “In my day, young lady, we just called it ‘shagging around’.”
So I consider it my duty to her and the rest of the unenlightened to explain what it is that’s different about how the kids are doing it these days.
Laurie Penny has written about feminism for a range of publications. Picture: John Phillips/Getty Images
Laurie Penny has written about feminism for a range of publications. Picture: John Phillips/Getty ImagesSource:Getty Images
THE STATE OF POLYAMORY TODAY
The short answer is: it’s not the shagging around that’s new. There’s nothing new about shagging around.
I hear that it has been popular since at least 1963. What’s new is talking about it like grown-ups. It’s the conversations. It’s the texts with your girlfriend’s boyfriend about what to get her for her birthday. It’s sharing your Google Calendars to make sure nobody feels neglected.
The Daily Mail would have you believe that polyamory is all wild orgies full of rainbow-haired hedonists rhythmically thrusting aside common decency and battering sexual continence into submission with suspicious bits of rubber.
And there’s some truth to that. But far more of my polyamorous life involves making tea and talking sensibly about boundaries, safe sex and whose turn it is to do the washing-up.
Over the past 10 years, I have been a ‘single poly’ with no main partner; I have been in three-person relationships; I have had open relationships and dated people in open marriages.
The best parts of those experiences have overwhelmingly been clothed ones."
I'd say its pretty ridicuolous, how some of these people live like. Also too much suicide fuel...
