How do you cope with being both ugly and a complete moron?

[PrematureFailure]

Any tips from dumbcels on how to cope with being both an idiot and an incel? I wrote a 5 paragraph essay, but after giving it a good read I thought it was a little cringe inducing. DM for the full text if you’d like. To give some background, co-workers, barbers, and just people in general talk down to me or inadvertently call me an idiot; my family treats me this way too. It’s very crushing to not only be a failure in terms of looks, but also in every other aspect as well. I would probably attribute this to being born very underweight and also that I have a relatively small head in proportion to my body, but I’m a little uncertain tbh. I’d appreciate if you could tell me how to deal with being incompetent in nearly every aspect of life. Thanks.

 

[Animecel2D]

I can’t cope

 

[PrematureFailure]

I can’t cope

Where do you find the courage to continue?

 

[Animecel2D]

Where do you find the courage to continue?

It is not courage but fear that compels me to continue with this meaningless and painful existence

 

[HateEverythingGood]

There is no coping mechanism. Everyday I stare at the ceiling, noting that I am not only completely hideous, but a four-time college failure. Meanwhile everyone else I knew has lucrative jobs and university degrees. Nothing will change the fact I am a hideous retard.

 

[PrematureFailure]

There is no coping mechanism. Everyday I stare at the ceiling, noting that I am not only completely hideous, but a four-time college failure. Meanwhile everyone else I knew has lucrative jobs and university degrees. Nothing will change the fact I am a hideous retard.

Brutal. Did you always notice yourself struggling with academics? What is it like living with such limited resources? I’m in the same boat as well, classes are going very poorly. Any tips on how to live frugally? Don’t answer any you don’t want to ofc, I’m just curious and preparing myself for the inevitable.

 

[HateEverythingGood]

Brutal. Did you always notice yourself struggling with academics? What is it like living with such limited resources? I’m in the same boat as well, classes are going very poorly. Any tips on how to live frugally? Don’t answer any you don’t want to ofc, I’m just curious and preparing myself for the inevitable.

The main problem was the fact that college courses relied heavily on group work. The first two attempts were during COVID so I just kept my camera off and had very limited interactions, but still interactions, with classmates. But the lecturers were extremely unhelpful - for one assignment I asked a professor a question, and a few months later he went "Yeah, I found your post in my spam folder, but it's too late to help so you've failed." Third and fourth attempt was in-person and thus put a heavy emphasis on group work, but no one liked me. I could go into more detail but I've rambled enough here.

Limited resources suck, I can't even afford to go do anything entertaining by myself. I'm stuck in my room or at work, nothing else. I have no tips.

 

[fokusin]

There is no coping mechanism.

 

[Itsoverm8]

I can’t cope

 

[PrematureFailure]

The main problem was the fact that college courses relied heavily on group work. The first two attempts were during COVID so I just kept my camera off and had very limited interactions, but still interactions, with classmates. But the lecturers were extremely unhelpful - for one assignment I asked a professor a question, and a few months later he went "Yeah, I found your post in my spam folder, but it's too late to help so you've failed." Third and fourth attempt was in-person and thus put a heavy emphasis on group work, but no one liked me. I could go into more detail but I've rambled enough here.

Limited resources suck, I can't even afford to go do anything entertaining by myself. I'm stuck in my room or at work, nothing else. I have no tips.

Brutal. Both your professor and classmates loathe you. If I ever do get a decent job, such as one in an office, I’m not sure how I’m going to ever manage climbing the corporate ladder due to being given every disadvantage. I’ve tried reading some philosophical literature, did some carpentry, and also some botched engineering jobs but they don’t really go anywhere. Group work is so awkward too. Typically everyone has some kind of niche and tries to create small talk, which usually works in regard to connecting classmates, but my mind is so incredibly slow at processing things I’m usually sitting there in silence, unable to provide anything relevant.

 

[Qech__]

for one assignment I asked a professor a question, and a few months later he went "Yeah, I found your post in my spam folder

why didn't you follow up or send multiple emails? office hours?

 

[St3v3Cel]

Bad genes come in a package. It's brutal. You need to find a way to feel proud of the things you can do, even if they are limited.

 

[HateEverythingGood]

why didn't you follow up or send multiple emails? office hours?

As I said, this happened during COVID so I couldn't actually meet him in person to discuss this issue. I guess it's on me for not being more persistent, though.

 

[andrej]

I think you are neurodivergent in real life a lot more than on the internet and same applies to me

 

[andrej]

It is not courage but fear that compels me to continue with this meaningless and painful existence

What happened to you dude? I thought you roped but Im glad you are still here

 

[AutismHaver]

they only call u an idiot cuz ure so much smarter than them they cant understand u

 

[soft]

I just endure the suffering. When it gets really bad, I post on this forum.

I wrote a 5 paragraph essay, but after giving it a good read I thought it was a little cringe inducing.

I do that too - write a long post, but don't click the "Post reply" button. It just stays as a draft.
Sometimes I do come back to it and post though, knowing full well how cringy it is. It's like exchanging hopelessness and apathy for cringe or something, I don't know

 

[UriBelmont]

Your supposed lack of intelligence means you are absolutely ready for Supreme Knowledge. Learn by knowing you know nothing. And relearn your Idea of True Nothingness. Therefore, True Vacuums can create The Multiverse.

 

[sultryloser]

I don't cope well with it. I do cope by thinking that I will outsmart my IQ.

Face was getting at this years ago. If you don't have good looks or connections or high IQ enough to become a pilot, there isn't much for men to do other than keep kicking that can until your heart gives out.

There is no coping mechanism. Everyday I stare at the ceiling, noting that I am not only completely hideous, but a four-time college failure. Meanwhile everyone else I knew has lucrative jobs and university degrees. Nothing will change the fact I am a hideous retard.

Wow. Did you stay motivated at college, or was this before you were blackpilled? I've lost all motivation to try do anything too hard with my life, because there is no happy family at the end of it.

 

[HateEverythingGood]

Wow. Did you stay motivated at college, or was this before you were blackpilled? I've lost all motivation to try do anything too hard with my life, because there is no happy family at the end of it.

I was initially motivated but as time went on, the blackpill became the only reasonable explanation for why my life was the way it was. I will never step foot in college again.

 

[yeetbender_]

I don't know.

 

[PrematureFailure]

they only call u an idiot cuz ure so much smarter than them they cant understand u

 

[Lunaticcurrycel]

Any tips from dumbcels on how to cope with being both an idiot and an incel? I wrote a 5 paragraph essay, but after giving it a good read I thought it was a little cringe inducing. DM for the full text if you’d like. To give some background, co-workers, barbers, and just people in general talk down to me or inadvertently call me an idiot; my family treats me this way too. It’s very crushing to not only be a failure in terms of looks, but also in every other aspect as well. I would probably attribute this to being born very underweight and also that I have a relatively small head in proportion to my body, but I’m a little uncertain tbh. I’d appreciate if you could tell me how to deal with being incompetent in nearly every aspect of life. Thanks.

Grow a pair of balls and tell them to go fuck themselves. Never allow disrespect. People treat you as you allow them to treat yourself. Even if you are weak they are not simply going to beat you for speaking up for yourself