Serious How Do Autistic Incels Here Mask As NT?

[universallyabhorred]

I struggle to mask and even paint on a polite or friendly face, most people would describe me as cold, detached or introverted. I don't understand how NT's are able to feign warmth and kindness all the time. It's difficult for me to understand what NT's find charming, and how NT's respond to different situations. I know there are many different types of responses and there's a hierarchy with some of them being better than others, this includes non-verbal communication as well and situational awareness. What are some tips and ideally shortcuts, that will help me seem more NT?

 

[AlexanderTheGreat11]

i don't know tbh , hopefully you get an answer

 

[San Salvador]

I struggle to mask and even paint on a polite or friendly face, most people would describe me as cold, detached or introverted. I don't understand how NT's are able to feign warmth and kindness all the time. It's difficult for me to understand what NT's find charming, and how NT's respond to different situations. I know there are many different types of responses and there's a hierarchy with some of them being better than others, this includes non-verbal communication as well and situational awareness. What are some tips and ideally shortcuts, that will help me seem more NT?

Impossible to mask if you're actually diagnosed. It's over.

 

[universallyabhorred]

Impossible to mask if you're actually diagnosed. It's over.

cope many higher functioning autistics do it.

 

[San Salvador]

cope many higher functioning autistics do it.

For example? Sexhavers who got an Aspergers diagnosis in their 20s don't count lmao

 

[VirginAutistManlet]

Depends.

Low energy levels = impossible to mask

High energy levels = can mask but very awful at it, its barely a mask, and any interruptions or sudden changes and what little mask I have fades away

 

[universallyabhorred]

For example? Sexhavers who got an Aspergers diagnosis in their 20s don't count lmao

Some kids or teenagers who were diagnosed with autism, eventually learned how to socialize neurotypically.

 

[Deleted member 23656]

You don't. Thats why everyone hates me

 

[universallyabhorred]

Depends.

Low energy levels = impossible to mask

High energy levels = can mask but very awful at it, its barely a mask

How do you mask?

For me the persistent anxiety I feel around other people prevents me from interacting with them outside of basic scripting and leaves me too afraid to try new modes of expression. Plus my flat affect, which makes me appear mostly emotionally dead, makes it difficult for me to display appropriate emotion in a situation.

 

[Transcended Trucel]

u need practice. study top 40 songs for that month. read some sports bullshit, doesn't need be right, just enough to bullshit. and then practice on discord or shitty video game lobbies.

 

[happiless]

I can do it somewhat, excluding body language, by understanding the normies intent and reacting to its tones of voices and facial expressions.
Normie says something --> observe face and tone of voice --> determine intent --> react

Tones of voices are easier to process and the easiest reactions are mirroring (mimicking facial expressions and tones of voice)

• Says something --> excited tone of voice --> normie is excited --> mirror excited tone
• Talks about event --> annoyed tone which is varying a lot --> normie was annoyed/stressed by it --> react with "wow", "that must've been annoying" etc. while sounding like you care

As a result of my skills, I have 0 friends. Maybe I could have some low status friends if I made an effort, but being a human chatbot is tiresome

 

[Atavistic Autist]

I come close by drinking alcohol, because it lowers anxiety and normies also excuse the fact that you seem awkward, attributing it to your intoxication.

 

[San Salvador]

Some kids or teenagers who were diagnosed with autism, eventually learned how to socialize neurotypically.

How do you mask?

For me the persistent anxiety I feel around other people prevents me from interacting with people outside of basic scripting and leaves me too afraid to try new modes of expression. Plus my flat affect, which makes me appear mostly emotionally dead, makes it difficult for me to display appropriate emotion in a situation.

Those kids were holes or 6+ boys. If you genuinely need some advice, gymmaxx or fightmaxx because
CONFIDENCE IS LITERALLY YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ASSESMENT OF YOUR FIGHTING SUCCESS
If you can lift heavy shit or wreck most men in any room you're in (or at least if you've convinced yourself) you will automatically be lower inhib. Weightlifting thrice a week is enough in my case. Btw, remember that 99% of normie men are absolute pussies who avoid confrontation and will only mock you when they're in a safety of a clique.

 

[Atavistic Autist]

Those kids were holes or 6+ boys. If you genuinely need some advice, gymmaxx or fightmaxx because
CONFIDENCE IS LITERALLY YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ASSESMENT OF YOUR FIGHTING SUCCESS
If you can lift heavy shit or wreck most men in any room you're in (or at least if you've convinced yourself) you will automatically be lower inhib. Weightlifting thrice a week is enough in my case. Btw, remember that 99% of normie men are absolute pussies who avoid confrontation and will only mock you when they're in a safety of a clique.

That or you can deathwishmaxx, and consciously not care about the high potential of you getting rekt.

 

[San Salvador]

That or you can deathwishmaxx, and consciously not care about the high potential of you getting rekt.

Now we're talking

 

[universallyabhorred]

Bro, there's no point in normiemaxxing. Just be yourself and stay here.

It's an absolute necessity to get jobs, friends, and have positive real life interactions. I'd prefer not being treated like shit every-time I have to deal with NT's.

 

[Angry_runt]

Those kids were holes or 6+ boys. If you genuinely need some advice, gymmaxx or fightmaxx because
CONFIDENCE IS LITERALLY YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ASSESMENT OF YOUR FIGHTING SUCCESS
If you can lift heavy shit or wreck most men in any room you're in (or at least if you've convinced yourself) you will automatically be lower inhib. Weightlifting thrice a week is enough in my case.

I've been gymcelling and martialartsmaxxing for more than 15 years and I'm high inhib as fuck. Wat do?

 

[TheIncelStaresBack]

the only way you can mask it is by observing, applying, fucking up (inevitable) and learning from your fuck ups, then repeat

you'll never be NT and the best this process affords you is the ability to avoid detection for longer periods, but you'll always be found out eventually. the thing is, if you need to normiemaxx for an interview, this will get you into the door.

 

[Joker]

Honestly I don't know.
It's hard to hide the autism most of the time. Even when you think you're doing it well, you inevitably get hit with the "why are you so quiet" "why do you look so sad" and "are you okay? you're not gonna kill yourself are you?" questions.
Realistically you can't. Normies have a strange ability for sniffing out non-NTs.

 

[San Salvador]

I've been gymcelling and martialartsmaxxing for more than 15 years and I'm high inhib as fuck. Wat do?

You can wreck normies to the shadow realm and back, which gives you the liberty to do (mostly) whatever you want.

 

[universallyabhorred]

Those things are not for us man.

You have these things because you are NT while I have nothing

 

[Dregster]

I struggle to mask and even paint on a polite or friendly face, most people would describe me as cold, detached or introverted. I don't understand how NT's are able to feign warmth and kindness all the time. It's difficult for me to understand what NT's find charming, and how NT's respond to different situations. I know there are many different types of responses and there's a hierarchy with some of them being better than others, this includes non-verbal communication as well and situational awareness. What are some tips and ideally shortcuts, that will help me seem more NT?

I use to struggle like this for the longest time. At some point I got tired of being awkward and forced myself to adapt, examine others and see how they respond in certain situations. I looked for any groups where a general conversation was being had and I just listened and analyzed facial gestures and reactions.

The most I struggle with now is initially being cold and detached but I always piggyback off, " i get more comfortable with time".

 

[universallyabhorred]

I just listened and analyzed facial gestures and reactions.

I have a poor visual memory unfortunately and sometimes have trouble following group conversations, what type of things have you noticed?

 

[universallyabhorred]

I have some incel friends online with whom I voice chat every now and then

Mogs me. I'm too high inhib and autistic to even vc.

 

[Incellectual]

I just get drunk/high and blame my shit socializing skills on being inebriated. It doesn't work all the time since you can't always be drunk or high but it kind of helps when socializing with my brothers normie friends. I don't pass as NT ever though, I always come off as "off" and "weird".

 

[VirginAutistManlet]

How do you mask?

For me the persistent anxiety I feel around other people prevents me from interacting with them outside of basic scripting and leaves me too afraid to try new modes of expression. Plus my flat affect, which makes me appear mostly emotionally dead, makes it difficult for me to display appropriate emotion in a situation.

What you explained is what I mean by I can barely mask.

 

[Deleted member 20811]

I don't bother masking it.

Normie faggots are not entitled to being around a social, outgoing, or otherwise adjusted NT person.

I'm gonna keep my angry, cold, uninviting face and there's nothing they can do about it. Fuck them.

 

[Edmund_Kemper]

I don't bother masking it.

Normie faggots are not entitled to being around a social, outgoing, or otherwise adjusted NT person.

I'm gonna keep my angry, cold, uninviting face and there's nothing they can do about it. Fuck them.

based

 

[LostInTheStatic]

I am aspie, (technically in the autism spectrum so it counts) it is not really that hard when you are interacting through text, as you don't have to face the other person unlike real life, however, when it comes to face to face conversations, I am very concious of all my body's movement, breathing, blinking, etc. I try to be perfect but fail horribly.

 

[ThePlagueDoctor]

I watch a lot of tv and try to emulate how some of the ”normal” characters behave. Not only that but there are books that teach you how to behave in a social setting, which really wont help your inceldom but might help you mask your non NTness a bit

 

[zangano1]

i don't know

 

[ihaveno1]

Ive tried and failed miserably, nts will always sense ur not one of them after a while being around them

 

[tanfeo]

I've always assumed that I wasn't autistic, but lately it seems I have a mild form of it.
Anyway, I don't mask at all.
At my age you just don't give a fuck. Luckily, I'm so lonely that social interactions are at a minimum.
So it doesn't really affect me.
Don't mask, be yourself. Don't try to apologize for something that you're not guilty of.

 

[JustinSane]

u need practice. study top 40 songs for that month. read some sports bullshit, doesn't need be right, just enough to bullshit. and then practice on discord or shitty video game lobbies.

ugh, that's torture.

 

[Transcended Trucel]

ugh, that's torture.

It is. I did it for a month or two and it helped greatly for getting office job and thankfully now I work remotely. No longer having to bullshit as much

 

[FUCKITALLREEE]

I find that smiling and appearing happy/joyfuel can save you for a little while for small interactions, until they get to know you.A lot of NT also put on a front were they appear different from what they really feel to make social interaction easier.

 

[ordinaryotaku]

I can barely do it tbh.

 

[Deleted member 22907]

i don't know