Discussion How did most of your friendships (or acquaintanceships) end?

[Clockwork]

The other day, I was thinking about how most of my friendships and acquaintanceships ended. I realized that in most cases, the other person just stopped replying and I gave up. I was wondering what your experiences are.

Here's some of my stories. Before you bash me for befriending foids, I'd like to preface this by saying that in my course of studies, about three quarters of the students are foids, and hanging out with foids isn't always as enviable as it seems.

#1: I study three hours away from home, so it was surprising when one of my classmates turned out to be from the neighboring town back home. She's a year older than me, and she immediately wanted to bond over the fact that we are from the same area. I found that a weird factor to bond with someone, but I didn't mind being friends with her. We met a few times outside of college to have a chat at a café, but it was incredibly hard to meet up with her because she was a workaholic and spent every minute that she didn't study meeting up with her favorite people (I wasn't one of them). To even meet up with her at a café, I always had to ask weeks in advance, and she only ever had an hour or two to spare. Fast forward when she graduated, she got a teaching position in another city, and when I asked her how it went, she eventually stopped responding. And before someone tells me that I creeped her out and she ghosted me for that, no, that's not it. I met her years later in my college city, and she struck up a chat immediately. She genuinely seemed happy to see me and even invited me to an event. I was weirded out due to the long time of no contact and politely declined. I lied to her that I was in a hurry and just left. I honestly can't wrap my head around how you can just go no contact with someone and still act happy when you casually meet them years later.

 

[FEMCELS FANTASY]

The other person turned on me because humans are pieces of shit on average and dangerous retards best to be avoided.

People in modernity will only use you as a stepping stool for their own advancement unless you avoid them entirely.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

The one friend I had slowly drifted away from me with the passage of time.

 

[Todd Thundercock]

ugly

 

[Clockwork]

#2: This person was eight years older than me, but because our department is very small, we inevitably met and became friends. She's a good-looking lady, but she has quite an awkward personality, which made it easy for us to bond, I guess. Despite that, she was already in a long-term relationship with her now husband when we met. I loved hanging out with her, and I even found her genuinely attractive, although I doubt she ever saw me like that. She was one of my closest friends at the time, and I loved hanging out with her, but when she moved away and became a mother, she started to reply to me less and less. I'm still waiting for a reply on a message I sent in April, and I wonder if I should just deleted and block her.

#3: Okay, this bitch was crazy, and I should have stayed away from her as far as I could. It's always easy to say that in retrospect. She was a half-European, half-Asian chick, and she was mentally ill with absolutely no filter. I kid you not, when I once introduced her to some of my acquaintances on campus, she told them right away about her parents' divorce, how her dad is schizophrenic, and how she has issues herself. I guess part of the reason why I liked hanging out with her is that she basically adopted me, being a total extrovert. She didn't look bad, but she had short hair, which kills my attraction to a foid in 99% of cases. Her weird quirks, probably due to her mental illness, included that she constantly talked about herself, often interrupted people, constantly worried about each and everything she said, always assumed the worst would happen, and constantly talked bad about people if she didn't get the reaction she wanted... Long story short, in an untypical move for me, I eventually ended the friendship via text. It made it easier that she had moved to another city. I told her that I can't deal with all her bullshit anymore. I'm sure she talked shit about me to everyone she knew, but I didn't care.

 

[Aventador]

We fell apart, there was less and less things to talk about. Therr was no big moment where we broke up. It was just a mutual understanding that we don't have much common ground to talk about.

 

[Ryo_Hazuki]

In most cases there was no "falling out" event, we just drifted apart. Like I'd be in a friend group and one guy left for one reason or another and we all just stopped hanging out after that. Or multiple people in the group were just too busy with something (school or work) so we started hanging out less and less and eventually not at all. I also moved long distances multiple times, so that's a factor as well.

I still have some friends from back in the day that I keep in touch with every now and then. Like one of my old friends from many years ago calls me up randomly like once a year when he's drunk and feeling nostalgic just to reminisce about the same stuff from like 20 years ago now.

Kinda depressing thinking about the friends I had from way back in the day that I completely lost touch with many years ago though. Ah well, such is life.

 

[Clockwork]

Ah well, such is life.

I described my experiences in a Discord community of a small Twitch streamer that I mod for, and this married Asian guy from NYC told me that people are superficial creatures and that people are at different stages of their life and move on.

I accepted that "moving on" is normal behavior for normies and Chads, but I find it psychopathic, to be honest. Why would you burn all bridges to your past, just because your location, your occupation, or your relationship status changed?

I have been very awkward in school, but I tried my best to be a decent person in university, almost like a LTN, and I think if the people I met during that time had made an effort to stay in touch with me, we would still be friends. I have a train ticket for all of Germany through my university, so I could even go to their places and sleep over.

The thought that some of them might think about me, enjoying life to the fullest while thinking what a time university was, whereas I am stuck here and feel sad and angry that those people neglected me makes my blood boil.

 

[Dead End]

Almost all of my friends disappeared after I left primary school and again with high school. I never really had friends outside of school, and neither I or my friends were strongly motivated to sustain contact after leaving.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

People stop caring about you (if they even did in the first place) when you stop sending the first message.

 

[ItsOverMan]

The other day, I was thinking about how most of my friendships and acquaintanceships ended. I realized that in most cases, the other person just stopped replying and I gave up. I was wondering what your experiences are.

Here's some of my stories. Before you bash me for befriending females, I'd like to preface this by saying that in my course of studies, about three quarters of the students are females, and hanging out with females isn't always as enviable as it seems.

#1: I study three hours away from home, so it was surprising when one of my classmates turned out to be from the neighboring town back home. She's a year older than me, and she immediately wanted to bond over the fact that we are from the same area. I found that a weird factor to bond with someone, but I didn't mind being friends with her. We met a few times outside of college to have a chat at a café, but it was incredibly hard to meet up with her because she was a workaholic and spent every minute that she didn't study meeting up with her favorite people (I wasn't one of them). To even meet up with her at a café, I always had to ask weeks in advance, and she only ever had an hour or two to spare. Fast forward when she graduated, she got a teaching position in another city, and when I asked her how it went, she eventually stopped responding. And before someone tells me that I creeped her out and she ghosted me for that, no, that's not it. I met her years later in my college city, and she struck up a chat immediately. She genuinely seemed happy to see me and even invited me to an event. I was weirded out due to the long time of no contact and politely declined. I lied to her that I was in a hurry and just left. I honestly can't wrap my head around how you can just go no contact with someone and still act happy when you casually meet them years later.

I think in most cases they just moved away or went to another school or went off to college on another side of the country and I never heard from them again. That's what always seems to happen with "friends," they move away or leave and that's that. I don't know if I've ever had a real friend, or were they all just acquaintances? A few of them seemed to almost be friendship but were short-term, only lasting a year or two. I haven't had any "friends" since high school though...to me it was much harder to make them after high school.

 

[Suicide Sheep]

I (maybe them too) just don't have the time and energy to deal with them anymore. But we still talk every now and then and are on great terms.

 

[superpsycho]

i never had a friend.

 

[oldcel]

I voted wrong by accident. All my friendships relay on me starting convo or we dont have a relationship

 

[ItsOverMan]

I accepted that "moving on" is normal behavior for normies and Chads, but I find it psychopathic, to be honest. Why would you burn all bridges to your past, just because your location, your occupation, or your relationship status changed?

I think with normies and Chads they make friends easily and they're always meeting and talking to new people, so they can burn bridges with old undesirable or "boring" friends if they want to. They'll just make new ones, no big deal.

 

[Hatred]

Just drifted apart, also I became an anti-social recluse over the past few years and stopped talking to human beings entirely so I'm 50% to blame.

 

[LOLI BREEDING]

nothing. no more contact

 

[Manlet]

They slowly faded with time after highschool,wasn't really either party more than the other.

 

[Taboo Buster]

As Arnold J. Rimmer once wisely said, "Friends are only friends as long as it suits them.
I don't know if the kind of true-blue friendship that Hollywood often lauds actually exists.
The friends I've had were the sort of people who troubled me for favors a lot. And I granted them.

See, I always compared having friends to having a bank account. It's an investment. You put more into it than you take out of it, or else you'll end up with a zero or negative balance. I figured that because I was always helping them out, once in a blue moon, they'd have no objection to helping me. Well, it rarely worked that way. Most people, I've noticed, have a what-have-you-done-for-me-lately? attitude. They don't care how many times you came through for them in the past, now that YOU are the one asking, that's different. Now you are inconveniencing THEM. So they find it easier to say no with a big grin on their faces because, hey, just because you ask, they are not obliged to say yes, right? And they, no doubt, think that because you were there for them so many times in the past without asking anything in return, that'll just continue, no matter what.

Who needs friends like this?

Near as I can figure, they must believe that as long as they are screwing others over, then no one is screwing them over.
That's fucked up.